Drinking in the morning - everyone does it, right?

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Even when they have young kids?
Totally normal yes?

Well he's just told me to ask around. Don't fancy asking my friends so here we are
I'm being told this is totally normal and everyone does it, so why shouldn't he.

No. I love a drink but not in the day. Don’t even enjoy drinking at lunchtime as it just wipes out the whole afternoon.

Cannot understand the airport drinking thing either. Why would you want to drink before a flight? Why go to some horrible overpriced bar in airport lounge? Then spend whole flight climbing over people to get to the loo and end up even more dehydrated than you do anyway?

Christmas day, and occasionally at the airport.

But no, most people don't drink in the morning. And the ones that do are called alcoholics.

Champagne when you are getting your wedding dress on and Christmas day are the only two days I can think of when drinking before the sun is over the yard arm is appropriate.

The fact that he’s hiding and lying would tell himself that he knows it’s not normal.

Why are you even asking on here - it’s not normal.

Suggest he reads/listens to a book called “Alcohol Explained”.

No, Christmas morning perhaps as others have said. Some people at an airport. A few before lunch at cricket (see the crowd shots in the highlights programmes). Maybe on your birthday.

Otherwise not normal.

I went on holiday with a friend years ago and she was an alcoholic. She drank alcohol for breakfast. She has since successfully given up alcohol but it has taken five and a half years to get there. I love her to bits and am so glad she has kicked it out of her life finally.

@StephenBelafonte

Especially not if you've got young kids. How would you get them to hospital if needed?

That could happen any time day or night

No

Only once when I was stressed at work. It was Kahlua.

Since he's told you to ask around, I'll add another, no, totally not normal.

If he thinks it's normal he needs to go to the GP and get a different set of friends, I guess. He needs to stop gaslighting you, and lying to you and himself.

It isn't normal and you know it.

It was normal for my late DH. Note the 'late'. He was 58 and died alone in a little flat just before the divorce came through.

I'm sorry this is happening to you, but it sounds as if you know what you need to do. Please seek out some support for yourself. Groups like Al-Anon are running online.

Do they always go to MIL on Sunday?

No. The only person I know of who did this is dead and the last two decades of her life were a living hell for her DH and DC.

@Ohwhatevu

Do they always go to MIL on Sunday?

Please don’t suggest that makes it ok 😂

I’m guessing it’ll go anger, denial, tears, promises to get help and then nothing will change ....

Good luck OP

My alcoholic XH would say it was normal. The same man who lost jobs, homes, wives and a relationship with his only child due to his totally 'normal' drinking.

Champagne on Christmas Day / your wedding day, or a Bloody Mary brunch once in a blue moon, fair enough. I don't even like drinking at the airport tbh.

It is not normal. We do it on Christmas Day and occasionally have a late morning drink on a Sunday (e.g a G&T at 11.45) if we are having people over for Sunday lunch. Otherwise, never before the evening.

A free glass of champagne with a smoked salmon breakfast in the BA Executive Lounge on your way to a luxury holiday for a special birthday? Absolutely yes. A pint of Stella before taking out the bins? No.

sorry to hear this op maybe its a good thing you caught him can now move on or whatever you want to do

i think my dh drinks alot but he doesnt seem to do it in the mornings nor hide what hes doing

I divorced mine.

It's hard. But so, so very worth it when you're free of all this.

It's perfectly normal for people with full-blown alcoholism since they wake up experiencing withdrawal symptoms, which are quite unpleasant. For anyone else, no, it's not normal.

No, not normal unless you're a French workman having a kir mid morning and even that's rare now.

My Dad was alcohol dependent. They have a script too. I could write you a list of excuses and accusations I have heard from my father and a couple of BF’s throughout my life and I’m sure you would recognise them all. Of course he will normalise it and say everyone does it. Because it’s normal to him!. He makes sure he surrounds himself with people who support his drinking. Of course he will search his memories for that one incident that you did it In order to project his weakness on to you. It’s all classic behaviour. He has a weakness and his priority will always be Alcohol before you and the children. I watched my mother waste her life begging and pleading and crying and raging at the broken promises. Searching cupboards and hidey holes for stashes of booze. He died of Alcoholic liver disease 20 years ago. My Mum has spent that time trying to adjust to normal life. Her entire life evolved around him and trying to manage his drinking. She had lost herself in the process. There is no good outcome with Alcohol dependency. Please get out now before you become my Mum.

No, never had a drink in the morning. DH used to drink quite regularly when we were first together and even he didn't drink before around 5pm. It's not really possible if you've got a job, kids, need to drive etc.

Absolutely not - ESPECIALLY with kids around.

Times I've drunk in the morning, in my life:
-At music festivals

• On a hen do
• At 2 day teenage houseparties
• Glass of Prosecco with brunch at a hotel or on special celebration
• Glass of champagne getting ready on my wedding day
• Sherry or Buck's Fizz on xmas morning

Sounds like he has a problem that needs addressing sooner rather than later