AHEM, [BLUSH] RECEIVING ORAL SEX..... AM I A TOTAL FREAK?

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Right, dh and i have always had a good sex life. I love giving him blow jobs and indulging in a little mutual masturbation.
However, I really don't like receiving oral sex. it makes me uncomfortable and self conscious. I dont like losing control (although I do orgasm through masturbation and "normal" sex) when I'm drunk and we try it, i enjoy it, but can't relax when sober.

Am I a freak? There has to be someone else out there who feels like this.

Am a regular mner BTW, but namechanged

Ah bollocks, I'm gutted!

I couldn't be with a man who wouldn't give it.

Nope.

Instant grounds for dumping.

Man, you're tough! Now if we're talking back scratching on the other hand. If he was no good at that... over!

I don't like men who are inhibited in the bed, Tre.

I once dated a man who only wanted 69.

I hate that shit! I can't concentrate and my BJ technique goes to shit like that.

Had to dump him when he wouldn't compromise.

I wouldn't stay with someone who wanted to get it but wouldn't give it. I don't do double standards.

God 69's are shit. I like to enjoy getting it or enjoy giving it, trying to do both is just bloody annoying.

have to say I think it is important to receive as well as give...

but this discussion has just put the lyrics of this song in my head

Its such an overrated position. Strictly for show. You can't get a good angle, you crick your neck and I hate the idea of him looking up my bumhole.

Fair play to you for knowing what you want.

I should've been a bit more like that. I used to want men to know instinctively what I wanted then get pissed off when they cocked it up, and think "I shouldn't have to tell them." A bit passive aggresive.

These days i tell it more like it is. Much healthier to have your attitude, expat.

Another vote for 69 is pointless.

I am really lanky and it just seems like legs and arms all over the place and suffocation. I just can't be arsed. Better to do it separately so can concentrate and enjoy both giving and recieving.

I do remember David Baddiel saying he didn't like bj's

getting oral is a gift. .

relax enjoy

tell him you never see the point no one was ever any good. .

but you read once that real men love giving it lol

relax enjoy

How sad that cunnilingus appreciators are in the minority, but anyway life goes on.

Agree with the consensus on the 69 - too distracting for words Had to laugh at "shame about the view" comment

69s are no good at all i like to have a drinky poo before receiving oral just because i lose my shyness men seem to love doing it for some reason

Do you think they love it cos it is a feat so to speak?

no idea i never request it but dh just goes for it quite often says he really enjoys it whhhhyyyyy?i really dont get the fascination not complaining though

I like it but do not like to return the favour, unless I have had a few bevvies,
which does not appear to pose a problem for Dh.
And agree, 69's are pants.

same here have to be very tipsy to do that for him while he does it sober?

I think men like it because it is the same as giving a bj - sense of power and the feeling that you turn someone else on so much is a turn on in itself.

But I could be wrong!

I'm with you there ladyoftheflowers.

Quite surprised how many name changes there are on this thread. Sorts the wheat from the chuff

LOL @ 'wheat from chuff'

why, thank you

lol wheat from chuff!although its probablyjust that we have no shame

Couldn't be bothered to name change for oral sex thread.

Probably would though if coming out in favour of Gregg's sausage rolls or fruit shoots though

Ha ha, read it as "probably would if coming out....." (you know how it cuts off some of the message when you read "threads I'm on")

LOL

And to find out the sentence ended in Gregg's sausage rolls!

Good old mumsnet!

whats wrong with fruit shoots?are they bad dressed as good?