AHEM, [BLUSH] RECEIVING ORAL SEX..... AM I A TOTAL FREAK?

[sparemyblushessochangedmyname]

Right, dh and i have always had a good sex life. I love giving him blow jobs and indulging in a little mutual masturbation.
However, I really don't like receiving oral sex. it makes me uncomfortable and self conscious. I dont like losing control (although I do orgasm through masturbation and "normal" sex) when I'm drunk and we try it, i enjoy it, but can't relax when sober.

Am I a freak? There has to be someone else out there who feels like this.

Am a regular mner BTW, but namechanged

but pubic hair in it's natural state is soft and nice. and men should be hairy. hate that smooth hairless look. like them to look ..manly.

psml awen I meant shaven FACE! Oh god, do i have to spell it out? Surely not purrrrleeeeeeessssseeee

Vibrating eggs - or vibrating anything, really - swizzled around your lulu make a VERY GOOD CONTRAST when alternated with your loved-one's face. Also, if you're "wearing" your egg internally, and he's tootling around face-down in your "marmoset", well - it's not a bad thing. let's put it like that. Anne Summers have them.

I enjoy it, but find it hard to relax, and DH is hopeless. He also has v sharp finger nails (OW!!) the last time we tried anything he got quite good, but hasn't been near me in months, and currently chooses to sleep downstairs (8 week old baby), so its just me, myself and I right now......

I love it when DP is all stubbly. Is great to have stubble rash (and not just on face hee hee

Oh dear, perhaps TMI. Oh, what the hell!

ladylush.. you were talking facial PMSL - i thought you meant the yard area. DP has a beard, hairy chest, tummy, back, legs arms and yard areas.. he used to trim down there which was nice and neat.. the bald bollox was a bit freaky when he tried it but i do think men should trim.. lol.

ROFLPMSL ladylush

but equally a bog standard vibrator would do the smae job lv?

sorry ladylush- i thought you were saying you didn't like men with pubes. that they had to be smooth for you to venture down there.

stubble can be unpleasant but a beard....mmmmmmmm.

Kitty - impossible to have tmi on a thread like this!

names changers.. you have to reveal yourself now We have been brave here.

lol at the beard changedmyname Yeesss, sort of see what you mean but I don't need any distraction when it's going on. Just his tongue and my bits thank you

You startin' summat Twig?

Nothing wrong with being nice & moist

have i missed something?

You obviously don't have to do anything that you don't like, but oral sex is fabulous! Can only think you arn't 'letting go' enough.

Each to her own I guess.

Two answers for you, CMNTSF...I used to have sex with Ds1's dad because I loved him and loved him being inside me. I didn't orgasm (He was very uncommitted to me so never felt sure of him) but I had a sort of emotional orgasm a few times - like, you feel yourself lifted up into a different plane - it felt like heaven - not like a normal orgasm at all, just, well, spiritual though I hate that word. I felt like I saw heaven those few times.
The rest of the time it was just feeling a combination of closeness, intimacy, 'ownership' of his pleasure, if you like...I didn't care if I came or not. Still don't care, much.

not that I am having any right now...

The feeling too tense thing, well it's a case of them concentrating on you but it isn't mutual, you are just 'being done to' rather than participating actively. I never was one of those women who liked being pampered though! Plus I like eye contact.

Oral sex is great, don't feel embarrassed or anything, and it is brilliant. It is so intimate. However I prefer giving to receiving for some reason - I think it's the feeling of power

However I really dislike 69 - to me it's pointless, as I can't concentrate either on what I am feeling or the bj I am giving, it all gets muddled (obviously not a multi-tasker!) DP loves it though, bless him.

But I still much much prefer penetrative sex to anything else.

It's possible to enjoy sex without having an orgasm. I mean, I like getting a backrub, but never orgasm from that ... but I still enjoy the backrub!

Franny & Zoey I'm so glad someone else posted that they stopped enjoying it after birth. I am exactly the same, used to really enjoy it but now I think I have only come that way about 3 times since our DS was born 18 months ago, and he was a C-section so I haven't even got the excuse of natural childbirth. I also hate having my breasts touched, just feels yuck and wrong.

I feel sorry for my poor old DH he wants to give me pleasure but I have to be incredibly relaxed for it to have any effect other than gerrofff me.

I think I might enjoy it, if DH didn't go for it with quite so much gusto...

I have tried to ask him to be gentler but he seems to think the harder he goes at it, the harder I'll come... he also seems to have far too much saliverage going on - sorry if that's TMI!

Tbh, I have a few issues with extreme ticklishness down thar and it doesn't take much to set me off, so if it doesn't feel right first time, it ain't gonna happen!

I haven't read any posts since my last one (sorry, I'll try to later, not least coz they sound funny!), but alsoembarrassed, you seriously could be me! dh really goes for it, and I get more and more tickly and end up laughing quite often, out of ticklyness and embarrassment, and he's also very slobbery.

Eeeewwwwwwww!

Bless 'im for trying though

Well, I would LOVE it...
DH not that bothered though
Mind you, he's not that bothered about sex full stop atm. Says he's too tired. Been like that for 2 years

OP - I know exactly what you mean....I never quite know what to do with myself while he's at it.

I like shagging though.

I've got to say I'm amazed at people who say they don't like it but go along with it anyway. Why? Why?

Sex is supposed to be fun for both parties, if one bit of it isn't, then don't do it. There isn't a rule saying "Thou must allow thy husband/partner to give you oral sex".

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