AHEM, [BLUSH] RECEIVING ORAL SEX..... AM I A TOTAL FREAK?

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Right, dh and i have always had a good sex life. I love giving him blow jobs and indulging in a little mutual masturbation.
However, I really don't like receiving oral sex. it makes me uncomfortable and self conscious. I dont like losing control (although I do orgasm through masturbation and "normal" sex) when I'm drunk and we try it, i enjoy it, but can't relax when sober.

Am I a freak? There has to be someone else out there who feels like this.

Am a regular mner BTW, but namechanged

Similar subject, I feel a bit strange that I don't like having my breasts and nipples played with for too long, a little while is great but then I get a 'gerrof' feeling and get a bit annoyed

One of DP's favourite things is having his nipples played with etc - we are complete opposites on that one.

kittylouise: pmsl at your comment on 69. Sooooo true. Brain simply unable to cope with multi-tasking and it all gets too hectic.

cestlavie - there was a funny post re 69's on a thread a couple of months ago that made me laugh - something along the lines of 'the blow job is crap and I can't enjoy the lick' - sums my feelings up precisely!!

see, only tried 69 once, and was just v uncomfortable. ended up worrying that i'd done it wrong.

i dont play with myself either. i prefer it when dh is doing it tbh, and i LOVE sex with dh. rough, gentle, missionary, doggy style. i dont have to come every time (we made a deal that i will never fake, so he understands that i enjoy it whether i wail like a banshee or not) but i do come a lot. just cant stand having my mackeral licked

I don't think everyone can enjoy oral sex (or at least not with every partner). Some acts work better or worse for different people. Sometimes, like in the OPs case, this is because they can't relax and enjoy themselves. Sometimes this is because the act just doesn't do it for them.

It's not obligatory to enjoy (or do!) any particular sex act (or any at all).

I agree with NQC - as has been proven on this site there are those that enjoy bum love and those that wouldn't touch it with the proverbial. Why is Oral sex any different??

I think 69 would be ok if it wasn't for the view

I don't care for it either and I don't care if people think I'm a freak, wtf is it to do with them anyway?

I didn't say I didn't like it, I just said I felt differently about it since giving birth

My only problem is when you've come and they carry on ragardless. it can get uncomfortable.
(Obv not mastered the art of multiple orgasms )

ah, the art of multiple orgasm's now that would be an interesting thread

fmf, you're fmf again! When did that happen?

Receiving oral sex seems very greedy to me. Like you should at least be doing something to help. Like dusting or balancing the cheque book.

Yours,

OnlyEverHad1OrgasmAnyway

i kind of understand when people-correction-women say " i don't need an orgasm to enjoy sex"-yes it's intimate, yes it's pleasurable, but so is massage and conversation and lots of other thngs.

how many men would have sex for the closeness if orgasm wasn't going to be part of the deal?

as for people who don't orgasm-why not?

why not explore your body on own so you know what feels good? why not show your man what feels good? why not do it yourself so he can see?

I've had loads of orgasms too but never through oral sex.. I'm way too tickly down there and I can't relax.

Why is there such a big hoo haa about oral se? I'd rather have main course thank you very much.

Considering there's quite a high proportion of women on here who don't care for recieving, I wonder if there are many men who don't like blow jobs?

I don't like oral sex either. it just feels all wet and cold and really does nothing for me.
I can however orgasm through penetrative sex alone, so maybe I am just a bit weird down there?

as for giving, well, I don't mind it but it isn't my fave and I have a dodgy jaw and once my mouth got stuck wide open when I gave someone a bj and since then i've been really scared about doing it. poor dp

I think we can safely say no there aren't Turquoise

don't get how it can be wet and cold? wet and hot maybe??

seems bizzarre to me that people don't like it and tend to think maybe it hasn't been done right

Receiving oral sex is the watching paint dry of sex for me. Don't often come thru penetration but I LOVE it. Kissing doesn't make you come but we still do that...

To be honest I think I may be mostly man. I hate all that feathery stroky shit and prefer it quick and rough.

Is it just me or just occasionally does anyone else wish that while keeping their life partners they could just have the odd bit of no strings attached sex?

Well everyone's different aren't they. People like different stuff - doesn't make you a freak.

Personally I like getting and giving oral ( that won't surprise anyone ).

Agree Trebuchet, I'm not into the lovey dovey sex, prefer it rough. Often fantasise about no strings sex.

Sorry fingerwoman but am I allowed to pmsl at "once my mouth got stuck wide open"

I guess there are women who don't like receiving it, same as there are women who don't like giving it.

But I'm not one of those .

It's my least favourite thing, would rather give it than have it, by far!

I love giving it its my fave thing. Sad but sometimes I prefer that to having sex.

Now that I am a sensible (haha) mum I only ever have sex in bedrooms. If anyone else says they are all adventurous even now they have kids I will be tres jealous.....

Norma zips her mouth shut