AHEM, [BLUSH] RECEIVING ORAL SEX..... AM I A TOTAL FREAK?

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Right, dh and i have always had a good sex life. I love giving him blow jobs and indulging in a little mutual masturbation.
However, I really don't like receiving oral sex. it makes me uncomfortable and self conscious. I dont like losing control (although I do orgasm through masturbation and "normal" sex) when I'm drunk and we try it, i enjoy it, but can't relax when sober.

Am I a freak? There has to be someone else out there who feels like this.

Am a regular mner BTW, but namechanged

Just found this thread (loved it!) and felt compelled to add my 2 cents.
i like received oral sex, if it's good. otherwise I do feel 'obliged' to enjoy. I am also really interested in how people negotiate 'equality and fairness' in the bedroom. I mean, I am a feminist but can't truthfully say that I think my sex life reflects that. But other areas of my life do.

OMG, cant believe that fruitshoots/sausage rolls got a mention on this thread, only on mn!

well, im heartened by the amount of women who dont really enjoy it.

Everyone varies in terms of what they do and don't like. And while no one should do anything that they really loathe or that hurts (not in a good, exciting, SM way) them, it's not that unreasonable to occasionally do something sexually that you find a bit dull but which your OH adores - as long as you get your favourite thing in abundance as well. If you're having monogamous sex long term you do end up having to take turns a bit so that you both get the stuff you like.
And if you;re not monogamous, it's not unreasonable to like/dislike different things with different partners, because people's techniques vary as well.

I'm astounded by the amount of women who don't enjoy it.

Didn't used to get that or anything with exdh. Bf is brilliant at it and everything else so love it all
Oh and did have a couple of bfs before ex so I do know the difference

You're not unusual at all though spare, lots of women I know aren't bothered by it.

You ladies make me feel like a freak, after a 20 yr relationship, neither dh or I have ever made me orgasm. Thanks ladies.
Serial name changer who joined in 2004

wideload, your situation is not unusual, plenty of women are anorgasmic, they just don't seem to be posting on this thread. There have been lots of threads about anorgasmic women on here!

Have you tried a vibrator?

As far as I'm concerned as long as you're happy with a situation its not worth comparing yourself to other people. I've never skiied but I don't feel I'm missing much!

I personally wouldn't exactly compare skiing with an orgasm

yes, I have a very understanding dh we have tried everything vibrators, jells and even viagra (for me), it doesn't work for me either as a couple or on my own.

Is it a problem with arousal as well or just reaching orgasm? I'm asking because sometimes medication etc can cause libido problems. It also concerns me that loss of libido in women is not seen as much of a problem by medics whereas male sexual dysfunction is.

A friend of my mother told me when I was about 13 "Never give a man a blow job, because if you do that he'll never want anything else."

Have to say she had a point.

I do enjoy a good chomp, but DH is less than enthusiastic about a fish supper.

maybe he prefers toad in the hole?

Ha Ha ladylush you are funny. For the record, I love it, so does partner, but I can also understand people that don't.

That's my 2p's in the pot.

nope i hate it. i dont give and i dont recieve cos i just dont like it

Hi Shazza phew, thank feck someone else appreciates it

god this thread is amazing...

me and the wench love oral, mutual oral is sooooo sexy , I love giving her oral, is so sexy giving her pleasure to see her so happy ;o)

get in there!

Everyone to their own, but I don't like it either. The sensation is too intense & I don't like all the attention to be totally focused on me .... especially down there!

Give me a man nibbling my neck any day ....

I am more than happy to have all that attention down there

yerblert - does she like being called a wench? Kinky.

I LOVE it! hate giving it though! does anyone else?

my dp loves doing it but he rarely asks to because he knows im not crazy about it.
never have been really..it's ok to...erm get me going...but i get a bit bored after a while ...it's like come on lets get to the good stuff !
also it's taken ALOT for me to be able to relax while he's doing it and not feel self concious !
also...definately NO kissing after he's been down there...EW. maybe i'm just a prude though, anyone else feel like that?

also about 69...he loves it... but i find it very uncomfortable and embaressing....rather not do it at all! unless i was drunk lol!!

I used to love it.. but since having had DS i'm not comfortable with it any more!!
DP went down there the other night, and I jumped up in disgust. I think it just not being comfortable with my body anymore!

As for orgasm's I had never experianced one. Till I got with DP. Now i have one almost every time we do it!!!!