I don’t find this funny. Am I being uptight?

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I don’t like the way dh speaks to me - supposedly in a joking way - some of the time and relating to sex.
So for example he says things like ‘get your knickers off, I want to knock the back out of you.’
And variations on ‘if you walk around looking like that you’ll get it whether you want it or not,’ if I’m walking around in my short pyjamas for example. I don’t like it. I feel generally overall he doesn’t have a great attitude to women - calls them ‘splitarses’ and this is kind of symptomatic of it. I’ve told him I don’t like it but apparently I’m being uptight?

He sounds vile

Yanbu at all.

Some of that sounds a bit rapey. Is he at least thoughful/considerate during the act itself?

God no, you're not being upright. He sounds absolutely horrible tbh and I wouldn't put up with his disrespect towards women or, more importantly, his rape threats.

You married a cocknostril

A misogynist cocknostril. Who’s not funny.

YANBU. What does he say to you when you tell him what he is saying in unacceptable?

This cannot be real!!

If it is actually a true situation then he is a pathetic misogynistic knob.

mmmm sexy

What the hell? Is this a new thing of his? Because I'm damned if I could see why you'd marry someone that spoke to you like that!

He sounds vile. I could not be with someone so disrespectful!

Yes well he didn’t do it when I married him.
It’s been gradual.
I don’t think for one second he’d ever rape me but it doesn’t make me inclined to have sex with him when he speaks in this way. It makes me deeply uncomfortable. Apparently just a joke.

What the hell? Is this a new thing of his? Because I'm damned if I could see why you'd marry someone that spoke to you like that!

THIS ^

He sounds horrible. Has he always been like this? Or is it a change in behaviour?

‘if you walk around looking like that you’ll get it whether you want it or not,’

Well this sentence is a threat.he may never have any intentions of acting on it, but it is a very clear threat. And o e which puts the blame at your door.

If a stranger said this to you, what would you do?

That’s disgusting. Fortunately I’ve never come across anyone say any of those things. What a horrible attitude he has towards women.

Your standards must have been subterranean to select this charmer.
30 years ago I used to work in an environment where small minded mysogynists called women "split arses", it was a vile term then.

It’s also things like he will say ‘if you wear that you’ll end up in trouble.’

I loathe split arse. Loathe it. It’s mostly said when driving - as in - oh typical, it’s a fucking split arse.

Shize that is horrible OP.

He sounds like he is trash talking like a lot of immature twats do when in the company of other equally immature twats. I could not tolerate that for one second.

How can you be with him?

He’s basically saying he’s going to rape you

Two dc. Married for years. Don’t know how to get out. That’s mainly why.

I hope you don't have daughters.

Well, to be fair, I wouldn't want to raise sons with this man either.

Do you want your dc to grow up thinking this is how a man talks to his wife?

He’s horrible.
I feel very sorry for you.
Do you have children with him?