Dating Thread 175 - It's not you, it's them. Also: people are weird at Christmas time.

[MoreNiceCereal]

1. The first rule about the dating thread is don't talk about it with people you're dating.
2. Develop a thick skin.
3. Do not invest emotionally too soon.
4. It's all BS until it actually happens.
5. Trust your gut instinct.
6. People vanishing, lying & being generally weird is not your fault.
7. Know your worth.
8. If it's not fun, stop.
9. Loo update is mandatory.

10. No dating the thread. 11. Treat others as you'd like to be treated 12. Any relationship you have that could get ruined by having a conversation about your feelings, standards and/or expectations wasn't really stable enough to begin with 13. The things you choose to ignore/ tolerate now are the reasons you will break up in the future

Link to Info on Dating Websites & Apps www.mumsnet.com/Talk/relationships/3514717-List-of-Dating-Site-Info-Dating-Thread

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Optional: Please give your irons (potential dates you are talking to) nicknames like Mr Scottish. Initials are allowed (Mr S) when you are an item.

@bangheadhere40. Keep going I feel like I may have found someone and it’s take a good while , I just need to see how next few weeks go

@TigerDater no 😂 i thought I was dead inside but no 😂😂. Not sure how I’ll hold out until Wednesday

@Jane1978xx enjoy it!

@TigerDater I'm trying to but no ones around 😩

I’m doing all my wrapping and stuff tonight so it’s done and I’ve got time more free in Dec

Good idea, @Jane1978xx. I've mostly bought everything so I should wrap soon too.

I'm going out with friends tonight, a last minute decision necessitating a mad rush to do my Saturday chores and get ready - train to neighbouring city so an early start! I definitely need to get out of the house. I've been ill this week and DC ill pervious week/s so I've been indoors on my own for too long!

Still very cosy on the smitten bench, though. We talk daily and the more I get to know him the more I like him.

Right tonight's date has now messaged and seems to be on for now.... need to go get ready soon. Is this dress too much? With tights and ankle boots. Want to wear something pretty for once.

Wow that’s nice, where are you going xx

Do it! I love dressing up for dates!

Thankyou! I was just thinking of meeting him at my local which is a nice estate pub, does really good food, good fun on a Saturday night too....

I'm wearing it with tights and boots so shouldn't look too dressy

Sounds great! Knock his socks off.

@MoreNiceCereal oh I will 😉😂

I would so love to get there and be really into each other and have chemistry. Could really do with that right now.

If not, at least it's a night out. I've spent the day slobbing around in joggers, will be nice to wear a dress 😂

Mind you I have a strong feeling he's going to cancel. Just a gut feeling 😡

Yeah cancelled 😡

No way !!!!!!! What was his excuse x

Sorry timetravelling what a time waster

It’s all such a bore. Not heard from Mr Foot or Mr Tredgy since Thursday. So guess I’m back to no irons.

Actually one of my first tinder matches from February messaged me today. We on and off message but have never met and never plan to we just share jokes. I think I called him Mr Young Messiah but he not an iron he is a pen pal.

Saw Mr Big last night so that scratch has been itched 😂 I got a bit tipsy and had a cry about my ex to Mr Big. I am such a loser

Got my friend date tomorrow morning and in the afternoon a date date with someone i matched this morning...

That is fast work !!

Love a fast meet-up! Sorry you got bailed on tho, that's crap.

Ah @Marlboroandmalbec34 you're not a loser. I'm always doing stuff like that. When ex was having the kids for a week in the summer I was crying to FWB about it and he was so sweet.

He said he now has to work. Whatever. If he messages again (unlikely) I'll be saying I have no time for that kind of shit

Wow @TimeTravellingDiamond that dress is stunning. His loss for not seeing you in it. I love dressing up ( you can take the girl out ofEssex....)but as I live in SE London I don't get much chance, we're all scruffy trainers and old boots down here.

So although I've turned my tinder off a couple more old matches have come forward. I always assume if someone hadn't messaged within a day or so then that's it. Apparently not. Both are older than me (yesss!) but one is a radical vegan who is prepared to have casual sex with a meat eater but not a relationship. The other is a full time dad. Not sure how that would work. I have no time to meet with of them anyway as all my free evenings have been given over to friends. I also swiped my old FB who must be back from travelling. The last couple of times he came back he got in touch but I had a BF so I'm really hoping he sees me and swipes me. He was the only other OLD apart from MR U who I really liked.

Thanks @unambiguousbeard, I was really looking forward to wearing it 😡 I hope you hear from your FB!

Yeah he found me. Shit. I actually really like him. We had the best sex ever. Hope he wants to meet. He was just a FB but I would like him to be a FWB

Fingers crossed @unambiguousbeard . That sounds hopeful!

Work colleague is being very flirty.... I don't know what to do...

Go for it! Is it a big company? I met my husband at work and my previous bf. But I worked for a huge institution. Although at one point we were all on the same team.