Dating Thread 175 - It's not you, it's them. Also: people are weird at Christmas time.

[MoreNiceCereal]

1. The first rule about the dating thread is don't talk about it with people you're dating.
2. Develop a thick skin.
3. Do not invest emotionally too soon.
4. It's all BS until it actually happens.
5. Trust your gut instinct.
6. People vanishing, lying & being generally weird is not your fault.
7. Know your worth.
8. If it's not fun, stop.
9. Loo update is mandatory.

10. No dating the thread. 11. Treat others as you'd like to be treated 12. Any relationship you have that could get ruined by having a conversation about your feelings, standards and/or expectations wasn't really stable enough to begin with 13. The things you choose to ignore/ tolerate now are the reasons you will break up in the future

Link to Info on Dating Websites & Apps www.mumsnet.com/Talk/relationships/3514717-List-of-Dating-Site-Info-Dating-Thread

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Optional: Please give your irons (potential dates you are talking to) nicknames like Mr Scottish. Initials are allowed (Mr S) when you are an item.

blessed of thigh is a great line

Thanks for all the love everyone.
It’s been a heavy week but the hardest bits are done and now it’s just a wait for the funeral to really say our goodbyes....
Ex’s rationale was that I will have all my family in support and he will have no one. No shit Sherlock - it’s my Dad of course my family will be there .....

On a lighter note, those on the smitten bench, what are you getting for Christmas? I’m stuck - never great buying for men anyway but want to get something special.
Mr Tri’s birthday is January so I will get a weekend away for that, but Christmas I’m a bit stuck for, apart from a few little LoveHoney treats

A night away maybe ?

Mr BC is (a) very well off and buys whatever he wants and (b) quite insistent I don't buy him anything 😕 A bit of sleuthing and I've come up with a few things. It was hard though! He asked me what I wanted for Christmas but then bought it for me as a 'just because I love you' present which he gave me when we were in Italy!

@batshit that is soooo cute

menora I'm the same with younger guys, I'm 39 next month and my son is 23 next month.

I try to stick to guys who are at least 30 otherwise it feels like I could be dating a friend of my son!!!

So far I have got Mr S a watch because he loves watches and going to get him a few other little bits as it will only be 2 months by Christmas

I just bought Mr G a t-shirt. I'm now worried it isn't good enough! Argh, gift giving is fraught with difficulty.

I've got Mr Ad a hoodie from a shop he likes and will get a little something else but not sure what yet. I'm not going mad as I have two kids to buy for who want expensive presents this year.

I got an amazing deal on the watch so it looks like I paid more for it than I did. It was half price and then I had a £20 off a £50 spend so it only cost me £30. I might pick him up a few small arty things from The Works and some coffee

Oh I'm so relieved I'm single when it comes to gift buying. Men are impossible. Well the ones I like are. Mr U and I have the same birthday and I made him a cake with his logo in and got him a joke present. He eventually got me a bag full of personal in-joke presents which were really thoughtful. Including a picture of a cougar. 😂

I'm terrible at presents, giving and receiving.

@Savoretti I'm sorry about your dad. I hope you're doing ok it's a tough one. Dreading it.

I keep turning tinder on and off. A couple of my previous matches messaged but I can't be bothered to get into the whole chat thing and I'm enjoying not having to reply constantly. And socialising. Plus I've got bloody loads of study. Mr HotTurk won't completely take the brush off but no more selfies...

I always end up getting a book and a bottle of whisky/rum. The book takes a bit of time to choose so it’s thoughtful, the whisky/rum takes two seconds and hits the spot every time (assuming he drinks of course). Buying for men is not fun though 😴

sunshine brilliant!

I don’t generally do xmas, if I want something (if I can afford it), I just buy it, same if I see something for someone else really. We’re just going to do something together in the new year instead, he’s away for xmas and I’ll be at my ‘nother mothers, so we wouldn’t see each other over xmas anyway.

FFS what is wrong with people. Not heard anything off of iron who I'm supposed to be meeting this afternoon.

Why is it such hard work? I'm sick of my child free weekends being wasted 😩

@TimeTravellingDiamond have you messaged him ?

I’ve basically spent two hours sexting (I think that’s the term) mr gray of the car park snogging. I don’t know what’s got into me 😂. Meeting up on Wednesday with quite clear intentions

Messaged through snapchat- delivered but not read...

I don't know whether to try make other plans for tonight. Just fed up of time being wasted

Can you properly text him he may nor be online

Don't have his number.... if I don't get a message soon I may just block and unmatch on tinder.

There’s still time maybe he could be out and people run out of data at the end of the month

Fingers crossed for you, Time

We will see... he seemed really keen but as we know they're often like that then disappear into thin air....

Thanks @MoreNiceCereal, @Jane1978xx

I could just really do with a date today, getting out and meeting someone, trying to move on from FWB.

I just have no energy for this any more.....flaky people, effort for nothing. Is there any point?

time that is so irritating for you. I think I would be making other plans at this point - your and your time are precious.

jane my word, that sounds fantastic, blood properly coursing through your veins can’t be a bad thing, surely?