Is he a good husband and family man

[mrbigstuff]

If he ONLY has sex with the other woman when he's away with work? No other commitment flowers gifts etc but pure no feelings involved sex when he's away?

Views please

No he is not.

No no and no

No.

Is there any way in the world a person like this could be described as a 'great husband' and 'good guy'
Would you stay?

Nope!

He is a douche bag !

Only by himself!! I wouldn’t stay but don’t know your circumstances - how dependant on him are you??

WTF?

Very

I have no income only mutual friends etc. I have seen the messages. Every last one. He has been acting shifty for the last couple of weeks. Sneaking off every few minutes always with his phone with him. Until he fell asleep and I had a good snoop

And why are you asking this??

He is not a good guy
He is not a good husband
I would not stay

If you are married to this man find some self respect and leave

You are married? Get legal advice but no he isnt

Yeah, it's ok but only if he doesn't share a bed with her afterwards and doesn't kiss or hug afterwards. (placemarking sarcily cos I am rivetted)
Op may be asking on behalf of someone else.

The messages make it quite clear this is just an arrangement and won't ever be any more. So I'm wondering if I should just get on with it rather than rock the boat?
See he's very attractive and has a good job and I don't work haven't for years and am admittedly very dowdy these days

He's a lying cheating bastard. End of.

No. What a stupid question

You deserve better. Much better

Sorry op I just read the rest of your posts. It is still a silly question. Of course he’s not a good husband or family man. I’m sorry for you.

Thing is everything revolves around him. I have nobody and no friends or family. Also side chick is absolutely stunning

Sorry, I missed the update, assumed you were asking for someone else as it was in the third person. Do you suspect it is recent.

Oh yes it's recent

She's prob turned his head and promised him the Earth I know what her type are like

See he's very attractive and has a good job and I don't work haven't for years and am admittedly very dowdy these days

That's a separate issue. If you feel you aren't happy in your own body and own skin, then look at what you need to do to make yourself happier. But that is separate to your husband cheating. He is cheating. The question you need to ask is are you willing to ignore it.

Separate again, you need to discuss with someone what would happen to you financially if you left your husband.

Trust me this will eat you alive, I speak from experience! Please walk away and fleece the barsteward

Do you have kids?

'You know what her type are like' sorry OP but the OW is irrelevant, it's your husband you should be focusing your blame on!

Yes