Is he a good husband and family man

[mrbigstuff]

If he ONLY has sex with the other woman when he's away with work? No other commitment flowers gifts etc but pure no feelings involved sex when he's away?

Views please

flipping autocorrect! 'who did LTB IS WONDERING out loud'

Because losing your home and your way of life is awful.

So is being treated like sh* awful.
There is no easy answer.

@Zofloramummy they want their cake and eat it. There is no use trying to apply our values and wishes onto them. It is pointless and futile. These people have the capacity to compartmentalise and see no problem with wanting family and new pussy.

Our hurt at this ... accept and keep the family together, or LTB?

Because they do that (compartmentalise) and it hurts. End of. Whatever we decide to do.

"Trust me this will eat you alive, I speak from experience! "

Yes it does. It hurts so much

I feel like I need to feel my rage.

At the moment I'm feeling GRATEFUL as I'm his main priory . Ffs. Grateful

My Mum used to say about my dad, that you could forgive a lot of things if he kept the family housed and fed.

She was wrong. As she later acknowledged.

If you don't split up now, you will in the end.

Just get out. I watched my mum go through no end of shit trying to keep the bastard that was my dad at home.

Do you want your children to go through hell? Do you want them to come home from school and check the draw your husband keeps his socks in? Just to see if dad was still living with you? Because that's what I did.

Do you and your children a favour, tell him to fuck off and get out of your life

So you fucking well should be his main priority. Unfortunately, he put his dick first.

Get yourself tested for STDs. You found out about this one. I doubt if she's the first.

I hope you've got the conversations where he's said you don't need to work in writing, somewhere.

He is so amazing with the children though. I can't bear the thought of them losing that daily contact with him

He's of course said now he won't meet her ever again etc it's over doesn't want to lose me yadda yadda

Oh my. What a fucking piece of arrogant shit.

He is great with them, but showing them you can treat another person like shit. The other person being their mother?

You want them learning that. Because they will pick up on it as they get older. Daddy gets to do what he wants and he is so great on the rare occasions hs is here.

Mum has stay home, be unhappy and live in the box he says she should be, so daddy can have his great and happy life

Of course he isn't going to leave you.

He gets to shag her with no commitment, then come home to a nice tidy home, with his tea cooked, children, gets to play dad, probably gets to have sex with you too, whilst going out with friends, having his hobbies and a childminder at home to allow him to live this fucking wondeful life.

Why the hell would he want to change this set up!

Leave the bastard and fleece the cheeky cunt for treating you like a mug for all these years.

You deserve more than this half life you are living 💐

He really does have it all. Good job ,money loving wife ,nice car , beautiful kids and now a sexy side chick

If you stay with him he’ll keep doing it, with her or others. How do you feel about that?

Men like that won't stop because they feel entitled to the sex.

Kick him out OP, then take some time to think about what you want. Could you patch it up and move on? I know I’d never forgive (I’m quite jealous) and we’d argue until we hated each other. You may be made of sterner stuff

money loving wife

Is it you saying that or him?

Bit personal, but how's your sex life?

He's promised me he's not going to go near another woman again. Thing is I would never have dreamt in a million years he would be this type of man. None of his friends or family would either. He's just the stereotypical great bloke and all round nice person
Wtf???

@AnneLovesGilbert should be a comma after money

@KarmaKhameleon we are very sexual and intimate a lot! Or so I thought

Oh, sorry!

Money comma loving wife - I think Anne

@BogglesGoggles
. He risks producing bastards who will compete with his children for resources and passing on horrible diseases to his wife
Possibly one of the most vile comments I’ve seen on MN

He is not a good Dad or husband. He is an arsewipe.

Get shot of him.