Inlaws

[snoopy18]

In-laws are headed over staying for close to 6 weeks 🤦🏾‍♀️

Baby is almost 10 weeks so they are coming to visit.

Any tips on getting through 6 weeks?

Other half is off for 4 thankfully but isn’t a planner & right now... zero plans 🤦🏾‍♀️

Please get yourself tested, can you really be sure that he never chested since the start of your relationship? Plus what about before you, did you both have health checks etc or just take his word for it?

OP I've been reading this thread since it started and just caught up with the last couple of pages. I'm so sorry you are going through this, you are having such a shit time.

I'm from an Asian background were family staying when theres a newborn is the norm - except in my family! So could really relate to your stance, your writing style is really witty and enjoyable to read.

Just know you have got this, your in-laws won't be able to blame you for the marriage ending if it does, your little boy will be fine as he has his mom looking out for him and she is clearly very strong.

Take some time to get over the visitors and then see how you feel - no-one would blame you for ending it now. Good luck.

Its been awful since they have gone. Not had a proper conversation with me even though he’s the one that’s messed up major & still doesn’t see it. It was my birthday, sure I got gift but I just don’t feel good about the way he is treating me. He’s had the audacity to tell me how he’s not happy living in the UK and basically wants to move back to his home country etc.

I’m like are you kidding me? I would never move because from day one I’ve said I don’t want to live there for a number of reasons and 2 I have zero trust in you and you aren’t even trying to sort this marriage out so why would I even contemplate moving?

Baby is only young yet he’s banging on about how it’s not a good life for baby etc I told him all baby needs is a home, love & to be looked after which I can give him fine.

I’ve told him to book a flight back and spend some time alone back at his home country to figure out what he wants becaue I’m not going anywhere neither is baby.

I feel bullied into decisions to be honest and I won’t stand for it any longer have made it very very clear to his family my family and him

KOKO

Hopefully he may just disappear off, rubbish that you wouldn't get any maintenance but at least none of them would darken your home ever again...

Can I suggest you get the baby a passport and keep it safe, very safe.

I’m so sorry @snoopy18. Just try to keep strong and hopefully you’ll make the best decision for you and your relationship and baby.

Let him go abroad. Have you got support from your parents?

Should be able to get child maintenance as it’s listed on countries UK have agreements with not sure how easy it would be but will definately be trying if it comes to it.

Yeah have family here hence why I wouldn’t go since I don’t trust him anyway!

To be fair we should be fine financially.

Very good advice regarding the passport.

Already on to the passport it’s been put away just incase

I think it is wonderful that your husband has bought a blow up mattress for his parents. That alone should solve your problem within a few days.

oops, I didn't read all the way through! So sorry at how it's been working out!

Taken me ages to read the full thread. But wow. Starts one way, ends with a different issue.

You did wonderfully. And you're obviously very capable and strong.

I would be asking to keep passports etc at my mother's house if I was in your situation.

I hope whatever the future brings you, that it leaves you in a happy and secure place.

Where to form here

@snoopy18 You sound very controlling

Also, what's wrong with your husband watching porn?! It's just acting! He's a red blooded male! It's perfectly normal. You say you "don't want your baby growing up around this" so I presume you won't be having sex at all until your baby has grown up & moved out then????

Haha I’m not controlling trust me 😂

Not into him being into porn - each to their own it’s not for me.