Inlaws

[snoopy18]

In-laws are headed over staying for close to 6 weeks 🤦🏾‍♀️

Baby is almost 10 weeks so they are coming to visit.

Any tips on getting through 6 weeks?

Other half is off for 4 thankfully but isn’t a planner & right now... zero plans 🤦🏾‍♀️

They’ve told him off reckon he won’t pull this on me again but I don’t trust it to be honest. Definately his last chance this time though. I know many women are not bothered about these things but I am.

To make it worse OH told them I didn’t want them here for 6 weeks in the house. I’m not a liar though so obv told them it wasn’t that I didn’t want them visiting but yeah staying here in the house is too much when I have a new baby and 2 bed property no access to my work space etc. They obv just took it as n insult but to be honest I don’t even care.

There was no reason for OH to bring that up though as it had no place - it was his behaviour that caused the blow up not mine.

They go tomorrow finally

Imo he will give zero fucks about being 'told off'. He has no respect for you or commitment to your marriage. .. You need a shake if you think he will change op...

@Whathappenedtooursummer I think the same tbh but one last shot

OMG OP.
What a nightmare time you are having.
Well hopefully that will be the last chance you give him.
He must know he doesn't deserve you.
He needs to fucking sort himself out.
And then to try to take the attention away from himself and make you the bad guy!!??? Good grief he's a cock.
One more day.
Then could you stay with your parents for a week to get some headspace?
Or do you now need some alone time?
Stay strong!

What an absolute prick to tell his parents that.

Complete deflection.

I would be absolutely furious.

He does not sound like a good man.

You mind yourself OP.

Oh my goodness, what a turn this has taken. Hang on in there until they are gone and enjoy some peace in your own home. I'd also tell him to pack and go with them!

I told him the other day to decide what he’s doing - go back with them if he wants to no longer be with us and can’t commit properly. Will see what happens in the coming weeks.

I’m totally exhausted by the last 6 weeks to be honest. Stuff like this mentally drains me as I very much love my own space.

I just want them gone and him back at work so baba and I can get back into a bit of a routine.

It’s been a very long 6 weeks that’s for sure.

Can’t wait to just get my office back too!

One more night.

Yeah he turns stuff around or tries to quite a lot but I’m fully aware of what he’s doing and do pull him up on it. His parents do the same I noticed so he must learnt it from there.

Well he's just ensured his parents are never welcome again..,

Nope you didn't want them there for 6 weeks but you accommodated them, meanwhile he can't help but trawl for porn/hook ups whatever - says it all doesn't it.

Threw you under the bus didn’t he!

Yep and yep - doesn’t even realise what damage he’s done I don’t think.

If he's looking at ads for sex with local women, then that goes beyond looking at porn. He will wait until your guard is down and start again, but just start hiding it better (separate phone etc).

I would either see a marriage counsellor or use the momentum from this to ask him to leave. You can tell family and friends he was looking for prostitutes.

@SagAloojah my thoughts precisely since there’s obviously something more to it here and I’m sure I’m missing something. I’ve already told his parents and mine what he’s been upto, this is his last shot. I already know he’s going to get caught doing something so it’s a waiting game. Just because his parents know doesn’t mean he won’t do anything like this again or more. I know him too well. It’s his last chance to sort himself out. Have given him a timeline in front of parents too.

I’ve suggested marriage counselling a few times already he’s agreed but again doesn’t research or book stuff to get things done. He’s had a counselling session by himself but to be honest I think he picks and chooses what he tells people.

It's entirely possible that you'll look back on this visit as a blessing in disguise. It's given you the chance to see your husband and his parents in all their glory. If you do end up splitting, better now while baby is tiny. And if you don't end up splitting it'll be because this visit and his various dick moves have forced him to change his ways and become a proper human being.

Exactly that @peekyboo it’s the final straw & ive said we reassess in Dec as baby will be 9 months by then. Want him gone sooner rather than later if we are going to split.

I already know it’s a blessing in disguise

You know you don't have to give him a 2nd chance...

Telling his parents should have been the final straw tbh!

@RandomMess yep I know but now that I’ve got everything off my chest & both parents know, it’s his last shot to make a change and be in his son’s life full time. I don’t want my boy to grow up without a dad in his life and this is for him too.

I couldn't cope with this at all, would may be ok if you lived in Buckingham palace, but sounds like you don't.

It all sounds a bit of a nightmare,and the fact that you don't know the people that well. When I had a small baby of this age,I only wanted very small visits from anyone, as in about two hours,for a cup of tea ha ha.

It's not just the people for this visit, it's all their luggage all over as well, so hope you can stay sane for the duration.

They’ve just left and it was the most awkward thing ever!

And breathing a sigh of relief

Well done snoopy Pour a glass or wine or run a bath or just do whatever you want!

I would book yourself an STD check btw as goodness knows what he has actually got up to...

You survived, well done

OP, you sound like a lovely woman.
Protect yourself and get tested.
I wouldn't trust him.
By all means go through the motions but
in MN speak....ducks in a row👍

I don’t think he’s physically cheated on me tbh defo emotionally though. Won’t be sleeping with him anyways so save myself the effort. Now to deal with this rubbish going forward. Looking into marriage counselling later today.