Inlaws

[snoopy18]

In-laws are headed over staying for close to 6 weeks 🤦🏾‍♀️

Baby is almost 10 weeks so they are coming to visit.

Any tips on getting through 6 weeks?

Other half is off for 4 thankfully but isn’t a planner & right now... zero plans 🤦🏾‍♀️

Write a list of treats owed by dh for your patience and stamina op!!

Omg op if my mil had come to stay for more than 6 hours I'd have cried!!! Hats off to you!

A saint!

Careful now, I think I am reading a bit of sympathy for your DH....we can't have any of that!
Stay strong and let him pick up the flak.
You probably don't want this every year.
Airbnb is the way to go and you will all enjoy visits more.

However, until this happens, your husband must feel the full pain of the visit😂

@WinkyWoo3 yes I’ve made it very clear I don’t want them constantly handling baby as after their stay OH will be back to work & me and baby will be back to us. So far it’s going well with that too 🤞🏾 I think for these longer stays after 6 months would be ok but it’s been too soon in my opinion...

@GGNewMum we are of the same culture and religion - just because we are of the same culture and religion doesn’t mean I have to like people being in my space, especially, with a new baby. They are more than welcome anytime but that does not mean living in the same house for 6 weeks - Airbnb or apartment would have been fine in the local area.

@hellsbellsmelons he owes me big time

@justilou1 I agree!

@billy1966 it won’t be happening every year after this 😂 he can go over there even if it means by himself - setting some boundaries after this - family and friends no more than 2 weeks!

Given that you are in such a small home, I would just say that after this visit, people are welcome but not to stay. Air BNB or similar.
To anyone wanting to visit I would say, ‘ we had PIL visit, and lucky we get on well as too many adults in such a small space, we won’t make that mistake again.’
Then let them know of local places to stay. Also play up the air mattress big time and how uncomfortable it must be.
Keep counting down.

I’ve just told him earlier on 2 weeks max in the future and he’s all ‘you don’t want my family here’ bla bla bla. I’m like ... ok say what you will and think what you will but this won’t be happening again 😆

I think two weeks max is fine! I love my DM but I can only cope with 3 days when she comes to stay!

No one needs to stay at other peoples house for this long in thus day & age in my opinion unless you’re caring for someone. So claustrophobic!

OH’s dad is trying to do that thing hanging around carrying baby constantly - so annoying! 3 weeks to go

I agree @snoopy18 I don’t get why people see the need to stay over and practically move in and invade personal space.

My god it feels like they've been here forever...and they are not my visitors 🙄😂.

Don't budge an inch.

I had a visitor for 8 days several years ago and it took me ages to get over the inconvenience.

You are a living Saint 👍

My mil used to insist on pushing ds's pram his entire nap time!! Until I asked her how she thought I had time to do that? Bonkers.
And from a generation of dm's who left a pram in the garden unsupervised!

You need to break habits of baby being constantly held now. This will make life very difficult when they go if you can’t continue the habit.

I'm ashamed to say I turned off the heating in winter to flush out my MIL and get her to go home.

Same situation as you, MIL from foreign, very hot, climes. Poor woman, I feel guilty now, but I had the same problem as you: rubbish husband (since dispatched I'm afraid). She was due to stay for 4 months . She was there when I was pg, cooking basmati rice that made me heave as soon as I walked in the front door. She was such a lovely woman - but not in my house for ever and ever, thanks.

It's such a shame bcs it could have been a lovely experience for everyone if your husband had insisted they stay elsewhere.

I'm ashamed to say I turned off the heating in winter to flush out my MIL and get her to go home.

I do this to my MIL. She now comes equipped with lots of warm clothes and brings a blanket with her to sit under on the sofa

Love that you guys turned off the heating 😂shame it’s been warm weather...

Today was an utter nightmare! I’ve not been biting my tongue at all when they have been hounding baby or moaning about baby crying etc. Responses have been very much short and straight to the point ie shut the eff up mama knows best!

Was at my parents place earlier and they were also there and both set were at it and OH did my head in so they all got a telling off!! Safe to say silence followed by them.

Glad I’m in bed now with baby sleeping in the cot and back at home 🤦🏾‍♀️

2 weeks to go

Stay at home where you can go to your room and shut the door.
Babies cry, they chose to visit you with a new baby, don’t moan about it!
14 days

@Weenurse Exactly. Babies cry to communicate something isn’t how they want it to be. His dad is like ‘yeah when they cry we should be concerned’ I’m like yeah.... because the baby is constantly crying right? (It’s not - Infact he rarely cries other than the usual nappy news changing feeding sleepy etc etc) Can’t stand parents telling you how to parent. Eugh. Said to OH again can’t wait til they sod off back home. He didn’t say anything.

Does he at least agree to limit future visits

He will be doing if not I’ll defo be heading to my sister’s place next time I’ve made it clear 😂

Hang in there 🍰

OH is off from work for the next 2 weeks thank goodness 😀