Inlaws

[snoopy18]

In-laws are headed over staying for close to 6 weeks 🤦🏾‍♀️

Baby is almost 10 weeks so they are coming to visit.

Any tips on getting through 6 weeks?

Other half is off for 4 thankfully but isn’t a planner & right now... zero plans 🤦🏾‍♀️

OMG this feels like a lifetime.
Keep going.

I thought the weeks were flying but this thread makes me think otherwise, dragging on so slowly 🤔

Honestly it’s felt like a long 6 weeks 🙄

Have you found any grey hairs op??

Keep going OP. This must feel like a marathon!!

Haha I feel like the grey hairs have increased 🤣

This week is flying by thankfully as I’ve had lots on! Went off to the cinema and parents Monday - yesterday I was out working - today we have baby’s appointment at the hospital so will be out for a few hours - I’m away tomorrow for the day back Friday afternoon which takes us to the weekend and then one week to go 🙈

Well. Lost my shit yesterday after finding dodgy stuff on OH phone again. Everything is out in the open now & his on his v last warning. Another reason why I had not wanted his parents here for 6 weeks. It was inevitable but it’s a blessing in disguise.

5 weeks.

I did good.

Oh sorry OP to read that. You've had enough to contend with.
I hope you will be ok.
Nearly there👍🤞

@billy1966 I knew something like this would happen it’s another reason why I didn’t want them here for 6 weeks. He can deal with the awkwardness of it all now.

Dodgy stuff on his phone? What’s that about?

@dollius long story but I’ve found stuff I’m not happy with on his phone 5-6 times. I’ve warned him & told him every time I’m not happy with it. Keeps doing it. Had it all out with his parents & mine lastnight. Been dealing with it for 3 years now & i am over it. One strike & he’s out.

What sort of stuff? Why have you given him one last strike if he's done it previously?

@Rosielily porn vids online / naked women gallery / forums & searches of derogatory terms & 2 days ago he had been viewing ads on sex where men had been posting for sex from women in the area etc. I thought he would stop doing it since I thought he knew how it effects me but clearly not. Have a baby to think about now and I don’t want my boy growing up around someone like that.

@Rosielily I fell pregnant it was very unplanned - now that I’ve had the baby though I feel more confident in dealing with it because I was apprehensive about doing it whilst pregnant. Just in a better head space about next moves I guess.

Oh OP, do sorry you have this to deal with.

You sound like a strong woman and you have family nearby thank goodness.

Still very upsetting for you.

Hopefully when his family are gone you will have some space and time.

You must be very disappointed in him.

I hope the baby is doing well.

Wow just caught up with it all. Maybe his parents being there has been a blessing in disguise I hope you didn't hide what he did!

The fact you forgave him before means he hasn't /won't believe you will ltb. Send him home with his dps may be the 'cure'..

The baby is doing great and that’s the main thing. I’m just focusing on trying to do stuff that makes me and baby happy. I’m mix feeding baby & don’t want to ruin my milk supply too.

I’m very upset & yes it’s been a blessing in disguise because though I’m gutted about all this - I feel like I have an end in sight with it.

I’ve been so stressed since it happened - I went off to my mums yesterday with baby - I got back and it’s just toxic to be around them all.

I’m glad they know now though because when this happens again he for sure out of my life for good. I had to break it down to him exactly how I was feeling about everything & even then since 6pm lastnight he did not come upstairs to make sure i’m Ok or anything. I haven’t spoke to inlaws because they flat out tried to lie about me to my parents too. I returned the gifts they brought to them too via OH.

Up til now OP you’re right he thinks I wasn’t serious about walking out of his life. If this doesn’t show him I’m serious & he does it again then that’s it.

Last time he did it was when I was pregnant and I kicked him out of the house for the night.

That still hasn’t shown him I’m serious has it?

Yes need to get through this week & then at least I’ll have my space back without this being on edge feeling.

If you have to go through with this (and I wouldn’t), then my best advice is: Start as you mean to continue.

Don’t tidy, bake, or set up their room. By all means buy in some food, and pull out some bedding. But no silver service. No planning treats ahead. No guest-related housework, only the usual. Especially not day one.

Give them a big welcoming hug, then point them to where lies the kettle.

Even though this may feel awkward for you, it’s less awkward than divorce and stabbing them all in their sleep on Day 8. Trust me.

Sorry OP, I didn’t have time to read the whole thread.

Nearly there.
After reading your last few posts, I would suggest he goes home with PIL!

Yep told him yesterday decide whether you’re ready to fully commit to me and baby and stop these games (there’s many factors here) if you don’t wish to - book a flight and go back with them and we can start proceeding a divorce. If this isn’t the shake up he needed or wanted then nothing is going to work. I can’t control him & didn’t get married to have to deal with these things. He’s not a child. Needs to grow up and a pair and I’ve told him so.

After your more recent posts @snoopy18 I would demanding that they and your not so dear husband stay else where for the duration of their visit!

How bloody dare they lie to your parents, whilst staying you.

As for him...

So sorry OP.

I agree with above. I think he and his parents should jog on for the rest of the stay.

The cheek of them to lie to your parents. Unforgiveable.

What did they lie to your parents about?

What is their stance on what your "D"H did?