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right, he's got a locked chest with sex videos of his ex's.

180 replies

ashamedbeyondcompare · 07/02/2007 16:03

This morning whilst cleaning up - I found a key, which i recognised...

We have a locked wooden box in our spare room, which has had a padlock on since we moved in, Ive never known what was in it and I've never really been bothered, til now, i'm fuming!

This key I found fits the lock, to my horror its full of videos of my DP and his ex girlfriends, and pictures of them, naked and doing things to each other. It actually made me sick.

What the hell do I do, Im distraught... right now I just want to pack his bags and kick him out as soon as he gets home from work.

Im a regular by the way, and ive got a young baby, please help me I am so upset...

OP posts:
homemama · 07/02/2007 18:20

look, she's more convincing than the auntie thread!

1sue1 · 07/02/2007 18:28

So when you were "having to push the fucking heavy box around the spare room as I painted all the walls" did it really not once cross your mind to ask him what the hell was in it?

morningpaper · 07/02/2007 18:32

gosh I would have worried it was an ex-wife

morningpaper · 07/02/2007 18:33

If it was THAT big, how many videoes does it contain? Like hundreds?

ItsMeMellowma · 07/02/2007 18:36

I don't think it is false tbh

swifterella · 07/02/2007 18:46

stop being horrid you lot-why so cynical?

homemama · 07/02/2007 18:46

Lol, MP! At first I thought you meant the videos were of the ex wife!

Pann · 07/02/2007 20:59

dum-de-dum-de-dum.

flutterbee · 07/02/2007 21:12

Oh Pann you are mean

Chandra · 07/02/2007 21:17

In other times I would confront DH in a very drastic but intelligent way, now I think that I would take great plessure in recording CBebies all over them and pretend I don't know anyhthing about it.

guess there's something wrong with my marriage...

Pann · 07/02/2007 21:23

hi flutterbee.

Is it really me that's being mean??

think it's the "another man pre-occupied with porn" easy target that is a bit annoying.

if it involved a Ukrainian tractor, or some such it might be better.

flutterbee · 07/02/2007 21:29

Aaahhh but you hav to admit the "fuck me, ive seen her arse hole in a whole new light..." comment is pretty special.

I lol when I read that, come on credit where credit is due Pann.

Pann · 07/02/2007 21:34

of course!!

but then she got all coy over the word masturbation, when describing what she caught him (allegedly) doing in the shower.....

of course all of this will be deeply embarassing when she comes on with convincing evidence of her trauma and sufferings..............oops!

flutterbee · 07/02/2007 21:38

Yes very true, I may stay quiet until I have more details. I shall ponder it for a while

wurlywurly · 07/02/2007 21:39

something dont seem right here

ShinyHappyPeopleHoldingHands · 07/02/2007 21:44

Do you know.. I think you might be making a mistake, doubting this poster. I have just read the whole thing twice to get the full gist. Imagine how terribly hurt she will feel when she reads all the recent posts; someone who is hurting a great deal already. Benefit of the doubt would have been good and now it can't be deleted. It's here waiting for her to see when she comes back for more support.

flutterbee · 07/02/2007 21:45

I could actually get my post deleted if I wanted to but I don't.

I shall however be the first person to stand up and apologise if it transpires that this is in fact real.

JellyNump · 07/02/2007 21:46

I would go mad!!! Stick them up all over th house/garden/neighbourhood and post them to his work and his family???

Chandra · 07/02/2007 21:47

I have a strong policy of not naming suspected trolls, I just don't post. It doesn't take a lot of effort not to post and it could save a bit of heartache if the accused person is genuine.

Besides, after seeing someone asking for a donkey in Mumsnet (which she later got or at least a good substitute), I believe everything!

ShinyHappyPeopleHoldingHands · 07/02/2007 21:48

With respect, it won't really help though will it Flutterbee?

Unfortunately men do do these beastly things somethings and tear apart the lives of the women who love them. It may be hard to believe for those of us with DHs who haven't put us through any of that kind of crap. She hasn't posted anything trollish to my mind. I think she sounds confused and sick with shock. And fear about what it all means.

flutterbee · 07/02/2007 21:53

Well there are a few things that don't ring true to me and as someone who has been taken in by a very nasty troll in the past I in the future will make a point of saying if I think someone is one or not.

As I said I am big enough to apologise when I am wrong and I will stand by that.

Pann · 07/02/2007 22:00

Take your point about unnecessary upset, but difficult to ignore the unconvincing aspects, esp. when posters are being exercised over difficult circs.

Trouble is, there is no definitive 'proof' as it were, just on trust. And from what I read, I don't, and it is a shame.

homemama · 07/02/2007 22:02

I have to say though, who would lug around a huge wooden chest with a padlock on it without wondering what the hell was in it? She's obviously is nowhere near as nosey as me?

wurlywurly · 07/02/2007 22:05

i know i wouldnt have lugged a huge locked box around and not wondered what was in it. Hell no, i would have searched everywhere to find the key. I dont have a problem with porn only when its hidden and i cant understand why he would keep it.

TenaLady · 07/02/2007 22:10

I would remove them from the house and lose the key. If he asks where it is then I think I would tackle it. If he doesnt then he has obviously forgotten all about it.

I have to say this to me would be the highest form of insult and total lack of respect.