He hasn't come home

[NoCapes]

"D"P goes out a lot, I've started threads on him before, I mean he literally goes out 4/5 times a week
And he goes out every single Saturday night
He always gets in early hours of the morning and he sleeps on the couch
There's been the odd 'emergency' where he comes in at 8/9am-ish (friend was in hospital after a fight etc)
He's come in twice with make up on his t-shirt

Last night he went out and I've just got up with the baby to discover he hasn't come home
His phone is switched off

Will you all give me a shake and tell me the absolute glaringly obvious?...

She fuckin hates me. Puddle of Mudd

Nah, hating someone means you care.

You know you truly know longer care when you feel ambivalent about them.

Ambivalent? Bloody hell my phone hates me.

I wish I had your spirit capes

The all time classic,

Wanted to throw a long distance fist-bump YES 👊 to u wen I read tht u ddnt even reply to his message and u r already feeling lighter and more empowered!! U r a queen! Well done you X

I'm a survivor - destinys child
Elton john - I'm still standing !
Cee lo green - forget you
Katy perry - roar
Irreplaceable - Beyoncé

If u wobble when th kids are in bed and ur nt distracted , slap these on and dance around :)

Oh I love this I'm so going to make a playlist

I'm outta love by Anastacia!

Bastard by Jenny Talia

Fuck you - lily Allen 😂

Baby I Don't Cry Over You by Billie Holliday - got me through a few bad breakuos.

I hate you so much right now-Kelis.

De-lurking to say well done, have rtft and think you are amazing! And two of mine for the playlist - am a single mum too and listen to these when I'm feeling a bit down x

Elbow - Grounds for Divorce
Paloma Faith - Can't rely on you

Jar of Hearts
and of course the classic mentioned above...'Go on now go, walk out the door, just turn around now, 'cos you're not welcome anymore...'

We could make a Mumsnet Album.

'NOW that's what we call Twunts 1'

MN should definitely make an album, I haven't heard of some of these but have been googling the lyrics and they are very appropriate, especially the paloma faith one!
I'm going to YouTube them once the kids are in bed and get downloading
Also on the list -
Beyoncé - irreplaceable
TLC - no scrubs
Pussycat dolls - I don't need a man
this is fun!

...on a serious note, I'm a bit concerned about just how not bothered I am
I haven't even cried
It's coming isn't it? And it's going to knock me for six

Yy to jar of hearts! I've played that mega loud in the car many a time since ditching the ex!

I look forward to seeing nocapes, now that's what I call twunts on Spotify shortly

Keep smiling nocapes !

Not necessarily- it depends on how long your anger lasts and how much of a twat he is from now on

Crossed... Well he hasn't yet turned on the tears/anger/promises yet...
But once you've got your ducks in a row. Anything he says can just roll right over you.

Seems to me you were 'over it' long before the final 'it' happened. It's a good thing X

NoCapes You are one incredible woman, you know that don’t you?

You have great things ahead of you and your children will grow up to have at least one parent to be very proud of.

NoCapes, you might crash a bit, you might not, just accept it if it happens, right now just keep doing what you're doing.

You have so much support on here, if it gets rough, help is here.

Don't feel bad for not feeling bad! Maybe you went through the worse of it pre-split.

doesnt matter if u cry its jut a release of emotions

now thats what icall twunts

love it!

Please can I add 'Good Luck' by Basement Jaxx to the playlist? Sums my ex up perfectly. I remember singing it loudly in the shower the day I kicked the cheating shit bag out of my house!

May I add Hate is a strong word (but I really really really don't like you) by the Plain White T's? Awesome song, even if the only appropriate word for him at the moment really is "hate"