He hasn't come home

[NoCapes]

"D"P goes out a lot, I've started threads on him before, I mean he literally goes out 4/5 times a week
And he goes out every single Saturday night
He always gets in early hours of the morning and he sleeps on the couch
There's been the odd 'emergency' where he comes in at 8/9am-ish (friend was in hospital after a fight etc)
He's come in twice with make up on his t-shirt

Last night he went out and I've just got up with the baby to discover he hasn't come home
His phone is switched off

Will you all give me a shake and tell me the absolute glaringly obvious?...

[GabsAlot]

well don nocapes u didit harsest step over

new thread new life!

[GiddyOnZackHunt]

X post! You're ahead of me!

[GiddyOnZackHunt]

Well done. Right first task is to get yourself a new thread and link to it here. If you want to nc to NoCapeNeeded then do it now so it shows you as the OP through the thread.

[FeckTheMagicDragon]

Oh well done Capes! Here, have a pretty man :)

[ayeokthen]

NoCapes he is one in a million, I'm fully aware of just how lucky me and the kids are to have him. Although he says the same about me too bless him. You and your kids deserve happiness, you deserve to be treated properly and to be valued. I really hope when the time is right you find your own version of my DP (I was on my own for 4 years, my own choice because it took me that long to put myself back together after my bastard of an XH)

[Funko]

Yay Pom poms for nocapes !!!!!

Well done! Now relax for a bit and prepare for breezy and channelling Margot when he returns them!

[NoCapes]

New Fred! (If this link works)

www.mumsnet.com/Talk/relationships/2735596-NoCapes-thread-2-No-cape-necessary

[rainbowstardrops]

Well done NoCapes!
Love that Margot sketch

[NoCapes]

You're right he is a total Disney dad - I'd never even realised before how did I not?!
The first thing DD said when I said he'd moved out was "so no more big days out?" That's all he does - I do all the day to day stuff and on a Saturday morning he goes "let's go to the zoo!" So I book online/pack a picnic/get them dressed, but it was his day out because it was his idea!
Eurgh!

aye your DP sounds absolutely brilliant

[skyyequake]

Well of course he's tired, the poor thing had to get up before 4pm!

[ayeokthen]

Well done NoCapes! That must have been really hard for you to paint on a smile and be breezy, but you did it!! One more thing you can tick off your list and be proud of yourself for. I don't often look up to people, but I am in awe of you. It took me many years to manage what you've done, and with nowhere near as much dignity and class! How are you now?

[ayeokthen]

Feck I loved the way you put it. My DP is lovely, I still can't believe my luck 5 years in. I've spent years picking up the pieces as DS is shattered by his so called dad, and I've always tried to be all those things I wrote about before. I might not be exciting, or a Disney Mum, but I can always be his safe place.

[NoCapes]

They're gone, I was the epitome of breezy, met him at the door, just reeled of information and was just "ok have fun kids, bye!"
He didn't look great, looked tired, had to remind myself that was probably because he'd been out all night not because he'd not been sleeping because he misses us

I feel ok, slight lump at the back of my throat but I don't feel the need to give in to it
Wasn't as bad as I thought it would be

[FeckTheMagicDragon]

Funko - what a good idea - I've just gotten lost in clips myself. The good life is one of my go-to things to cheer me up!
Ayeokthen - you put it so much better than me, and your DP sounds lovely.

[Funko]

Think nocapes is a bit young to remember Margot... But binge watching The Good Life Margot clips might now an afternoon must must clean house and do work catch up before tomorrow agggghhh

[ayeokthen]

PreemptiveSalvageEngineer thank you
NoCapes breathe, paint on a big happy smile and wow him with your breezy attitude. After the door is closed, feel free to fall apart because we're all here to put you back together. You can do this!!!!

[tiredvommachine]

Stay strong Capes

feck Gotta love Margot

[PurpleThursday]

Remember nocape is required. We all know you are wonder woman with or without it. It will be over in a few minutes. Not much longer. Stay strong until he has gone then let out what you need. We are all here.

[PurpleThursday]

Thank you so much feck my ExDH will now be meeting Margot at pick up time. Brilliant

[PreemptiveSalvageEngineer]

AyeOK, that was beautiful.

[NoCapes]

Sorry will read all the new messages when they've gone, just a quick one to say - aaarrgghhh I'm nervous! 🙈!

[FeckTheMagicDragon]

The fabulous Margo

[FeckTheMagicDragon]

I had the accent. But you can be Margo in any accent - it's all about the attitude. It used to drive him mad. One of my favourite memories is when he accused me of treating him like a stranger.

'Well that's because you are, dear. I realised you're really not the man I thought you were. Anyway must get on. Good bye, have a lovely day' All said with polite smile.

[GiddyOnZackHunt]

Feck DH had a Disney dad. Gifts at Xmas but no maintenance. Doesn't speak to him any more. Loves MIL to bits.

[Kr1stina]

Great advice from feck

I'm loving the channel Margo