Let's Get Ready! It's Dating Thread 103

[DrFoxtrot]

The Rules:

1. The first rule about the dating thread is you don't talk about it with people you're dating.
2. Develop a thick skin.
3. Do not invest emotionally too soon.
4. It's all BS until it actually happens.
5. Trust your gut instinct.
6. People vanishing, lying & being generally weird is not your fault.
7. You are the prize-they should be trying to impress you.
8. If it's not fun, stop.
9. Loo update is mandatory.

10. No dating the thread. 11. Read Why Men Love Bitches (aka WMLB), and take from it what you will. 12. Don't serve up moose burgers on the first date (although this is still in debate right now) 13. Matthew Hussey also very useful. And very easy on the eye even if you don't find him any good. 14. IF THEY SAY THEY DON'T WANT A RELATIONSHIP, THEY DON'T WANT A RELATIONSHIP.

That's what I was thinking last trouble is I am all busty and I don't want to give the wrong impression.

The date is just in a pub on one of those amusement complex estates - bowling alley, cinema, TGIs. We are going there because we live a distance apart and it's easy for me to get to from the main roads and easy to find.
It's nearer to his house than mine but that was my choice.

Have you picked yet? Get yourself on the FB group, that's what it's for, posting pics of outfits for consideration! Among other things obviously. These places are usually warm and as it's inside if probably go smart skinny jeans and a nice top

Lots of thanks to all who’ve commented, especially Sassy. Bit short of time with kids things before I see my girlfriend again tonight, and we’ll be in a group. But I will respond to your comments later and they’ve all been very helpful.

Afternoon all! Just a quick check in as DS has just been picked up and I need to get busy studying and cleaning myself and my house cos Bacon will be here in less than 6 hours! Squee! Ahem.
I am not wigging out this week which feels lovely. I do have a couple of concerns, along the lines of "what if he only wants me for sex and once he's had that, he's going to bugger off?" and "what if he looks at my (slightly scruffy, full of DS-stuff) house then buggers off?" But then he's been texting and is just lovely and it just feels right and always has (despite my wigouts) and so I'm going with it. Always evaluating but enjoying it too. We're going out for drinks before dinner and I'm wearing a frock and have painted my nails and it promises to be a much more grown up night out than last week...

Reddish I have nothing to add to Sassy's excellent advice. You are entitled to know where you stand with her. I hope you get the answers you need, cos you sound lovely.

Tanya Well done for hiding Bee. Totally the right decision, I think. And your stone mason sounds promising, especially the fact that he's unavailable for a bit! It'll give you time to get your head together

Last Good luck with your iron hunting! And I hope things work out with Partyboy. You gave him a fairly stern warning, so he should be on his best behaviour. Bin his arse if not!

Anna This weather is bloody annoying for deciding what to wear! And I share your busty concerns but the odd flash of cleavage can be a marvellous thing...

Right, must dash and get on with chores. Hi to everyone else and happy dating to everyone who's out today!

Good luck freaky !

Right I'm here, I'm early....

Hope it's going well Anna

Uh-oh....
Within the first few minutes he'd said 'I don't really like Muslims' so I'm going to politely finish my drink and never see him again.

But I have just asked another iron if he fancies a drink as he lives in the area too and he's said yes. This is Bright Spark.

So when I've ditched the racist I'm off on a second impromptu date don't judge me

I don't judge you that's terrible of him!!! Best off out of it :) good luck on your second date!

Fab initiative anna only judging purely from the point of view of 'go on girl!' And dodged a bullet early on there I'd say!

Yes, bullet dodged indeed but there's no way I will tolerate a racist and if he's like that as soon as I meet him it isn't going to get any better, is it?

Second date agreed, just waiting to hear back about where.

anna the way you handled that is bloody brilliant! I hope your second date went much better.

So I also have a date this evening! Literally partyboy called me and said right lets be spontaneous and are you free tonight? I wouldn't normally say yes but I thought why not, it saves dragging on the chatting and messaging for another week when there may be no chemistry. And after a false start this one has a lot of ground to make up! I'm actually really excited, I've not been on any dates yet so this is my first one, with my first ever original iron. Just want to break my OLD virginity!
Bring on the loo updates

anna what did you wear in the end? Wtf shall I wear!!

At second date now, just waiting for him to turn up which is fine because I did only ask him an hour ago.

I wore straight legged jeans I can do skinnies with my thighs a vest top under an open shirt, a jacket and ankle boots with a small heel.

Will update on date 2 when I can.

Should have said can't do skinnies with my thighs.

Good luckanna again 😆😆

Ooh I had a message back from a photographer guy I've had my eye on okcupid for a bit :) his profile is funny and he's attractive in his photos. Fingers crossed. :)

"Anna* that sounds a nice outfit, I'm going for a dress as it's an evening date.
traffic fingers crossed for you!

last thank you! anna I'm excited for you!

Hit it off with some nerdy 29 year old on okcupid. I've been quite open with him that he's not what I'm looking for. He keep chatting to me though. I feel like it's me/bear in reverse a bit (maybe).

Hope your date goes well last

Do you like chatting to him 314? Will you keep it going?

Anna, how did the second date go? You definitely dodged a bullet with the first guy.

Good luck, Last, and I'm looking forward to the loo update.

Ooooh, and hope you have a lovely evening with Bacon, Freaky.

I seem to be pretty much down to one iron, Spock, who I'm hopefully meeting up with next weekend. I was messaging someone who looked/sounded really nice this week, but haven't heard from him for a few days, so I think that's another one gone...

Im going to call my iron marvel cause we spent ages talking about the films lol.
He is 39 i cheekily asked him if it was his true age after last guy was 7 years older he asked me if my teeth are my own as he went on a date where the womans teeth fell out while eating and she was double the age than she claimed!