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Tonight found keepsake card in DP wallet

130 replies

Haribogirl · 18/03/2016 21:17

So tonight snooping!! Yes I no but I have reason too

I found this keepsake plastic card that you give people with
FOR MY SOULMATE
with all things on it like
You are the only one for me
It really means so much
knowing that you care
And I love our life together
And the happy times we share
I LOVE YOU

SIGN TO HIM .... From HER .... On the back

What the fuck!!!!!

He's out tonight, and I want to text who the fuck is ...... But he'd have a story ready
But then I want to see his face when I confront him!! See what lies he can come up with!

Still part of me tells him he's not coming home, but I want to see his fucking face when I throw it at him

What would you say,

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tribpot · 18/03/2016 21:27

I'd be tempted to take it and say nothing until you know more. He can hardly ask you if he's seen it, can he?

How come he is out without his wallet?

ScarletOverkill · 18/03/2016 21:31

I don't know what I would do in your shoes OP I think if you take it and wait he'll have time to get his story straight. Maybe challenging him sooner rather than later might be the answer Flowers

ProfessorPickles · 18/03/2016 21:32

I'd have to agree that I'd take it and put it somewhere safe, then wait for more evidence I think. As hard as that is to do, it must be awful to find something like that

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Haribogirl · 18/03/2016 21:34

It's an old wallet!!

I am shaking, I'm tempted to text, I'm tempted to lock him out

He's been so nice!!!!! He's got a dual personality !!!
WTF

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ProfessorPickles · 18/03/2016 21:36

If you are done with him OP, make sure you stick to your guns and don't let him worm his way back in!
I'd be tempted to confront him face to face, over the phone won't reveal his true reaction to you and he might find it easier to lie.
I don't know if I'm alone in this but I'd like to see the deer in the headlights look on his face!

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Haribogirl · 18/03/2016 21:36

I've got to say something it's churning inside me ,

How would OW put up with seeing somebody when they know they live with a partner!!!

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Pancakeflipper · 18/03/2016 21:36

If it's an old wallet any chance it's from an old relationship?

KimmySchmit · 18/03/2016 21:37

That sounds very childish...is it an old relationship & he just keeps it for an occasional ego pump?

GlitteryFluff · 18/03/2016 21:37

Could it be old (as in before you and him were together kind of old)?

I'd take it, say nothing til I could check phone, emails, bank statements, for more evidence and then get myself organised for separating ie paperwork, solicitor if needed.

PickleSarnie · 18/03/2016 21:37

How old is the old wallet?

I've not seen those sort of cards for years and years now. Couldn't it be something from years ago?

Penguinepenguins · 18/03/2016 21:38

You say you had doubts already so no wondering your actually snooping...

And yes why is he out without his wallet?

Penguinepenguins · 18/03/2016 21:39

Sorry missed that crossed posts

If it's an old wallet unless you know of the "her" then is it possible it's so old he's forgotten about it

I was digging though drawers the other day and found something from my ex of years ago, never even realised it was there

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Haribogirl · 18/03/2016 21:40

That's what I think if I text or ring
By the time he gets home, he'd have a story ready!

But what kind of story would you have a f....ing signed plastic keepsake of some f...ing woman showing her LOVE for him!!

I'm f ... Fuming beyond words

Sorry for the swearing

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Penguinepenguins · 18/03/2016 21:42

How old is the wallet?

Belikethat · 18/03/2016 21:42

So it's signed with her name? Do you know her?

BeyonceRiRiMadonnna · 18/03/2016 21:43

......Yes I no but I have reason too

What would you say?

Nothing!

The trust is broken, there's no point to your relationship!

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Haribogirl · 18/03/2016 21:44

I've been with him 13 years lol

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Penguinepenguins · 18/03/2016 21:44

Too many questions unanswered here...

Want to help you op x

RudeElf · 18/03/2016 21:47

Fuck waiting for a story. I'd bag up his stuff and set it on the doorstep. when he turned up and saw it i'd hand him the keepsake card and shut the door. End of story. You dont need to hear any lies.

Pancakeflipper · 18/03/2016 21:50

If it's an old wallet from a previous relationship he might have just forgotten about it.

ProfessorPickles · 18/03/2016 21:50

If you've been together 13 years I can't imagine it's from before you, I agree with RudeElfs plan

EweAreHere · 18/03/2016 21:57

Sorry, OP. Good luck to you. x

cdtaylornats · 18/03/2016 21:57

I've got a soulmate, she isn't a partner, never has been, never will be. I've known her for half a century, I've no idea why we have a connection, I talk to her every couple of weeks, sometimes 10 minutes sometimes a couple of hours.

I met her once off a plane from Canada fleeing the husband who abused her.

It's not a secret her current husband knows who I am although the first time he met me was a couple of months after they married. The two of them were in the pub when I walked in and his first sight of me was his wife launching herself across the pub at me. Her brother said "oh its just C" and later on explained it.

So don't jump to conclusions.

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Haribogirl · 18/03/2016 21:58

It's not from f... Me!!!
I'm so upset

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