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Tonight found keepsake card in DP wallet

130 replies

Haribogirl · 18/03/2016 21:17

So tonight snooping!! Yes I no but I have reason too

I found this keepsake plastic card that you give people with
FOR MY SOULMATE
with all things on it like
You are the only one for me
It really means so much
knowing that you care
And I love our life together
And the happy times we share
I LOVE YOU

SIGN TO HIM .... From HER .... On the back

What the fuck!!!!!

He's out tonight, and I want to text who the fuck is ...... But he'd have a story ready
But then I want to see his face when I confront him!! See what lies he can come up with!

Still part of me tells him he's not coming home, but I want to see his fucking face when I throw it at him

What would you say,

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Haribogirl · 18/03/2016 22:00

So why the fuck don't I know off her

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Penguinepenguins · 18/03/2016 22:05

I'm assuming your male CD? I don't care usually but i think it's relevant here

I have male friends one in particular who was a rock to me in the past, the key thing is my DP knows about him and in the case you discuss your friend and her DH he knows about you

The OP, doesn't know about this woman.. It's something sucpicous to her/something new and from what she has said she has doubts

Penguinepenguins · 18/03/2016 22:06

OP I get your angry but we are all trying to help you here.

RudeElf · 18/03/2016 22:09

Penguin she's venting and in shock. Lay off eh?

Penguinepenguins · 18/03/2016 22:13

I'm trying to help actually and have said so.

But will disappear now as I'm obviously not welcome here.

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Haribogirl · 18/03/2016 22:15

I'm female
And DP is male!

Is gonna be in in next 10 mins

Why do I start

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Haribogirl · 18/03/2016 22:15

Where

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RudeElf · 18/03/2016 22:17

Do you want to end the relationship?

DayToDayGlobalShit · 18/03/2016 22:17

how old is this wallet and is it actually signed with a females name?

RudeElf · 18/03/2016 22:18

Personally. If you arent sure what you want to do i would tell him to go find somewhere else to stay tonight while you take some time to think things through. You dont have to make any decisions now. Maybe better to sleep on it.

FlyRussianUnicorn · 18/03/2016 22:22

I'd leave it in obvious view and wait for his reaction if it was me OP. Give it 10 minutes- if he says nothing, ask.

How old is the wallet? I have something similar from an old boyfriend who was my first love and gave me something similar. He died 9 months ago and I found the card he gave me when I was clearing some stuff out a few months ago. I haven't got the heart to throw it away and probably never will- I will move on one day, but he will always be my first love. It doesn't mean anything- just means he is always going to have a special place in my heart.

Penguinepenguins · 18/03/2016 22:25

I'm sorry if you miss understood my response to CD who from the post seemed to be a man. And I actually respect his post as I myself have male friends and he was talking about a relationship he (again I'm guessing) has with another lady the poster was trying to give another point of view.

I have actually been in this awful awful situation.

hilbil21 · 18/03/2016 22:26

This might be thinking outside the box... But how about just asking him about it!

harverina · 18/03/2016 22:27

You have been together 13 years so you basically need to sit down and talk to him about it. Confront him face to face and ask him who it is from etc.

No texts or phone calls needed.

ICantThinkOfAUsernameH · 18/03/2016 22:28

Just ask him if he's home soon.Flowers

MorrisZapp · 18/03/2016 22:29

How old is the wallet and why do you have reasons to snoop?

DinosaursRoar · 18/03/2016 22:29

How old is the wallet? Do you know the names of your DH's ex girlfriends? I wouldn't start with ranting if it turns out to be from a girl he went out with at school...

Do you have any other reason to think he's been cheating?

I would tell him as calmly as I could that I'd found this, hand it over and ask him if he can explain it. If there is an innocent explaination like a first flame and he's kept it for sentimental reasons, then he'll tell you straight away and not look like he's panicking.

ImperialBlether · 18/03/2016 22:30

Where is he tonight? Had you heard of this person before?

DayToDayGlobalShit · 18/03/2016 22:32

who is CD?

Penguinepenguins · 18/03/2016 22:33

A poster on first page

Penguinepenguins · 18/03/2016 22:34

cdtaylornats

notapizzaeater · 18/03/2016 22:34

I'd be fuming, has it got a copyright date on the back before he comes home so you can deflect him when he tries to tell you he's had it decades

BoneyBackJefferson · 18/03/2016 22:39

So in short, you don't trust him, you went snooping.
found something you didn't like and are now going to have it out with him.

You don't need a reason to leave/end the relationship, you could have done that when you stopped trusting him.

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Haribogirl · 18/03/2016 22:42

Look he's upstairs know toilet

Forget the wallet
Thus is a new CARD!!! I f ... Know

Going to confront now

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