Ex had the kids for two weeks daughter ended up in hospital

[Newbrummie]

Self harmed on the Wednesday morning, burn on the face - no medical treatment sort.
Had a panic attack at midnight on Sunday morning I returned midday Sunday to be told she is in hospital.
She wants to live with him now, the best she can throw at me for how awful it is living with me is that I told her if she played up I would send her to live with her dad.
Background is he abandoned us in Australia for 18 months and now he's back ready to play super dad.
Do I let her go .... She's the middle child of 4 aged 11. Others don't want to go.
Social services and cahms are involved.

[goddessofsmallthings]

I thought your solicitor was going to court on Monday. Did that not happen?

[Newbrummie]

No it didn't which annoyed me too, but I've been assured it's happening this Monday.
Over heard the conversation between them tonight when she asked if he'd found a house yet .... He said yes he's found one but he's just waiting to find out who owns it .... As aposed to just going on right move and renting one that way then like normal people 😕. Ok then.
I know I have nothing to worry about deep down

[goddessofsmallthings]

Do you think that applying for a non-molestation order when one of your dc actively wants to see her df is a good plan at this time?

I would have thought that a prohbited steps order would be more appropriate as it will enable you to recover any dc who are reluctant to return home from contact with him and prevent a repeat of the debacle that took place at the CAHMS office.

However, that said, were childcare arrangements determined during the divorce process and, if so, what was agreed?

As you've said, he's unlikely to have his own home for the dc to go to in the near future and it seems to me the way forward is to make it clear that his contact with the dc is on the basis that he sees/has all of them at the same time as it patently unfair to those that are left out if he's allowed to pick and choose who he sees.

I would also suggest that you make sure he doesn't get have any of the dc stay over with him at his df's or elsewhere on any weekend where the dc aren't required to be at school on the Monday morning.

[Newbrummie]

I'm checking the paperwork today but I think that's what we've gone with. They are talking to him in the telephone to ease any anxiety but they can't see him until that's in place. Seems common sense, also gives him time to get his shit together which he would be anyway tbh

[goddessofsmallthings]

So you're going for an ex parte PSO or has he been served notice of your application?

[Newbrummie]

Nothing has been served I haven't even seen the paperwork yet

[Newbrummie]

He got a letter telling him to stay away or an none molestation order would be sought and that's it so far