HOBBIT’S BAR – still finding it hard to move on…part 9

[bobs123]

Welcome to Hobbit’s Bar, owned by Hobbit, open to all and run by anyone who wants the job!

This is the place to come if your marriage/relationship has come to an end and you are struggling to come to terms with this. It is a place to vent, ask for advice, relate to others in the same situation, take a break and have a laugh, whatever.

There are people in this bar at all stages of separation – just separated, negotiating, mediation, court, divorced - and all reasons for this, whether it is abuse, general breakdown, financial worries, OW/OM involved, or coming to terms with a new life.

It is a place to come to for support. You are never obliged to give support to others or reply to any posts. It is ALWAYS okay to say SHIT THIS IS HARD and interrupt the giggles if you are having a tough time. No apology necessary. No one will have a go at you for what you are feeling and share on here. Divorce is a rollercoaster, we are all at different stages, so feel free to jump right in.

Some glossary terms:

1. Jess is our mascot. Owned by Hobbit, she might do requests if there are enough sausages in it for her.
2. Izzitinis are a revolting cocktail created by Izzie that only she drinks!
3. No 6’s are what we are/were married to, after Hobbit’s Twunts list. Some of us also have “pet” nicknames for our exes
4. KOKO – keep on keeping on (used a lot on here along with SHIT THIS IS HARD)
5. Ignore any exclamation marks posted by Izzie or Roz that might make their comments sounds a bit…dodgy. Something to do with their iPads having a mind of their own!
6. We all listen to WWK aka WellWhoKnew aka Mother who keeps us under control.

Our theme tune is

My name is bobs, 55, married 22 years, 2 DDs 21 & 18 who have NC with their Dad. Nisi granted last April on the basis of 2 year separation while living in the same house. Tried solicitors for over a year to sort out the financials, then mediation for 5 months which didn’t work as due to his PA nature he is all but supine and unable to contribute. Sold our family home over a year ago and have been living in rental as he had the house proceeds frozen. He has now been given a choice of accepting my proposal or going to arbitration or court.

Link to last thread, which has links to all the previous threads here

That bitch better not speak to me ever.

I want to like that braving.

This was all six years ago, you know when they were overcome by love but then decided to make their marriages work. Bless them they did try.

I want to post something funny - I am always moaning. Why is it whenever you think that absolutely nothing remotely amusing pops into your head!

bless them they did try ....
That was funny Fuckit my darlin'

fuckit Sarcasm is always funny :)

Well, I'm back from earning a crust, stuffed me face with pasta and meatballs and garlic bread, had a glass of < just the one, bobs > and I'm ready to launch myself into the fray, < trawl mumsnet> .

wise I love your pineapple pics even though you have no sodding idea what the hell we're going on about< waves at mrsc>

bobs I love your flying pigs pics, I think I recognise the one in Lycra on the right.

fuckit genius idea re dating website for dogs, Jess can vet the applicants, actually no, that's a bad idea, she'd hate ALL of them, she hates everybody, even WWK but post a pic of your doggie anyway, I luffs them.

getting I like the cut of your gib, can I buy you a drink? Pull up a stool and make yourself at home, girl, you're a keeper.

That bitch better not speak to me ever

I've made it clear to the twunt and both of my sons that I will never be in the same room as her. And both of my sons fully support me in this. DS2 also said he would never have anything to do with her. This will have far reaching implications for her and twunt.

braving I'm with you on this one my love, that bitch would run a mile rather than have a 'chat' with olhobbit

Unless the 'chat' involved a baseball bat, I ain't interested....

Accidents do happen.

Bugger - power cut - will try again.....

*Hobbit I'm ahead of you - 2nd...no 3rd sherry

"even though you have no sodding idea what the hell we're going on about" well she will do soon if MrsC get the thread reinstated (and wise has a day or so to read it!)

"I think I recognise the one in Lycra on the right." mine's the one top left trying to escape semtex's uzi. Nope, can't fly fast enough, too much of a porker and not enough gyming which he pays for but doesn't go.

Re having a "chat", well hopefully, in the not-too-distant future, when everything's done and dusted, you will be able to get up close and personal and say whateeeeeeever you want (no witnesses mind except for us lot!)

I wouldn't trust myself, bobs my love, I really wouldn't .....

Can't risk it, her being a social worker an all....

Sherry bobs, sherry? How old are ya? Ninety?
Sherry' s for old gimmers, and tastes like ass....
< not that I know what ass tastes like> [ bush bush]

I'm resurrecting the [bush] so to speak, I likes it, it makes me

Hey - i like my Aldi sherry - it's cheap, does the job, can be swigged from a wine glass or the bottle in times of need and best of all comes in litre bottles. Actually it doesn't call itself sherry - it's sort of fortified wine that tastes like sherry

Anyway, after looking at Telegraph Dating, I feel like an old gimmer if that's what i have to look forward to! Actually there was quite a nice looking, sincere sounding guy on there. But he's 50 and looking for ladies 43-50 so I'd have to lie

DJ Iz stepping up. Get those grooves on, you must remember this one. Whoop whoop!

In The Blush

Ha ha izzbob lets get in the bush!

Excuse me but cunt alert!!!

I emailed twunt a bill, the latest of the same one I paid myself, which he wasn't keen on. So, having received one today, I forwarded it to him with the invoice attached but cutting out the rest of the email, which as
Free all was addressed to me. So I've just got a reply from twunt asking why there are no words from the person who sent the invoice.

Cos it's none of his fucking business, is it!!! Fucking arrogant entitled prick.

Will I be replying to twunt? Not in a million years. I am a dickhead free zone.

Ah, calmed down now, was just going to ask Hobs for some of her beta blockers

Usual not free all

They don't seem to be fucking working any more izzien, still in a rage over "pamphletgate " and FF 's texts to me, [angry bush],

works - in moderation of course - or uzis!

Well I've found this, such a shame it doesn't come under "absolutely necessary" correspondence Maybe this may help you for some of it. I would be burning bush in your situation

Ha ha ha, I love that one izzie gonna use that next time he contacts me!
Oh bollocks, he can't, I've blocked him, have to be email then.
Tinternet being crap tonight, catch y'all later, see if it improves....

Here's another

izzie how do you do that pic thing pls

not at the bottom of where you type there are some boxes saying "choose file". Click on that and it prompts you where to get the pic from. The pic I save beforehand. I'm doing it on iPad