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Is this cheating ?

127 replies

Lilacflower · 20/12/2014 20:42

Man and woman cuddling, holding hands, general touching and kissing on the cheek. They are both married.

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FreudianStockingFiller · 20/12/2014 20:50

Not if the man and woman are married to each other and kissing, holding hands, general touching and kissing the cheek of their spouse.......no.

And your point is?

Lilacflower · 20/12/2014 20:52

both married to other people

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FreudianStockingFiller · 20/12/2014 20:52

Although they could be parent and child....

again, what is your point?

deserttrek · 20/12/2014 20:54

Lilac
This is a riddle? Yes?
They are brother and sister....haha
What's your point?

GingerbreadPudding · 20/12/2014 20:55

If my husband was doing this with another woman I'd be heartbroken.

Tobyjugg · 20/12/2014 20:56

Presumably you're witnessing this in rl while you're out somewhere?

Lilacflower · 20/12/2014 20:58

No, it was me doing it, I was the woman. Not sure if I can talk about it to anyone in real life but wanted another opinion or two.

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FelicityGubbins · 20/12/2014 20:58

It's disrespectful as hell at the very least...

mandy214 · 20/12/2014 20:58

On the basis that you're asking because your spouse is doing this with a married man / woman then yes, it would be cheating as far as I'm concerned because it sounds as though there is an emotional connection between them.

Tyzer85 · 20/12/2014 20:59

I'd consider it highly inappropriate and cheating.

FreudianStockingFiller · 20/12/2014 20:59

Have someone said you're cheating? Do you think you were?

NaiceNickname · 20/12/2014 20:59

Would you be happy with your husband doing this with another woman?

CountingThePennies · 20/12/2014 20:59

I dont think its cheating, but its something that you shouldnt really be doing

AuntieStella · 20/12/2014 21:00

What do you think your DH would conclude if he saw it?

deserttrek · 20/12/2014 21:00

Well, actually it wouldn't be cheating if they were actors and this was a scene from a Hollywood film. Hmm
Hmmmm......lots of possibilities....
But we don't know what Lilac's point is, so this is a pointless post really.

chemistc · 20/12/2014 21:01

YES it is cheating!

FreudianStockingFiller · 20/12/2014 21:02

Yes, lots of possibilities. OP I'm not sure what you're looking for.

lunar1 · 20/12/2014 21:02

I'd think it was cheating if this was my dh.

deserttrek · 20/12/2014 21:03

No, Lilac, its not cheating.
Not if you asked your DH for permission and then he gave it to you.
Why ask? I presume you are an adult?
Good luck.

Lilacflower · 20/12/2014 21:04

I just feel wrong about it, was with a colleague I've had a mad crush on that I've been trying to get over as not fair on my DH Sad Then we had team drinks and thid happened. Feel sick about it.

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NaiceNickname · 20/12/2014 21:06

Maybe tell your DH what has happened. Surely it's up to him to decide whether it's cheating or not.

Lilacflower · 20/12/2014 21:06

Just wanted to know what people thought as I ferl guilty about it.

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zaracharlotte · 20/12/2014 21:08

Yes, it is. I'd be devastated if DH did that.

originalusernamefail · 20/12/2014 21:09

The fact you feel guilty is all the answer you need..........

Rollercola · 20/12/2014 21:09

I can't believe how many posts there have been about people getting in these situations with work colleagues at the Christmas party Confused What a cliche.

Yes it's cheating. You have both cheated on your partners. If your partners knew there's a good chance they'd kick you both out and you'd lose everything.

Get a grip and stop messing about ffs.

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