Dating thread 75

[DeliberatelyDreaming]

For everyone OLD or even RL dating. Tell us your stories, share your woe's and get and give support.

Oh guys...I am shaking ans so devastated. After him proving last night that he wasnt chatting with other girls he was really funny with me all day, cold, not as nice. I checked and it seemed like he was constantly online all day on POF, so I decided to do the dirty and set up a fake profile. Favorited him and he emailed my fake profile :(

Feel so devastated.

Need hugs.

Does this mean it's over or is there a chance he is just annoyed at my mistrust or am I being hopful here? Liked him so much and we'd spent so much time together and made plans for summer holdiays.

Send you hugs izzy
I would dump him if he's chatting to other women but that's me
You deserve so much better!

Urgh, my fake profile just asked him if he was seeing anyone and he said he was but he was going to call it off because he had doubts. I asked why the doubts and he said thinking with his head instead of his heart :( Totally devastated.

Izzy, you said he proved to you that he hadn't been even opening the millions of emails he was receiving. How does that work?

Well he says to this fake profile that he started today and wasnt chatting to anyone else before. So I guess he just decided to dump me :(

Have a hug Izzy. Sorry to hear that. His loss x

Oh god so sorry izzy

Izzy What are you going to do?

I'm really sorry Izzy.

Summon up very bit of strength you have and get in there first. That's what I would do

And I'm sorry too x

Izzy :(
What an idiot he is. :(

neil I haven't plucked up the courage to be quite that blunt just yet. I think some of my insecurities (and fear of rejection) are creeping in... He has been quite chatty tonight and talked about "when we meet..." But still didn't actually suggest anything.

Folk I completely understand what you feel about your looks / body. Although I do know I have a good figure I also know I look a lot better with my clothes ON! I have a very obvious C-section scar and my stomach is just one big stretch mark! I know I'm not 'pretty' and have to settle for 'striking'. We all apart from the supermodels have the same paranoias I think!

izzy

Well, I asked him the reasons for his doubts. (all the while through this he is thinking I am another girl) He said he really liked me and that when he'd first met me he felt strong feelings towards me but that he had begun to have doubts in the past 24 hours because things were moving too fast, I lived too far away, had a child who he said was lovely but a lot of work, I had a few extra pounds (!!!)

So anyway, I called him (Didn't say what had happened) and we had a talk about doubts and he admitted he had a few and had been messaging other girls (he volunteered this information) so he is being honest. He said he likes me but he has practical doubts.

I really have no idea what to do.

He''s honest...he's a good guy....he likes me but he has doubts. I have no idea whether to just try and make it work.

I did feel a strong connection but this is obviously devastating.

A few extra pounds as in weight???

This is the trouble with online dating, candy shop syndrome!

Feel for you izzy x

Yes weight!!! So awful :(

Seriously Izzy tell him to fuck right off. Prick.

I feel so shit!

Is it something you can work through? Plus point he was honest. He is willing to discuss issues. Guess only you can figure out if he's worth it though.

He is worth it to me. But it's pretty bad, isnt it?

Well plus points are that he was honest, he told you and he only started messaging today. bad points are that he was on it in the first place, and rather than reassure you, he chose to message other women. its not v mature behaviour.

If its worth saving (on,y you can decide this) then you'll need complete transparency and honesty. A proper talk might be worth doing.

Okay. I am seeing him soon. I just feel so shit

I'm sure you do. It is a shitty situation. Id have to write down what i wanted to say. When will you see him?