Dating thread 75

[DeliberatelyDreaming]

For everyone OLD or even RL dating. Tell us your stories, share your woe's and get and give support.

Yes Bigbird but they the ones that break your heart

Folk if ever there is a time to be open, I think it is now. Given what you have said about your past, I can understand why you find it hard to reveal your true feelings, but I actually think this guy sounds very important to you, and you to him. It would be such a shame to let that pass without understanding the true depth of your feelings.

I know that is actually a really scary thing to suggest. You could be setting yourself up to be utterly heartbroken, but the quote is famous for a reason.... 'Tis better to have loved and lost than never to have loved at all. (Tennyson).

Pink They certainly do, but I think I am a romantic - destined to be heartbroken...

You are quite right BigBird.

I still think that, logistically, it would be difficult to continue it. But I think I need him to know how I feel/felt for me as much as anything/anyone else.

It's odd. I haven't had a desperate, giddy sense of being 'in love' with him - it sort of feels/felt deeper and more steady than that.

When he emailed yesterday, it upset me to read that being in a relationship had made him feel 'lonely' at times. I'm guessing he means he was lonely because he loved someone who wasn't there, and not lonely in the sense that people in dysfunctional relationships feel lonely - you know how there's nothing lonelier than being in the same room as someone you don't care about and you know doesn't care about you... He said from the start he wasn't looking for anything long term any more than I was. I sort of wonder if maybe he found himself in something he hadn't really planned on finding himself in.

Folk I understand that description of loneliness far too well... It is what stops me going insane on my lonely days now (at least now I know that I feel lonely because I am alone...)

You both sound as if you're in the same place folk. When will you meet?

I've never felt as lonely as I did in my marriage towards the end. Horrid.

He's suggested Friday. That would work for me, too.

Ok, guess you'll have contact in between?

I'm guessing so... I'm just playing it by ear...

I hope it works out the way you want it to.

Folk following the thread tonight I'm glad you are thinking of meeting him. I agreed with what others have said you will always wonder what if otherwise.

Mini I am going to meet him. Well I told him last night that I would. Friday is a long way off... Anything could happen between now and then!

Rummi Thanks. But I don't know, at the moment, how I want it to turn out. It just feels a bit drama filled at the moment and I'm not really into doing drama. The whole "It's over... I miss you... I still love you can we talk..?" Isn't really me.

Hi All!

I'm new to the dating thread, but here's my current situation...

Met a nice guy, had 4 dates with him in the space of a week, we got a bit drunk on Friday and dtd...but...we're going out tomorrow night.

Does this sound like it's going good? I am CLUELESS!!
He's not much of a texter, but we always have a lot to say when we see each other, and I think he likes me...He's asked me on 3 dates out of the 5.

Missfish, just go with your heart and enjoy it for what it is. Who knows if it will last as you get to know each other but no point worrying over it. Enjoy the date

Whoop whoop, another date with the lovely man from the weekend tomorrow night

Missfish that sounds like it's going well to me! Tbh if the chance came up to dtd after 4 dates and I liked the guy I would... due to childcare issues I only have a proper full night off from the kids every 2 weeks or so, so logistically it's tricky... I say take the chance for fun when you can!

Is it a worry if things get comfortable fast in a relationship?

Do you mean comfortable as in boring and predictable or comfortable as in totally relaxed in each others company?

neil A bit of both! I guess I am just comparing myself to my friends. Back at work today and discussing what we had been up to over the weekend - there were a couple of comments that it should be all exciting and going out places at this stage. We are both quite low maintenance though and he doesn't have much spare cash. I just wasn't sure if it was usual but maybe because we spend a couple of days together at a time it just got to be normal to do every day stuff together like going to the supermarket. I guess I just don't want him to get bored.

I wouldn't give it too much thought. One persons usual is another persons unusual.
It's only a problem if you start wanting completely different things. There's no rules to any of this. If you're both happy then sod what someone elses idea of protocol is. It's your life.

Quite agree with neiljames - it's lovely to feel comfortable with someone soon into the relationship.

Neiljames gives sound advice listen to him

I'm like that too Giggly, with my ex we were doing all the mundane things early in the relationship. It was still fun tho

Have date tonight. It's actually with the guy I mentioned upthread who drifted off for a few days. I decided not to be such a fucking diva. He phoned me last night and he's great to talk to. I'm HORRIBLY nervous - even though I've updated my profile about the weight gain, there is always that moment when someone first sees you and you hope to god they won't have a look of disappointment in their eyes. I guess I'll just make sure my chest is on show and smile widely. Hope for the best.

Oh and I know it's not relationship material - he's 24 and I'm 52, but a woman has neeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeds.

Hey a bit jealous of all this dating..........I separated from my wife at the start of the year and I really miss her and now I would be happy for a female friendship for a walk, drink , meal etc

Its soooooo bloody annoying in this limbo phase when your not ready for dating yet but actually miss the dating bit if that make sense

Good luck all x

I loathe dating. But it is the only way I get access to young flesh without being arrested. :)