Dating thread 75

[DeliberatelyDreaming]

For everyone OLD or even RL dating. Tell us your stories, share your woe's and get and give support.

I don't care, he is sweet. I can't really say why, I choose to talk about my dating life, he doesn't and to talk about his seems unfair. Anyway, sweet, kind, generosity of spirit, however you choose to describe someone. I choose sweet.

Oh dear, I have been following all your lows and highs since I first posted...and now I need a pep talk.

I've been talking to a guy for 6 weeks, we met three times. Msgd most days, mostly started by him. It was lovely banter, really funny, sexy, sweet. And then suddenly, he disappeared. I haven't heard from him in a week. He did pretty much all the chasing and now he's just gone. I don't understand! I just don't understand why men make sooooo much effort to chase, to just disappear suddenly.

oh giggle I am sorry. it doesn't make sense does it. its easier said than done but look back at the rules and remind yourself of them. yesterday I was saying to myself in my head your the prize (I forget which rule number that is sorry)

dreaming sweet it is then

Giggle In your shoes I would send him one text just to ask if he is ok. We can all immediately look for negatives, usually as they are negative, but sometimes something else may be the cause for the silence. He may be ill (fingers crossed he isn't) family issues, anything. One last text, if he doesn't reply, you have your answer.

Minime I think sweet is, well sweet.

I think you are right DD. Sometimes it is easy to leap to assumptions when these guys might genuinely have something that has stopped them thinking about things for a few days. I like to think that most blokes aren't actually out to hurt or upset women. Hopefully I'm right - keeps me sane...

Thank you. I am really surprised. I'll leave it a couple more days and get in touch one more time. I wish they would just say they're just not feeling it anymore, than just disappear. After six weeks of daily contact, it (ridiculously) does mean you miss it when it suddenly goes, and makes you wonder what you did that was so bad.

giggle there could be a real reason or a man version of a reason. I'd send one last text too just to round it off for u if nothing else

Giggle that happened to me toosent messages cos I was so confused and nothing,no explanation,move on as quick as possible,I have.

Thread 75, already?!!

Right, I have a quick query.

I'm going to see my boyfriend this weekend. We're going out for the day for a picnic to a beautiful little market town.

I've found a beautiful b&b a couple of miles out of the town centre - really gorgeous. Everything about it isk well, delightful!

I'd really like to book it as a surprise and not tell him until it's time to come home and we go there instead. Only for one night, but I just thought it would be nice.

I know it probably doesn't sound like much, but I've never done anything like that before - never had the opportunity to do anything spontaneous with my exH. And didn't really feel inclined to either. He'd have just been disparaging about my efforts.

So, do you think I should do it?

Yes I think it's a lovely thing to do!

I think you should Folk, it sounds good.

That's my decision made, then

Thank you!

Mm... I think it's good if you like to show him your personality and that includes spontaneity. The only possible risk I see is if he has any plans that night, or he doesn't have overnight clothes etc. So I would maybe drop hints that it may be overnight or other. Well, some ways to hint that, or plan that aspect.

Or if you feel it is too risky, then maybe drop hints on the day... about how much you like that B&B and let him take charge and go from there instead... ?

What if he books a room there though Maisie?

Pack some pants for him?? Spontaneity is good.

Hehe. I dunno... Ok, now you guys are making it too complicated. ;)
I was just thinking, should the guy still make the move, but shouldn't the guy be doing this kind of thing ? But you what, sod it. If you feel it, do it. I think we are too old to play this kind of guessing games. :)

Folk has made a decision already before I posted, so yes. Sorted. Lol... Ok, I better go back to my okc and check my messages.

I'd like it anyway. I don't think there's any real rules or etiquette anymore.

Maisie The plans are to spend the night and Sunday together anyway, the only difference will be where we sleep. I wouldn't just do it on a complete whim!

Rummi Already thought of that . I was going to pack some pants and take a toothbrush.

Neil That's what I'm thinking. We're going for a walk in the countryside and a picnic tomorrow. The weather forecast is lovely. I just think it would be a nice way to end the day.

Besides, we keep saying we'll do it and never quite get round to it...

folk sounds lovely.

Odd thing last night had a whatapp message of someone I thought I'd blocked.
Long story short 18 months ago met a guy off pof I'll call p , well we chatted but he decided I wasn't for him, anyway he set me up with his mate we h ad a fling last year but a slight falling out in November any way didn't see him again and then I didn't hear from him after New year's eve.
I drunkly texted p ( the fling blocked me ) just to see how fling was and I got nasty reply saying fling don't want to know me etc ,thought that's fine and blocked him.
Last night message off p he said it was to see how I was.

Why now ?
It hurt me last night as I'd really liked the fling we had a great six weeks never had sex but we're close.

No real point to post but just wanted to get it off .y chest

giggle I've had exactly the same happen to me recently, I let him do all the chasing, he was very keen to see me a lot and he was the one who initiated all the 'are we seeing each other' talks. Then I get a Whatsapp saying we shouldn't see each other as he's wasting my time and doesn't want a relationship. I guess at least I got an answer but why string it out and have so many lovely dates??

I was just wondering what everyone's views are about sex on the first date? In the case of drinks late in the evening etc.

I would do it on a first date turn he will think your easy good luck though

Would not do it on the first date he will think your easy turn good luck though

I agree big bird not all guys out there wanna hurt you ladies