Dating thread 75

[DeliberatelyDreaming]

For everyone OLD or even RL dating. Tell us your stories, share your woe's and get and give support.

Two weeks...he's away :(

Oh that's a long time to stew. Where's he gone?

Holiday?

working :(

Does he know you want to talk and maybe salvage?

he doesnt know about fake profile

No but does he know that you may want to work things out on his return?

Do you know what I'd suggest, esp as he's away now? Is to behave as if its ended. Get through these next two weeks as best you can, then if you still want to talk do so, but it maybe that the space gives you clarity.

Oh yes, he knows.

Lots of self comfort for you for the next 2 weeks. Whatever gets you through :(

He basically said to the other woman he's going on a date with me, so he can't date her - but that he doubts it will work out so he will contact her in a couple of weeks.

:/ not brilliant is it?

Not that it's any consolation Izzy but it's better you know what he's like now rather than further down the line. Could you really want a relationship with someone where you're constantly looking over your shoulder and biting your tongue just in case you pissed him off and he decided to bail out?
I used to have a boss like that. If we spent too much time in the canteen, he'd walk in waving application forms at us, saying if we didn't want the job, there's plenty who'll take our place.
Don't blame yourself for this. It's his personality. His flaw. His ego that needs massaging.

No of course not. It just feels bad now

Good morning, all.

Thanks for the PMs and support yesterday. I was feeling really crappy. I will reply later - don't have time now. Feel a bit better after a good night's sleep. I think that being asked out by someone else and concerns raised by my boyfriend over the past 24 hours have just made me realise that the reason my relationship suits/suited me was because he does live so far away that I can/could keep him very seperate from everything else. The thought of dating someone who lives close enough to me for us to really be part of each other's lives would be something I couldn't manage. That brought up all the stuff about how I feel about myself again.

Izzy I can't believe that about your man! What an arse I don't know if I could try and work it out with proof so concrete. But I hope you can resolve this. The next couple of weeks are going to be tough, but you know where we are

Don't think I'd be able to either, I'd be eaten up with jealousy and be wanting to confront him.

Well my ex has deleted his profile on pof. His new woman must be making him very happy

Just joined discussion having read all(!) of this thread - which has some resonances for me...
Just wanted to add for Izzy- I think you need to disappear yr other profile woman during this 2 weeks too so that you don't have to worry about that being another problem, something you have to explain - it may also make him think he's better off with you than a cyberwoman he's been a bit too open with...
And I say that as someone who has just been disappeared on by the one man I had ever met in cyberspace that I felt connected with!

Feeling a bit better today. Was awful yesterday. What an arsehole

Just realised no chance of mr it wanting me back I'm so upset today I saw him this morning on way to work heart skipped a beat when realised it was him

Sorry I know I'm pathetic it was only 3 months but he made me happy

Can If you have doubts and feel bad about going away, then why not just take a step back and actually say that you are not ready for going away yet and hope that he understands ? It does not mean the end, but if you told him this truth, then at least he can be understanding and start to really understand you as a person too. There is no rush. Maybe a lot of past demons also come up too, and you do have to work through those, and it does not have to be "an end it all" kind of stage. I did go through something similar with my ex as well. I saw the One Day movie, was sobbing my eyes out and the same night, I dumped him. We are still talking to me still. :) But he has also kind of told me about his past too, which haunted him a bit. So, have faith and have hope. Only time can tell. What you probably did in the past was finding yourself, and "The One" was also the better one out of the rest. But dating now, is more a case of, does the feeling develop slowly over time, and if you can find joy together again. That is what I have found out for myself now.

Folk So some inspirational thoughts came to mind ? That is great. :) I love that feeling of clarity. I was going to write something too but I need to think about it a bit more. Will maybe pm you much later. I had a similar situation with my ex, and it was indeed ldr too.

Jesy if u have fallen for someone don't matter how long it was

I never meant to fall for him I was determined not to but I did x he so supportive and kind even now he is being but he not intrested in me that way
Admits himself I lasted longer than he thought please don't judge him for that comment.
I guess I'm just very unhappy

I officially feel like shit and sworn off OLD for a while.

I feel like the older men seem to have an agenda or they're not in relationships for a reason. Or is that just me?

I feel I need to get my confidence back, lose a little bit of weight and then don't jump at first idiot (sorry man) to swing by.

jesy I know it doesn't sound much but the way IT guy's treated you recently says more about you and him I think in a good way. Ok it's not worked out, ok you shouldn't have fallen for him but it's happened and you're now upset because it's ended.

But how many men are as thoughtful, kind etc as he is? Not many. Take it on board and he's being a good friend now.

Super sorry you're having a rubbish time too. Seems to be going about a lot on this thread at the moment. If u need a laugh go on tinder I joined yesterday absolutely hilarious. Worth it just to keep literally laughing out loud :)

Hi all, I would really appreciate your advice. I'm meeting a really nice man who I have been emailing on a website for a week. We really get on-we have a lot in common and he gets my sense if humour. My worry is, what if I don't fancy him when we meet? What do you do?

Bleeding extremes I'm not kidding! Met a guy n started chatting yesterday. Talked me into taking his number so then started texting. He then moans cos I'm still online