DH caught masterbating

[Alexa007]

I know most ppl on this board are going to say this is no big deal but I walked in on my DH wanking in the shower today. Door was open I walked in to put some stuff away.

Naive maybe but we have talked about this before and he's always maintained he never does it and doesn't need to as we have sex regularly. We have been married 3 years, together 7 and have a dc aged nearly 1.

So now firstly I feel like he has been lying to me all this time. Fine if when we'd talked about it he said he'd always done it etc. but now I keep thinking back to times when he's been off taking super long in the shower....

Also, we have just come back from holiday together, if he was feeling horny why didn't he just get me, our lo was sleeping at the time.

I feel hurt.

Why is it so difficult for some of you to accept that some people truthfully don't masturbate?

The popular consensus is that I'm a lying wanker, so at least I've got all bases covered, Juliaparker25

From this thread I have learned a lot of women would never believe their partners if they said they don't want/watch porn. The other lot basically think all men that say they don't are liars. (them lying bastards, THE LOT OF THEM) Thread closed, let's move on!

Well I've learned some of you swallow anything

And that would make you a man-hater who believes that people either fit in with your world view or they are a liar.

I don't really see the problem. Maybe he just wanted some quick "satisfaction" but didn't feel like a shag. I know sometimes I feel like that (tmi), doesn't mean I don't fancy DP like mad.

If we were discussing a particularly pious observant man,no sexual partner
Predominately immersed in cerebral and or faith matters
The guy you're shacked up with and shagging,nope don't believe he doesn't masturbate

vivacia you can try to fool yourself [wank]...... I mean

As for the OP, poor poor guy. Isn't everyone allowed some alone time

What's incredible about some of these posts is that apparently, the writers know the intimate masturbatory habits of the entire male world population.

Who knew that such knowledge existed on a parenting website?

Not as daft as thinking your sexual partner has never cracked one off
Just cause that's what he tells you
Aye right

I haven't mentioned my partner at all.

tbf vivacia didn't say her partner didn't.

Tbh not sure I would want to be with a man who had so little sex drive that he didn't do it. I imagine such a man as being about as good in bed as a soggy blanket shudders

On a serious note perhaps he never told you OP because he knew it would upset you you would utterly overreact

I know my OH does it, though we never really talk about it, as I'm just a total ninja when it comes to things like that. Any woman who doesn't think her man has scored a few own goals is either totally blind or in denial.

Oh keep up,if I were specifically addressing you I'd say your name
I didn't address any particular poster by name
I'm addressing this notion that women think their partner doesn't masturbate

Vivacia "Why is it so difficult for some of you to accept that some people truthfully don't masturbate?" Either you are talking about yourself in which case I call your bluff or your partner/ex as above or you are believing other peoples' nonsense.

So, just to clarify. Everyone masturbates, or they are liars, or they're neither and they're just shit in bed?

The guy you're shacked up with and shagging,nope don't believe he doesn't masturbate

Who was this addressed to then? The OP?

Course they all do
That's what person is good for
Stains,like blood,mud,sperm

Course they all do
That's what persil is good for
Stains,like blood,mud,sperm

Yup viv exactly, phew didn't think you'd ever cotton on.

Its human nature!

Everlong is right.

They all do it.

We all do it.

It's a breach of privacy to question further.

Bemused anyone asks

I can't imagine questioning my OH about it, firstly why would I need to as its blatantly obvious and secondly what in the name of nelly does it have to do with me anyway. Rather that than him shacking up some bimbo.

And back to the OP, I wouldn't look on it as lying rather than a little fib through what is likely embarrassment.

Not all men masturbate. A quick google shows the rates tend to drop quite sharpish after 50 years old.

Looks like though if you take western males between the teenage years to 50ish those that don't are statistically insignificant. How often people masturbate is also very variable.