New man. Personal grooming question.

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Namechanged for this one.

I'm in my late thirties, met a new bloke, haven't done the deed yet.

So, the question I need to ask is what do men like these days with regard to pubes. I was married for 14 years and basically just kept things trimmed down there.
Don't want to end up in bed with this guy and have him turned off by my possibly 'retro' style!

I'm happy to keep up with the times but don't want to go all out bald down there if it's not necessary.

Any tips?

I dont understand what you dont understand as i remove all my underneath stragglers and the areas around my most sensitive part I cant imagine it would feel better without hair on my little mound! Am i doing it wrong? Is DH doing it wrong?

Possibly?? have you actually tried it without hair?

Probably WAY too much detail, but oral sex doesnt just include licking one or two little areas! or it certainly doesnt for me! I can assure you it heightens the sensations A LOT when there arent any pubes in the way, and I find men are much happier to go down there when they dont have to spit out a forest afterwards

Dont knock it until you've tried it

I did take it all off once and all i got was stubble - that was bloody uncomfortable, its actually the only time I havent enjoyed oral sex as it was sore, itchy and i looked like a twat.

However, i can assure you i have never has any reluctance for anyone to go down there! Obviously i must have a very enticing fanjo if men will suck it up and put up with my natural state in order to please me.

[punches air on attractiveness of vagina!]

I did take it all off once and all i got was stubble - that was bloody uncomfortable, its actually the only time I havent enjoyed oral sex as it was sore, itchy and i looked like a twat

You looked like a twat, or your twat did?

Nobody has ever been reluctance to go down on me either!! I just dont like watching someone picking pubes out of their mouth after!

You have to keep going when you shave, it takes a few weeks then you dont get stubble or itchiness any more.

Fuck that.

Cant be arsed.

Im going to grow it out and knit it into a scarf like suggested above.

I'd go for a a full grown lady garden, preferably died bright pink.

Boosterseat

LOL go for it..

I once went for a run in my pre-shaving days, I dont wear underwear under my running kit and when I got back the front of my trousers resembled a small wig. Taking them off reminding me of splitting velcro...

I think that might have been when I first got out the razor..

Proper laughing out loud at Gone's small wig!!!! I hope they weren't white running bottoms.

I shave everything underneath, and also at the sides, leaving a neat triangle of lush, unrestrained growth. I shave every day. If I leave it longer than every other day I get a rash, but a daily shave with a sharp razor seems to keep my skin fine.

There is one awkward bit sort of at the apex of my outer labia at the top where I can't angle the razor for absolute smoothness, but it only leaves the tiniest bit of stubble, and I still prefer the way that feels.

As a mid-40s bloke, I have to say I hate the shaved/waxed look, it's real off-putting turnoff and the overall effect is all rather Tesco Value Chicken.

I love a full bush and I love going down. Pubes between the teeth is quite all right by me ;-)

SonOfAradia
As a mid-40s bloke, I have to say I hate the shaved/waxed look, it's real off-putting turnoff

Interesting. I have 10+ years on you and I wonder if it's an age thing.

I love a full bush and I love going down. Pubes between the teeth is quite all right by me ;-)

You might not get a snog afterwards though

arf at Tesco Value Chicken!!!!! I'll be having a good look next time I'm perusing the poultry aisle in Tesco and will then mentally add a little wig.
Fab thread.

I think men should at the very least trim. My hubby absolutely would not. His pubes were (and probably still are) about 8 inches deep.

oh, I do like a man that actually LIKES women

I think men should at the very least trim. My hubby absolutely would not. His pubes were (and probably still are) about 8 inches deep.

I bet he would have had he known it makes him look bigger... Mine does and it's much nicer IMO

DH has agreed to offer his own pubic hair for my new scarf, I'm fair and he's very dark so we are going for stripes.

Il also let him know it will make him look bigger, he will be chuffed in sure.

Im*

PLEASE can someone answer this question for me:

What do folk mean when they say they 'keep it short'?

I mean - what - do you trim the length of with a pair of scissors and keep it to, like an inch long or something? Half an inch? Do you put in a few feathery layers for movement? Doesn't cutting it make it coarser? And stubblier?

I find all this so puzzling. I've dispensed with mine occasionally for my own pleasure but never for a man.

I understand shaving waxing it off in whole or in part - especially if you essentially have sideburns on your inner thigh - but the 'keeping it short' biz has me COMPLETELY baffled.

Ta!

*off

Short for me is scissors to about a cm or so in length. Or using a shit electric razor thing I have to go over it

Really? Is this a thing? Do lots of people do it? Does it still feel soft? I would have thought only a cm would mean it sort of stuck up a bit and was rather bristly but maybe no. . .

Hmmm. I might give this a go. 'Im Indoors can't bear it when I do a shave - a) I always cut the bloody great mole conveniently situated on m'minge and b) the first night's all right and then after that it's all scratching and stubble and me moaning and complaining like I've got crabs.

He'll take one look at it and go, "You've been on Mumsnet again haven't you"

Not bristly, nope
Used to use that Quattro razor which has a bikini trimmer on it. That works if you take the guard off

Perhaps I'll give it a shot with DH's hair cuttery things. Although - for ages I thought I'd managed to get thrush in my belly button, it was so red and itchy for days; turned out I'd got several of his bloody hairs in there from his last haircut and they itched like billy-oh.

If that's what a few hairs does to my belly-button Christ knows what it's going to do to me flaps

Eyes Invent the mumsnet pube haircut.

I shave the edge bits (kind of bikini line). Any more than that and I get sore irritated skin and in growing hairs. I think there's a revival for pubic hair! I'm a 20 something single and I've never had a man look aghast that I have pubic (and sometimes leg and armpit) hair