New man. Personal grooming question.

[MyPhoneIsMyWorld]

Namechanged for this one.

I'm in my late thirties, met a new bloke, haven't done the deed yet.

So, the question I need to ask is what do men like these days with regard to pubes. I was married for 14 years and basically just kept things trimmed down there.
Don't want to end up in bed with this guy and have him turned off by my possibly 'retro' style!

I'm happy to keep up with the times but don't want to go all out bald down there if it's not necessary.

Any tips?

Lady I normally shave once a week, but yes it does get stubbly. With waxing, you actually have to let it grow about a1/4 inch before you go, otherwise the wax won't stick properly.

Also, try shaving with shaving oil. It makes a work of difference for me in regards to bumps!

He's sent you photos?! I thought it was just kids that did that

Wow, CarpeV - I always thought it was an urban myth about getting a baldy foof. Even more reason to stick with the Jackson brothers for now!

Wouldn't it be great if at census time they also asked about your pubes. Then we'd know what's normal...

I wish hairless was out of fashion. As someone else said, it's not so much pre pubescent as old lady. Urgh.

Mind you, I couldn't be arsed even if it did look good. Tidy is fine.

Thanks reggie any particular shaving oil? Like just from Boots or sommat?

You hear about people (yes Katie Price I'm looking at you) who go on about being "as bald as a badger down there" (her words, not mine.. and wtf, badgers aren't bald but whatever) so boastfully. Makes me feel a bit like there must be some way of always being silken smooth and never getting stubble. But actually I bet she gets just as stubbly as the rest of us, she just likes to put that image across that she is such a perfect sexy siren. Humph. I guess that's why the more susceptible men boys expect it. I hate media and modern porn for that.

And as an aside, the bronze turkey fell out of favour, with people preferring the look of a white turkey, as once the feathers have been plucked there are dark quills left. As a dark-haired person, I'm just sayin'.

Lady a friend of mine got laser hair removal (she lives on an island so is in a bikini 24/7) and hers is actually as smooth as a (bald) badger. Very expensive and pretty painful too, so she says! Still, if I won the lottery, I'd definitely do it.

They don't seem to have shaving oil for women, so it's almost always under the men's grooming section (and sometimes called beard oil which makes me laugh!), but yes, Boots has some, or can get it anywhere online.

Yes, he's sent me photos!! It's obviously part of 'sexting'. This is why I know he's not a keeper - it's fun, fun, fun.

We knew each other from a distance, then after exchanging numbers over time we are at this point. All started off as friendly texts, then vaguely flirty, then very flirty and now after about six months we are at the point of actually dtd.

I didn't realise sending pics was unusual - feel a bit now.

Don't! My DP and I were long distance for 2 years, and there were lots of photos exchanged! I think it's really quite common.

MyPhone - I don't think nob shot pics are unusual at all. I have a collection on my phone and emails. I've even got cum videos - which are spectacularly awful! I had no idea when I first started internet dating that men were so keen on sharing! Used to amuse me but it was invariably accompanied by the request for tits or foof - which was always a no. Strange old business.

reggie wow, didn't know it was really possible! Bit of your friend, though don't envy the price and the ow factor. Thanks for the 'beard' oil tip, I'll go search for some and stroke my chin knowingly at the checkout person!

MyPhone don't feel blushy. A lot of people have done it. It backfired on me once though, a (dickhead) ex started saying he was going to put them up when I decided I didn't want to see him anymore. Just a warning. Try to make them not too identifiable!

Sending pics isn't unusual IME

lady The fairly tame pics I've sent him are neck down, so I'm alright I think .

All off here. Feels much much cleaner and doesnt itch at all if you shave every day (also only take a couple of minutes to keep on top of it)

I would never go back to having pubes again!

Sex feels better, oral sex feels better and I feel sexier. (not that I am getting it right now, but still holding out hope lol)

If you are performing oral sex correctly providing the undercarriage and clit area are debris free what does it matter if the mons pubis has its natural silky hair

I dont even understand this? surely its not about whether you are performing it correctly or not! from experience it feels better hairfree and I am only imagine its nicer to give when someone is hair free. WIN WIN.

Ok, this is a VERY direct question Goneinapuff, but how on earth do you safely take a razor to your outer labs? Can't believe I just asked that.

"Sex feels better, oral sex feels better and I feel sexier. (not that I am getting it right now, but still holding out hope lol)"

No, I didn't think you were getting it right now. I'm sure there would have been loads of typos if you were.

Loving this thread! I remember some years ago I was in a taxi with my FIL and 6yo niece who, quite randomly said her mummy waxes her bum and carried on for ages about it.... I was like at my FILs transfixed cerise face at the thought of his daughters hairy arse!!!

Sorry off the subject.... Shaved undercarriage, short trimmed uppercarriage for me

Myphone I use one of those really expensive razors with the 'pad' things on which have oils or whatever embedded into them, I have been shaving down there for years so it is kind of second nature now, you dont even have to be very bendy you can do it all by 'feel' alternatively do it when you are i the bath.

Cant believe I just typed that out !!! lol !!

Grunt I will have you know that I am very good at multi-tasking !! anything is possible

I use DP shaving foam he doesent mind on bit I tell you! the more inner bit is actually a lot easier to keep smooth, as someone said, it takes a minute if not less every couple of day. wash my hair every other day do my bits every other day, alternate
the bikini sides, another story, red stubles and painful but I go to the swimming pool twice a week so thinking about having the permanent removal done.
Pics are fun!

I always thought it was an urban myth about getting a baldy foof

I wish I had known about the "myth", would have been less of a shock.

I keep checking mine for thinning or bald spots.

I wonder if a comb over would work in the earlier stages of loss ?

goneina blowjobs would be better if i didnt have a gag reflex is that the next step? removing the gag reflex?

I dont understand what you dont understand as i remove all my underneath stragglers and the areas around my most sensitive part I cant imagine it would feel better without hair on my little mound! Am i doing it wrong? Is DH doing it wrong?

Also on a side note, the one time i went all off the regrowth was awful, stubble is a bitch! whats all that about? Friction burns from stubble or DH having to remove the odd stray from his teeth? The dirty bastard doesnt floss anyway im doing him a favour.

blowjobs would be better if i didnt have a gag reflex is that the next step? removing the gag reflex?

The hand acting as a "drill stop" trick ?

drill stop

For mutual benefit I would need to find a way to wire DHs tongue with a variable vibrate function - fair is fair after all.

This is extreme body modification going on here, endless possibilities!

I must be missing a trick, because sex doesn't feel any different to me whatever shape my minge is and I have covered pretty much every style there is. Surely all the bits that really set your pulse racing are not hairy anyway?