New man. Personal grooming question.

[MyPhoneIsMyWorld]

Namechanged for this one.

I'm in my late thirties, met a new bloke, haven't done the deed yet.

So, the question I need to ask is what do men like these days with regard to pubes. I was married for 14 years and basically just kept things trimmed down there.
Don't want to end up in bed with this guy and have him turned off by my possibly 'retro' style!

I'm happy to keep up with the times but don't want to go all out bald down there if it's not necessary.

Any tips?

MyPhone, if he is not a keeper, then in all honesty you probably won't remember what he looks like & he won't remember what you look like in about 6 months time. I've done plenty of casual sex in the last 8years since ex-H left & in all honesty I can't remember what their pubes looked like. I'm willing to bet that none of them will remember mine either.

Have fun - if you feel like having trendy pubes then go off & experiment with that, but don't do it to please your new shag buddy. Also if you are going for waxing, prepare yourself to have to kneel on all fours to get your butt crack done. That was the biggest shock of all for me and if there had been a pillow - I would have bitten it. I'm fairly sure I whimpered!!!!

Have it however you've been happy with it up until now. No bloke worth spending time with will care what you do or don't do.

Would anyone here seriously be disgusted or think worse of a bloke if they didn't police their pubes before sleeping with you?

Jsut wanted to add that when I first shagged had 'liaisons' with the husband, he had in fact shaved his balls especially for the occasion.

He was actually quite concerned over whether it was expected or not. I pissed myself laughing had never seen anyone who had done that before, and told him so. Now he only does it when he's got a bit of time on his hands. He also shaved his belly once. That was weird.

I will be using the phrase 'minge topiary' should the topic ever come up in real life. Excellent phrase

Would anyone here seriously be disgusted or think worse of a bloke if they didn't police their pubes before sleeping with you?

Yeah I would. I don't think I've ever slept with a bloke with pubes.

He's sent you cock pics?

oh, problem solved. Dump him already, the guy is a tool.

whats wrong with sending cock pics?? its fun!!

in.exchange I mean...

its rank!

Hi there
Just self shaving for me. Waxing?? Ouch!!! Once and never again.

AKiss I feel old! I've slept with plenty of blokes and they all had pubes, but most of them were several years ago before the whole shave-em brigade got hold. I can't imagine anything worse than seeing a cock with no hair tbh, so maybe that's why I don't see anything wrong with my own.

Blimey AKiss, I've never slept with a bloke who didn't have pubes.

Now have visions in my head of two sets of stubble rubbing up against each other for really harsh post-sex rash.

MyPhone glad you made a decision you feel comfortable with! Now, just have fun!

This conversation is so funny. I love mumsnet.

"Jackson 5" made me roar with laughter!

For those of you who keep it short but natural, how do you trim? With scissors? Garden shears? Chainsaw?

MyPhone - you've seen photos of his cock?? WTF?

The world is such a bizarre place.

I did briefly date a guy who shaved his pubes. He only did it to make his cock look bigger. The effect was like a plucked chicken.

Verity - my ladyshave has things like you get for clippers, that allow you to trim to a certain length.

Oh NO!!! Does this mean I have to make an investment in my pubes? Jeez, I feel so outdated.

Nice littlw rectangle lol

I like shaved blokes, and I think exchanging pics with someone you are comfortable with is fun. Maybe I am a weirdo...
There is no stubble rubbing and no pain whatsoever after, if anyrhing a bit more sticky and noisy

as in "slap" noisy.

oh gosh did I just write that??

ew! Reason enough not to then. I prefer the velcro effect

I tried shaving it all off once. It was so uncomfortable as the hairs grew back and I didn't like it - felt a bit pre-pubescent, never again. I do aim to keep it nicely trimmed, but sometimes it gets overgrown jungle! DH prefers it trimmed but has never complained. I use his hair clippers to trim (approx 1cm long). I wouldn't want DH to be pubeless either.

I only ever had a 'bikini wax' (sides) for my wedding. Torture. We went to scotland for honeymoon and every time I shivered - often - it was agony. Ingrown, itchy. Just horrible.

Never again. I don't do anything at all and I'd be horrified if a bloke shaved anything. I'd rather have pubes curling out of bikini bottoms than the torture of getting rid of them.

It doesn't look early teenage once off. Our bodies look nothing like 12 year olds.

What it looks nearer to is Old Lady.

Shock of my life when I started changing adult nappies on a regular basis and discovered we all get Hollywooded by time itself.

I'm hanging on to my fluffy bits with both hands (but not in public) as an anti aging measure.

Plus I look like a badly plucked hen if I do whip it off.

Guys do ask other guys (albeit in a bit of a different way )

I'm just wondering, to those who keep it all off, are you always smooth? For the shaving fans, how long do you wait between shaves? I can never have more than 2 days without visible regrowth (sorry if TMI) and if i try to shave it every two days i get pain, itchy and red bumps (again, srry)

I'd love to stay permanently smooth round the bikini but surely everyone has to go through a 'stubble period', whether wax, shave or veet?