New man. Personal grooming question.

[MyPhoneIsMyWorld]

Namechanged for this one.

I'm in my late thirties, met a new bloke, haven't done the deed yet.

So, the question I need to ask is what do men like these days with regard to pubes. I was married for 14 years and basically just kept things trimmed down there.
Don't want to end up in bed with this guy and have him turned off by my possibly 'retro' style!

I'm happy to keep up with the times but don't want to go all out bald down there if it's not necessary.

Any tips?

All the posts I've read here say they ''feel cleaner'' seem to have been mis-interpreted as ''being cleaner / pubes are dirty.''

Weird.....

And get them all off - both genders; no, it doesn't make one look like a kid, yes, it feels better in the mouth, yes it feels way, way, WAY better during penetration.

And I loved the reaction to the SMS cock shot, calling the police indeed, yet op said she is gagging for it, so his message obviously worked.

And I see AF has a new friend, hello Badger.

AF and I have crossed words previously. She accused me of being attracted to her too, and I see she called you a wanker also? I'd have thought this would have been classed as personal attack and as such should be removed under MN T&C's.

Why the hell would you bleach your anus? FFS the world is mad.

Hi cronullansw. Yes, me and our AF aren't really "new" friends, we go back quite a while.
You're right that it should be removed under the T&Cs, and probably would be if I'd reported it, but AF's approach is to abuse in the knowledge that by the time MN have removed it, the conversation has moved on.
Best ignored, as I said earlier.

nellyjelly

From the wiki on anal bleaching...

Adult actresses and other adult entertainers were the first to undergo the anal bleaching process in an effort to ensure that their skin tone matched all over their bodies. This spread to mainstream film stars in Hollywood once nudity became more prevalent in Hollywood movies. Eventually, anal bleaching became somewhat popular in underground circles.

So ... porn influence basically?

NWS WARNING Before anybody googles the wiki, be warned it comes with a graphic image

(of a female bum that looks like its goal in life is to be an anontomically correct(ish), breathing version of a Barbie doll)

It is an age thing. In my late teens and twenties I had a full bush but tidied at the sides. Boyfriends never said a hung they were just grateful to get some action. I met my husband late twenties and the shape of my pubes was never discussed. I'm now separated and being told by friends and this thread that for the first time on my 48 years I need to get rid of my lady garden.

I can see me staying single for ever! I feel sorry for you g people.

I need to get rid of my lady garden

Well that's me single forever if DH does a 180 and goes fuck wit on me. Or dies.

Anybody who would reject me based just on the unapologetic existance of my fluffy bits rather than thank a god they don't believe in (unless on a plane during turbulance) for their good fortune at meeting a reasonably intelligent, reasonably considerate, reasonably tolerant, reasonably able to value who they are over the various fashionable body modifications they do or do not practice woman...can kiss my unbleached arse.

I placed far too much importance on acceptance of my looks rather than my substance as a teenager. Buggered if I would consider a repeat of that folly at this stage of the game.

Anal bleaching. Turn your Rolo into a Polo.

I had simlar dilemma, was with ex for 18 years and had a trimmed bush.

Wen I met my lovely DP I shaved and it's been bold ever since, can't imagine not shaving now.

Feels dirty to me now and my DP is hair free too!

But how does one know that a man is going to mind or not? It's a bloody minefield. Do you have a discussion about it? I would hate to sleep with a new partner and he said something. Or minded. If I'd knew he would mind, I wouldn't sleep with him. Is this supposed to be something you clear up over dinner?

But how does one know that a man is going to mind or not?

I think as a start point sending me a cock shot would lead me to assume he might have rather "progressive" tastes which would result in a swift retreat anyway. Especially if it was a baldy or highly diminshed fluffwise cock shot.

Other than that ..hint dropping ? ie

"I just saw this wierd thing in the beauticians window, a Hollywood bikini wax ? Do they shape it into the face of Jennifer Aniston or similar ?" and then having chucked the bait...see if he enters the "only baldies must apply" trap.

Best broached after a stiff drink I feel. From behind the safety of a computer screen.

Lol! Bleached arses and bald lady gardens.... Suddenly staying in cross stitching sounds more attractive!

I would like to think that when I go on my first date in 25 years my dinner date will be more interested in me as a person and not whether I like Cock shots and bald muffs.

Give me strength.

Sonogging a nan with a beard or snogging a man without, similar I guesd... oh and a friend of mine shaved his goatie at his gf's request because it caused rash on her ladys parts.

A man! not a nan?

(TMI alert) Doesn't anyone else get - ahem - sore when they go bald? Once I'd lost the, er, clitoris protection, it was agony just walking around. Never again. I need my protective muff.

Anybody who would reject me based just on the unapologetic existance of my fluffy bits rather than thank a god they don't believe in (unless on a plane during turbulance) for their good fortune at meeting a reasonably intelligent, reasonably considerate, reasonably tolerant, reasonably able to value who they are over the various fashionable body modifications they do or do not practice woman...can kiss my unbleached arse.

CarpeVinum I think I love you a little bit.

DP has conducted a straw poll amongst work colleagues since this thread and there seems to be a 50/50 mix of men in their 30s who trim/shave to please their OHs (some wives apparently won't go down on their man without him having a trim - even getting the odd stray one in my mouth this morning is not enough to convince me that he needs to get rid of them, its only a hair FFS!)

He said he would trim his if I wanted him to and he doesn't really have strong views either way on mine, but thinks its odd that I do have strong opinions about it and am so 'attached' to it (I said that if a man insisted I shave it I wouldn't want to be with him, but that's more about the man than the pubes I think). I did epilate the pant moustache before our holiday, so I am conscious of it getting out of hand, but not enough to spend time and money keeping it permanently tidy - its not that important!

CarpeVinum I think I love you a little bit

This gives me hope..if DH does die or go fuck wit on me....I can choose you as my new love interest !

I have a genuine question for the bare babes: is it weird having your clitoris and inner labia (apologies if this is too much information but mine are more visible than they were pre-childbirth) uncovered? Don't they rub on your clothes? Or feel permanently sensitive?

Not that I've noticed. I like the smooth/clean feeling in the crazy hot weather we have where I live. I was very well endowed in the hair dept before, and always felt sweaty down there. Sorry for tmi. Now it's airier lol I just feel nicer. Nothing rubs or chafes. I do make sure to wear 100% cotton. And as sex feels better for me too it's a win win. It's nothing to do with porn, or looking like a 10yr old, or simply doing it to please my man (although i do like that he likes it). My motivation for having it all waxed off is it feels good to me and it's my foof. So I shall do with it what I please.

I should add, if my oh didn't like me bare its tough titties. I like it as he has to take it as it comes (so to speak). If I liked having hair down there, and he didn't, same thing. It's my foof not his, he's lucky to have access to it at all!

IsthisAgoodidea: clitoris and inner labia are covered and well protected by outer labia

Sorry just read that yours are more visible, in that case I do not know. I have a child and they are protected

I do wonder about the motivation of a certain kind of bloke that hangs out on a thread where women discuss their pubic hair and the relative size of their labia simply to have a go at certain female posters

It's a strange way to spend your time