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New man. Personal grooming question.

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MyPhoneIsMyWorld · 19/06/2013 16:47

Namechanged for this one.

I'm in my late thirties, met a new bloke, haven't done the deed yet.

So, the question I need to ask is what do men like these days with regard to pubes. I was married for 14 years and basically just kept things trimmed down there.
Don't want to end up in bed with this guy and have him turned off by my possibly 'retro' style!

I'm happy to keep up with the times but don't want to go all out bald down there if it's not necessary.

Any tips? Smile

OP posts:
Dahlialover · 25/06/2013 19:23

Like snuggling up to a piece of sandpaper :(

ElizabethX · 25/06/2013 19:26

I want to know what the OP's bloke made of her pubes in the end?

PlentyOfPubeGardens · 25/06/2013 21:02

IsThisAGoodIdea don't worry you are perfectly normal.

Fanjos are as variable as snowflakes Smile

See this is the problem, whip the hair off and people then start worrying they aren't shaped 'normally' and suddenly there's a massive industry in labiaplasty and on it goes ...

Whatever next? Will we be told our colons are the wrong colour? Our cervixes (cervices? cervii?) are the wrong shape?

cronullansw · 26/06/2013 00:16

CarpeVinum

Your views about the lack of pubic hair do not correspond with traditional MN views - ''it's the beasts fault, all because they love porn, keep it big and fluffy, and fuck him if he doesn't like it, he's lucky to have you as you are and he should worship you for this and if he doesn't, then LTB''

I find it very refreshing, thank you for your contribution.

CarpeVinum · 26/06/2013 15:25

Oh I would ignore any historical based supposition on my part. On the basis of "apple doesn't fall very far from the tree".

I've just invigilated my son's history exam.

Q: Name Henry VIII's wives.

DS: Cheryl.

Me: Confused

Summer Holiday History Gulag to commence in 3,2,1....

DonutForMyself · 26/06/2013 22:24

Shock Seriously?!

Boomba · 26/06/2013 22:39

Tis a good guess! Grin

CarpeVinum · 26/06/2013 23:37

Seriously.

It's his first ever year of British history. I suppose he was just casting about for a name, any name and for some reason Cheryl popped up. Not sure why. We don't know anybody called Cheryl, and he watches Italian X factor not the British one...so god only knows where that came from.

Still, Queen Cheryl has a certain ring to it...

Dahlialover · 27/06/2013 13:10

carpe, I am very taken with your historical perspective - it certainly makes sense.

DonutForMyself · 28/06/2013 09:18

ElizabethX I love the vision of your man "with a bald patch shaped like a side plate above/round which normal body hair would abruptly resume". I can see the point of men trimming a bit, but shaving - ugh! (Still, not everyone is lucky enough to have a hairy god, I stipulated it on my dating profile criteria - must have hairy chest!)

Well since removing a significant amount of my bush, I have just developed a nice bout of thrush for the first time in months - coincidence? I guess the hair is there for a reason, looks like the Jackson 5 will be having a reunion Grin

Original poster
MyPhoneIsMyWorld · 29/06/2013 17:33

An update:

Groomed and ready for action! If it's going to happen it'll be tonight.

Uncertain though as I haven't heard from him since Tuesday. Not sure if this is because he knows he'll see me tonight or, he's gone cold on me. We are going out separately with a large group tonight - the ideal ending would be us ending up together alone.

If it doesn't happen tonight then I'll have my answer... I've been on 'high alert' for too long - it's exhausting. He can sod off and stop stringing me along.

OP posts:
cronullansw · 01/07/2013 09:12

MyPhone.......

So? any news for us? And what style of 'grooming' did one settle for in the end?

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MyPhoneIsMyWorld · 01/07/2013 13:03

Alas, he virtually ignored me on the night out, so my grooming went to waste. Very angry after the night ended - I sent him a text to say I was fucking livid rather put out. He texted back saying he was quite offended. I didn't text again.

So that's the end of that for now. Being philosophical though. I knew he was a 'player' type but thought it'd be a bit of fun. Maybe he's still playing me along - wouldn't be surprised to hear from him again at some point.

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equinox · 01/07/2013 15:07

It appears guys below the age of 30 generally wish us to be bare but those older like us trimmed.

There are very few that enjoy a forest down there so bear that in mind! Depending on how hairy you are you may need to keep it trimmed or consider getting it regularly waxed.

Boosterseat · 01/07/2013 15:14

wish is the right word Equinox

They can bloody wish all they want but they get what they are given.

Jan45 · 01/07/2013 16:03

Just make sure you are trimmed, the bald look is awful, you're not a child so why look like one? And, that's rubbish about it being more hygienic, you actually need a bit of hair down there, it's not natural to have none.

AnyFucker · 01/07/2013 17:32

All that wasted energy worrying about your bush and he blanked you anyway

next time just think about having a good night, and don't give one solitary thought to your minge topiary

cronullansw · 02/07/2013 05:55

Booster - Jan,

You've not read terribly much of this thread have you.

ALittleStranger · 02/07/2013 07:12

Well I definitely stand by my opinion of men who send cock shots.

Boosterseat · 02/07/2013 09:49

cron Ive read it all thank you kindly.

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Dahlialover · 02/07/2013 14:13

I have to agree with Alittlestranger about the photos.

Sorry he wasn't up to it - hope the next one is MUCH better.

Darkesteyes · 02/07/2013 17:14

Wow Who needs to read Closer or Heat to make themselves feel shit when posters like Jan45 and Equinox around.

Ive got a full bush and ive never even trimmed. Its just one more thing that women are suppossed to worry about looks wise.
I dont believe its a coincidence that over time women have been expected to spend more and more time beautifying themselves to please men (and other women going by the attitudes here) coinciding with the fact that women are slowly gaining ground equality wise. Noooo we cant have that can we? So lets give them something else to worry about looks wise.
My relationships have always been with men older than myself. My last sexual partner was 17 yrs older than me. He loved every single part of me sexually. Because it was all part of me.

Darkesteyes · 02/07/2013 17:30

My last partner who ive mentioned in the above thread used to shave his chest. Because the woman he liked before me liked it that way.
I remember telling him that i wasnt bothered either way. because its just not important to me. There is a lot more to sex than all this worrying about a bit of hair bollocks. There is the initial attraction and sexual chemistry. After telling him i really didnt mind what he did with his chest hair he let it grow back. And i liked it I still do like it on a man.

JustinBsMum · 02/07/2013 20:07

Surely if you have huge knockers it's irrelevant what's down there as that isn't where they'll be looking. And if you enjoy good sex it is also irrelevant what's down there because they won't care. I think we are getting our priorities wrong in making the pubes relevant.