New man. Personal grooming question.

[MyPhoneIsMyWorld]

Namechanged for this one.

I'm in my late thirties, met a new bloke, haven't done the deed yet.

So, the question I need to ask is what do men like these days with regard to pubes. I was married for 14 years and basically just kept things trimmed down there.
Don't want to end up in bed with this guy and have him turned off by my possibly 'retro' style!

I'm happy to keep up with the times but don't want to go all out bald down there if it's not necessary.

Any tips?

No, I'd rather you weren't here at all actually.
As for attraction, I prefer people with a bit of intelligence.

You just can't leave me alone

I realise it's a cross for you to bear < head tilt >

I am about to go out of broadband range

Until we meet again....

As I said people, ignore. This is why...

it wasn't you that started it then ?

Who normally "starts it"? Ask yourself that...

AnyFucker - is that kid pulling your pigtails again? I think it must be lurrrrrrrrrrrrve.

D'oh! Birds of a feather...

Badger - why come onto a thread simply to slag AF off. That's just weird.

Birds of a feather

Hardly - I disagree with AF as often as I agree with her and her me .

Yeah, yeah...

he has sent me cock shots

Chipping I thought that too about the pigtails. Honestly. I'm sure I seen a personal attack there too. Some people don't like others who call a bastard a bastard I guess.

Cock shots??

< bookmarks and goes back to watching TV>

I've done a wax/shave combo for as long as I can remember.

My DP has never expressed a preference either way.

After reading a thread about this a few weeks ago I decided to let my bush grow. I love it now! I'm taking the same number of showers so I feel just as clean as I did before.

Hullygully, police??? really???

We are talking here pics that are exchanged, asked for, enjoyed and yes I insist: fun. Honestly FFS, XXI century anyone?

dont show your face and if they go astray not big deal!? surely?

XXI century anyone?

Hey I have a kid at an online independant school out of choice. I am well cutting edge me.

But Waggled Willy pics?

Rather be a Luddite in that regard...

Having just read this thread, I am never entering the world of dating and shagging ever again should dh vanish. What a nightmare! Shaved fannies and willie pictures! Eek!

Having just read this thread, I am never entering the world of dating and shagging ever again should dh vanish.

Seconded.

I'd rather cobweb over than face "romance" in the New Era of Pubic Politics.

Sorry, going back to page 3, One More Chap, I don't think you stated your preference much less made a general comment about how cunnilingus (sp?) was more enjoyable and how women should be if they wanted it. So, no, no boak merited.

Yes, this comment will now appear quite random, but have not been back on it and just noticed OMC's question, which he has quite possibly completely forgotten.

AnyFucker you do make me giggke

Giggle even

Agree with AF Ive never actually shaved or waxed my nethers at all. I will admit that i occasionally get my armpits and legs waxed (when i can afford it. I dont like shaving.

Loving if it is your husband who prefers the "smooth" look why isnt he forking out the 30 quid for you to get it done Why are you paying for it.

I do it myself - the thought of a stranger waxing me while I have to be in the doggy position on a couch is not something I can personally reconcile myself to! I will have a spray tan in skimpy knickers but that's about as far as I will go.

As for the photo - that does sound strange. If you're going to have sex with someone soon enough why show everything in advance? The men I have known of who did that were creepy and not good dating material at all.

Where are all these places that make you get on all fours to have it all off? Bizarre. I lived in SE Asia, it is definitely the done thing to have everything off there. Never heard of anyone assuming doggy position for it.

OP - if this guy is just shag material, who cares what he thinks of the state of your pubes. Am sure he'll still want to shag you regardless. If he doesn't, then he's very strange.

FWIW I do think the increase in having it all off in Western countries IS due to increased exposure to porn and what is now perceived to be "the norm" down there. (Also, you've only got to look at increase in figures of those women going for labia surgery, if that's not down to porn I don't know what is.)

For all those saying it doesn't make you look pre-pubescent because you have hips, breasts and so on. Who are you kidding? That may be so if we're taking the whole body into account but this seems to be more about focus specifically on a shaved vulva now and it does make you look that way. I don't think its attractive in an adult woman. It probably makes people feel 'sexier' because of the insidious 'porn' association. Whether we realise it or not, we (men and women) are being manipulated into thinking this is how we should be.

Saying all that its your minge, no-one likes to feel like the odd one out I guess so do what you like with it.

I think it looks grim on a grown woman. Especially as you age and after childbirth when no-one's labia are tightly closed anymore. When you look at yourself naked, can't you see your innards?

I remember about 10 yrs ago the first girl I knew who did it. The fashion was just beginning. She did it for her boyfriend - he is now her husband and definitely the kind of man to express an opinion on such things. She once cancelled dinner with me to have it done - he was coming back from a business trip and she couldn't bear for him to see her in her natural state.

I feel most depressed for young girls barely out of puberty who are shaving their vulvas because they think it's dirty to have pubic hair. Do you think they do it to be clean? Or to make sex better? Or because their mothers do it?

Or because teenagers watch porn on their phones and think that look is normal and desirable.