New man. Personal grooming question.

[MyPhoneIsMyWorld]

Namechanged for this one.

I'm in my late thirties, met a new bloke, haven't done the deed yet.

So, the question I need to ask is what do men like these days with regard to pubes. I was married for 14 years and basically just kept things trimmed down there.
Don't want to end up in bed with this guy and have him turned off by my possibly 'retro' style!

I'm happy to keep up with the times but don't want to go all out bald down there if it's not necessary.

Any tips?

I must admit I'm a little torn after reading all the pro-waxing comments. While I am happy with mine the way it is, my XH wanted to shave off all his body hair, believing that he would feel 'cleaner' without it (I helped him wax his back, which made me a bit sad, but he preferred it so I did it). The idea of his body totally bald made me feel physically sick and I knew I wouldn't be able to have sex with him if he had no body hair.

So what I'm trying to say is, I suppose there is an argument for taking into account what your OH likes (XH told me we didn't have sex often enough for my opinion to count so if it made him happy I should put up with it).

Maybe if you have strong opinions either way then perhaps you're just not suited to each other - a bit like a smoker and a non-smoker - if you can't live with the smell and the other won't give up, then you either resent each other or leave. If you don't want to shave your bits and your man only likes baldies, I suppose you either live with it and accept that he doesn't want to go down there or you split up over pubes, which seems very sad!

Boomba, it was a joke about the volume of my (obviously dark and curly) bush. It wasn't saying that black people's hair looks like pubes, it was saying that my pubes look like an afro, so the only butt of the joke was me, not an entire race, don't panic.

Agreed Donut.

Reggie, I think ALittleStranger is referring to cock shots from men on OD sites, whom you've never met....

Django I am indeed, and I will struggle to accept that cock shots sent to near strangers is what the cool kids are doing now.

Gosh yes, heaven forbid

hilarious

ALittle My apologies... I couldn't figure out what OD was, so took it to mean "online devices" (a stretch, I see now!). Sorry

I do agree, unsolicited cock shots are a no-go.

I agree with whoever observed that it's the lack of thinking about the context of this that's so baffling. Even children understand the effect of socialisation, fashion and why they are drawn to a particular 'look' at a point in time.

It's also the peculiar straw men that get introduced on threads like this.

As far as I can tell, various sensible respondents have supported individuals' choices to do what the hell they want with their own bodies, with the caveat that no fashion or grooming choice is ever made in a social vacuum and that pressure or coercion from a partner is a Jolly Bad Thing.

This gets received as "Wah! Wah! How dare you say my DP can't express his likes and dislikes!"

Then there are the observations that sending uploadable genitalia pictures to people you've never even met might be unwise - and cautionary advice about the sort of men who think that strangers are interested in their cock images - which after all is the very situation the OP is describing.

Only for there to be endless posts about sharing photographs with an established partner which has got nothing to do with the OP's individual circumstances, bearing in mind she has never met this bloke.

Erm, the OP has said they've been friends for a while...

How can We knew eachother at a distance be interpreted as we've been friends for a while?

They've been texting for a while, but there's no sense that they've been meeting up regularly on a face-to-face basis - y'know, like friends do.

amothersplace He's not my partner! He's someone I've been getting to know over about six months. Yes, he shaves. I know this as he has sent me cock shots. Sorry to be indelicate, I have tried to use fairly ladylike language since starting the thread.

Basically I fancy the hell out of him and I am GAGGING to have sex with him!! I don't intend to get into a serious relationship with him.

It's been a long time since I've felt like this and I intend to make the most of it when it happens and throw everything I have at it, as it may only be a one-off.

MyPhone Just do what makes you feel sexy, and jump on him

Thank you reggie

Nobody has told you to not shag the arse off him, btw

I'm 25. All off Hollywood style!

Just ignore AF folks.

Don't bring the chip on your d

That chip on your shoulder is showing, badger

It must be breaking your back by now

Oops random half sentence there

There are loads of people here who will say that people only remove hair because of porn and how awful it is. That said, I don't think you should do anything for a man - it should be for yourself. I prefer to remove all hair - it just looks tidier and feels neater imo. But I have it like this whether single or otherwise. In Europe I hear it's not as fashionable to remove it all as it is in the UK.

D'oh!! No chip on my shoulder, unlike yours....

Badger, there are a few porn threads you haven't been all over yet

You are slacking, what's up, wanked yourself out ?

hahaha...you're not getting any better at this are you?

Look, just admit you are attracted to me,.then folks don't have to feel uncomfortable with why you have followed me onto the thread

It's only fair