Hello, I'm Mouse 
A huge big welcome to the Brave Babes threads.
We're a varied group of posters, on this wonderfully supportive, non judgemental, gigantic Bus, and we are all heading in the same direction - towards Sobriety.
Some of us don't touch a drop of alcohol, some of us do. Some of us drink too much, openly admit it and are desperate to stop and some of us are trying to manage controlled drinking.
No matter what we're doing, we're just trying to do it One Day At A Time.
What ever you need, what ever your habit, chances are that there'll be another poster who is just like you or has been where you are now, already here, waiting to talk or just listen :)
Yes, some of us have been here for a longer time than others, some of us for just a few days but that's what makes this Bus so great imo, the variety of knowledge and understanding :)
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Mouseface · 24/05/2013 10:33
Morning babes
babyj going out for a walk when you need some peace is the perfect solution. I always feel better after taking the dog out. It works off the adrenaline, and the change of scenery soothes the soul.
The rest of the time - I don't know, I haven't found a way to handle on going stress yet. Use a CBT diary, keep busy... the stress doesn't go away 
but you find yourself less dependent on alcohol to get you through it.
Morning everyone. Must say I prefer this Saturday morning to last Saturday morning, when I was a wee bit hungover!
Am off to a meet up with other Mumsnetters today, so drink will be drunk but I don't tend to drink much at lunch time do's, so will be fine.
Just wanted to quickly post to agree absolutely with this:
finding something to replace the wine with is key
It really is. Have a plan, have strategies in place for what you will do/drink/eat when ww is yelling at you (because unfortunately she will, and at all sorts of random times), don't vaguely think "oh I will just use my willpower to resist".
Wishing all babes a lovely day ... at least it seems to be a bit sunnier for those of us in England .
Morning all, nice to see a lovely, shiny new thread, thanks Mouse as ever x
Purple if you like reading I think clutter's suggestion sounds divine . A quiet house, some lovely nibbles that you might not usually treat yourself too (fresh fruit salad?), pot of hot chocolate or big jug of iced tea (or other preferred non alkie drink), and lose yourself in a good book.
Inbetween, phone a friend for a chat (or post here), get out for a swim or a run, sort through cupboards, have a bit of a spring clean and then get back to your book for another indulgent read. Sounds like heaven to me. If the sun makes an appearance this weekend, I might drag out a lounger and read in the garden. Haven't done that at all this year 
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Also, whilst we're on the subject, I agree that Not Without My Daughter is a fabulous, riveting read and a true story to boot. I think every woman should read it and the Kite Runner is good too. Thanks for the other suggestions clutter I will look them up
Minty have fun at your meet up.
Lonnika I keep calling you Lonnika with an L and others write Ionnika with a capital I. Which is it and what the hell does it mean? 
Ah, thanks mate. It's a very pretty name, I thought it meant something in greek or summat. Enjoy your walk - don't forget the suncream
Afternoon, tis me, Mouse
Faire - 'mate'? I didn't have you down as a 'mate' kinda person. 
Lonni - enjoy your walk and swim. Sounds lovely, a really nice time together.
DD is staying longer with her friend so I'm hoping they'll go out and enjoy the glorious weather here today. DH is laying a lawn/turf so I can't get to my washing line! And Nemo is still not well in the tummy department, so we were up in the night again.
I'm feeling a bit poorly still and could do with scrapping today, going back to bed and waking up feeling better tomorrow if that's okay with everyone but we all know life doesn't work like that.
I'm 
Lonni - I call my DS Nemo because he survived, time and again, against all the odds, each time we were told we'd run the risk of losing him, of him having to fight some more.....
He is our little battler, and, yes, he's different but no less important, no less gorgeous, no less spirited and loved for being just Nemo :) xx
Oh, and his has a Bus full of Aunties too!
Oh and BTW Lonni - you already are a beautiful, sober chick, even if you're just that for today. You can be whoever you want to be on this Bus, well, within reason!
That's why this Bus is so unique, on here, we can be who we want to, we can be whoever we chose.
I chose to be me, to be sober and to be free from the hold that alcohol once had over me, because it did. It was in charge. It was the boss of me. It was the only thing I thought of between dawn and dusk and every moment in between.
I found these threads before they were called the Brave Babe threads, I was pointed in their direction by venus and I've never looked back since. :)
Thank you venus and JWN xx
Yeah Mouse it just seemed like a mate kinda moment
I like to try different hats on now and again but I can never quite escape being myself. So I just have to accept myself and make the best of what I've got at the moment.
That's why I like to control the things that are within my control (like food and drink) and try to not sweat the small stuff that I can't control.
Someone posted this on another thread and I'm sure they won't mind if I share:
"I love this...found on the wall of mother Theresa's home for children in Calcutta.
People are often unreasonable, irrational or self centred. Forgive them anyway.
If you are kind, people may accuse you of selfish, ulterior motives. Be kind anyway.
If you are successful, you will win someunfaithful friends and some genuine enemies. Succeed anyway.
If you are honest and sincere, people may deceive you.
Be honest and sincere anyway.
What you spend years creating, others could destroy overnight. Create anyway.
If you find serenity and happiness, some may be jealous. Be happy anyway.
The good you do today, will often be forgotten.
Do good anyway.
Give the best you have and it will never be enough.
Give your best anyway.
In the final analysis, it is between you and God.
It was never between you and them anyway."
Personally, I would change it to 'it is between you and yourself' because that is how I can reconcile myself to being the person I am, flawed but doing my best in my little part of the universe.
Hope everyone who has sunshine is out there enjoying it. I am in the process of washing all the curtains.
Hi all babes. I'm well jel (see, I can be 19 again). It's absolutely freezing over here. Got the heating on and been in all day. Spoke to my mum and she said that it's really nice over there today. Enjoy!
Where are you Dame?
So, it's cold there then, yes?
Oh I am so mean, I don't envy you Dame - the cold is a killer for me and a nightmare for Nemo, he suffers dreadfully from Autumn to Spring and boy, this bloody Spring has been late in getting here......
Tonight, I wanted a glass of white wine. I asked DH about dinner, we're having home-made pizzas 
because that's what we'd planned food wise.
Anyway, I got to the fridge, saw that there was none and thought 'Can I really be arsed to hobble up the road to the over priced shop for some shit white wine, that I won't enjoy because it'll be the cheapest of said shit white wine that's available.
I'll wake up in the morning after a hard night in pain, a hard night with Nemo (again) and a night of reflux, fretful, intermittent sleep and for what? Cheap wine?
I'll give it a miss thank you.
Ma - well done on the run! That is great, I am very impressed :)
Faire - I love that post. Thank you for posting that! :) And, why are you washing all of the curtains? Are you expecting the Queen?
Cross posted re the 'where are you'?
Dame - it looks great but I've read the reviews and they're all good. There is also a company who make a gel version that you can put in the fridge. I'm not sure about having to put water into the pillow, what with having to drag my pillows from room to room most nights.....
I'm thinking I should just get one and yell "Can't wait!" If so, it should be here early next week, from Amazon. I have memory foam pillows and find that they make me hotter than any other pillows anyway.
I'm not sure what's better? I like a firm pillow for my head and I have to use two pillows to help prop my legs in a certain position 
Is it just that it's cool?
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