The Brave Babes Battle Bus - Posters, Lurkers, Old Or New, Come Take A Seat, This Bus Is For YOU!

[Mouseface]

Hello, I'm Mouse

A huge big welcome to the Brave Babes threads.

We're a varied group of posters, on this wonderfully supportive, non judgemental, gigantic Bus, and we are all heading in the same direction - towards Sobriety.

Some of us don't touch a drop of alcohol, some of us do. Some of us drink too much, openly admit it and are desperate to stop and some of us are trying to manage controlled drinking.

No matter what we're doing, we're just trying to do it One Day At A Time.

What ever you need, what ever your habit, chances are that there'll be another poster who is just like you or has been where you are now, already here, waiting to talk or just listen :)

Yes, some of us have been here for a longer time than others, some of us for just a few days but that's what makes this Bus so great imo, the variety of knowledge and understanding :)

This Bus has been whizzing along various roads now for almost four years thanks to the very desperate cry for help from THIS THREAD BY JWN

And if you'd like to read some of the other threads, maybe how we got to where we are today, then you can follow them back using the links RIGHT HERE

Hope to see you soon :)

[aliasjoey]

And thanks faire. One thing I discovered was looking at the issue turned out NOT to be as stressful as anticipated. (Isn't that often the way, hence a drink for Dutch courage etc?)

I still don't get why I overreacted and was so upset... and worry that it will happen again (it's only a few weeks ago that my FIL said that dumb thing about my DD, and again I overreacted and stormed out the house)

I found some helpful reading online, and given myself a "worry slot" - only allowed to worry between 4 and 5pm! But I do wish my moods weren't so volatile...

[jango36]

Hi to all.
Day one today :)
I have needed an iron will to resist today but now i think im safe for today at least!
For me thats a lot to be thankful for!
Yesterday was hell on earth but i made it worse by drinking!
Wish I was stronger.
Ma and other babes who remember me thanks :)). Ma the relationship is over no way can i salvage it. If I could or even wanted to Id fight for it.
So of course that does not help in the bid to not drink.
But I have been mentally present today, fully! and have watched daughter play, made a proper meal etc, etc.
Ma how are things with your other half, think I remember reading you to had had enough x

[Scootergrrrl]

A very long-time lurker finally making it to day six here. The thought which has kept me going is weighing up the temporary pleasure I get from downing a huge glass of red, against the hangover, suspicious ache around the right side, looking like crap, feeling like crap, guilty all day thing that I get more and more after drinking. And if the drink outweighs that, I've given myself permission to pour away. It hasn't so far No boiing yet but it must be on order surely?

[babyjane1]

scooter I can feel some boing heading your way, your doing brilliantly, I'm just ahead on day 8 so catch me if you can x x x x

[dementedma]

jango we are plodding on. Good days and bad days. Time just isn't right at the moment.
I had good news today. Our current CEO is leaving and our lovely and much-missed former CEO is going to come back 3 days a week. I am beyond happy. I loved working with him and learned such a lot from him, so am very pleased he's coming back.

[aliasjoey]

ma is that the guy who gave you a hug when you went out for a meal a few months ago? I remember you talking about him, he sounds like a great mentor and friend

[ohcluttergotme]

Hi babes, hope everyone is doing ok.
So sorry to all babes struggling. To those that have been drinking & feeling low about it, can you stop now. Pour it away. Have a pint of water. Run a bath. Do something different?
MA, its sad that you can relate so well to my difficult situation with controlling H & teenage dd.
I hope their is some peace in your home & pleased for you that things are looking better at work.
How is your db?

I have been feeling so stressed and unwell with new job. started a course of anti-biotics last week for chesty cough which has given me (tmi alert) thrush & funny tummy! Went to work this morning which was awful & have now been signed off for a week.
Feel bad as I am new to post. Not sure if taking this job was a good idea as so so hard.
Do you know I really wish I could just jack it all in & be a wife & mother! Sometimes wish I lived in the 1950's
X

[babyjane1]

Hi babes, sorry not been posting much in the last few days, having a flare up of my crohn's. ironically I started having a few wines to alleviate the stress and anxiety which caused me hours sometimes days in the toilet, now I've stopped drinking although I know it's the right thing to do my tummy is flaring up dealing with the harsh realities of life sober, wine even helped with the pain!!!! I'm also trying to eat regularly and healthily which my tummy doesn't like either, crohn's doesn't like roughage or foods difficult to digest, strangely it didn't mind wine. Anyway on the plus side, tummy flatter, skin less parched and best of all my family feel like I am back with them, just had a bath with my 2 year old and she washed my hair giggling throughout, I am getting by on the little pleasures and the hope that happy healthy times lie ahead. Big hugs to all x x x

[ohcluttergotme]

Big hugs back babyJ. Giggling baths with your little girl sound much more fun than being by yourself drinking wine.
Could you speak to someone about what food is healthy & friendly to crohn's? Although sure you've been here & know that.
Really hope that you soon feel health benefits from ditching the booze. Hope you have a good day.
Waves to all babes, old & new (purple you ok?) and wishes everyone a good day x

[babyjane1]

Thanks clutter right back atcha, the lovely inside has PM'd some dietary info to me on crohn's, very thoughtful, thanks babe. Have tried every variation going but always worth another go, morning all you babe buddies out there, have a great day x x x

[lonnika]

Hi Baby - stick with it FWIW I had a dody stomach for a week after giving up the demo. Booze. So it might be partly that as well ?
Hope all gets better soon. Xxx
Day 29 today - had first compliment tonight re looking different - I def look a lot better xxxxx - My face looks softer and younger xx
keep on keeping on Babes x

[babyjane1]

lonnika 29 days is amazing, your posts are getting more boingy all the time, keep up the good work, what are the major physical changes you can see? I'm very motivated by losing weight and looking younger, tell me how things have improved for you? X x x

[lonnika]

Hi Baby - I am feeling more boingy - first 2 weeks though I was exhausted.
I have lost weight :). I didn't have much to loose about 4lbs but it has gone :). Stomach flatter :)
Skin - better, softer and less lines. - I think I look younger or just more healthy or a bit of both.

• more energy - less anxious (2 weeks before giving up totally I was prescribed anxiety tablets by GP). I don't even take them. my anxiety was related to me continually thinking I had a terminal illness - I had loads of pains everywhere - all gone.

[lonnika]

Oh hi to scooter - well done on day 6 :)
My quote of the day :)
have used this one before but it is my favourite :)
When everything feels like an uphill struggle just think of the view from the top :)

[greeneyed]

Morning babes sorry nothing to give just gonna slump on the back of the bus and if someone could chuck a blanket on me it would be much appreciated.

[Scootergrrrl]

Passes blanket and home-made chocolate brownie (hope that's ok for a newbie!)

[babyjane1]

Nice one lon I'm still climbing that hill x x x x

[greeneyed]

Thank you scooter that's more than okay :) now is there a hot water bottle lying about any where in this bus?

[Scootergrrrl]

I can do you me of those cherry-stone bags which go in the microwave and a nice cup of tea? Hope everything is ok, or least getting better.

Still hot on your heels, babyjane!

[babyjane1]

scooter is that you I can make out in the distance? X x x x

[Scootergrrrl]

Be sure to leave me a trail of breadcrumbs (or mini chocolate fudge brownies) so I don't lose you!

[babyjane1]

No problemo scoot

[curryeater]

hi all
didn't see this thread
some sterling work on here, well done babes
we have now exchanged contracts on a house. should be relieved beyond measure and I am very very grateful for our good luck but I am just exhausted and beyond exhausted. Physically wobbly all the time. sat on a bench in town yesterday when I couldn't stand up any more and for a minute felt a crazy sort of bliss at "I'm losing it..." I just felt that I was going to faint or fall down or cry and therefore nothing could be my responsibility any more and it was brilliant. Only lasted a second and I was soon back to being exhausted, but (barely) functional, and miserable.

I fainted on the bus once when I was about 18, on my way to work. Before I came round the driver had called an ambulance and although I said I was fine I was not allowed to go once the ambulance had been called - something to do with procedure and insurance. I was taken to hospital and waited in a and e for a long time as I was so obviously not in any danger. but still not allowed to go home although I thought I was just wasting their time. It was lovely. the only thing wrong with me was I was shattered and hungry so it was a lovely morning out of time in a strange place with nothing to do. I think wistfully of that day often.

[guggenheim]

aww curry, you obviously have a lot on your plate at the moment and need to rest. Now that you have sorted out the practicalities of a new house your mind needs to stop working overtime.

Do you meditate? Or can you get to a yoga class? The out of body/ hand it over experience sounds like the place people try to get to when they meditate. I'm not very good at letting go, but swimming or gardening sometimes allow my mind to rest. Perhaps a new book and rest might help.Sound like you just want the world to slow down and stop for a while. x

Well done lovely babes who are dealing with the WW, think of all the good you are doing for yourselves and your family.

I'm having a stab at losing some of the weight I've gained in the past few months, so I'm doing the 5;2. Going ok so far- for once very little food has gone past my chops.Hoping to lose about a stone over the course of the next few months but would eb pleased with any weight loss at all.

[guggenheim]

Promise I will put my bloody glasses on next time I post- ffs!!