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Mouseface · 24/05/2013 10:33
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Good thanks ma. I have some wine for tomorrow (DD has a friend here here tonight, and I want to seem like a responsible adult!) I'm feeling a lot more confident about being able to control the cravings.
How are you and your family? You're in shorts ? In Scotland?! I never even owned a pair of shorts til I moved down south.
purple how are you coping ?
babyjane Happy birthday for yesterday!! I wanted to post last night by my interweb went down after my last post. Sunny day here today at last! Going out for lunch in the village (no wine, I can't drink during the day at all which is a blessing Well done to the abstaining babes - much admiration to you!! Purple are you ok lovely? Been thinking about you x Isinde How did your week go? Did you manage to get lots done?
Mouse I thought you were going to say something else too 
But, just because you didn't SAY it, doesn't mean ....
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That wine witch better beware, motivated, scots woman hurling new kindle about think I'll hit her over the chops with a hard back!
Having a twin would be good, would be nice to meet up to escape home!
Feel like I could just walk out & leave & set up home somewhere on my own and leave them to it. My own df did this & went travelling round the world with different girlfriends. As a child I didn't understand where he was but now as an adult & mother I could see why it seems an easy way out of responsibilities.
My dd skipped her dance class yesterday & dh went mental, like proper over the top. I was sitting in the garden with my 2 friends. I came in & he was apoplectic with rage saying I had to back him up. I don't think it's fair that he blows a gasket when we have spoke about him not doing this then I just have to back him back regardless. I said I didn't agree & thought he was making the situation worse. He called me a fucking arse in front of my friends & said I could do what I want as I always do.
Dd then text to say she didn't want to come home & was staying at friends.
Dh then phoned her 14 year old friend to say our dd was not staying.
I text dd to say she wasn't in huge trouble if she came home now but if she didn't she was. Her friends mum then drove her home. She came in & me & my friends spoke to her & I said think she should apologise for not going to dancing and pretending she was there. She didn't want to as scared he was going to go mental but she did & the situation was ok. I then said she could go back to stay at friends & in future just be honest.
Sigh sigh sigh! My friend felt I should take dh's side regardless of whether I agree but I really disagree with that.
I feel if I think he's too hard & I back him up are we not on some level bullying her?
Clutter 
Sorry, but being called a 'fucking arse' in front of my friends?? That is sooo not on! No wonder you're feeling like you are. In my experience (and this is just my opinion), I think parents need a slight 'good cop, bad cop' approach with teenagers, so that lines of communication aren't cut if the teen feels ganged up on. I know they can drive you nuts at times, but your h going over the top isn't going to help her (or you). There are a good few years of battles to come so you need to sort out a united front now AND he needs to know in no uncertain terms that he musn't speak to you like that. Sorry, am proper cross.
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