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Dating thread no 53

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Flipper924 · 06/05/2013 21:48

The Rules

1 Develop a thick skin;

  1. Do not invest emotionally too soon;
  2. It's all BS until it actually happens;
  3. Trust your gut instinct;
  4. If it is not fun, stop

Off we go...

OP posts:
ike1 · 08/05/2013 16:06

D' ya dare me to email that to Mr Ruse...he obvs loved the idea of fun....I am sure if I gave him my address he'd be over...

Loulybelle · 08/05/2013 16:08

I dare!!

KinNora · 08/05/2013 16:34

Part of me wants to dare you, Ike...

JulietteMontague · 08/05/2013 16:42

Kin you know you have to ignore Spud don't you, he's no right to suddenly decide to attempt re entry into any area of your life. If you reply it will only feed him.

I had 8 months of nothing, not even a snog until last week. I'm on the train home now and there was a lot of probably unseemly snogging all over the airport terminal, I have time to make up Grin

KinNora · 08/05/2013 16:45

When are you seeing him again Juliette ? ( I know I keep saying this but I'm so happy for you )

KinNora · 08/05/2013 16:54

( and yes, I know about Spud, he takes advantage of my profoundly un-bitter nature. I'm a bit rubbish )

WarmFuzzyFun · 08/05/2013 17:10

SmileSmileSmileSmileSmileSmile@Jules

Hey Thread!

I like seriously dodgy words Blush but I guess it depends who is saying them and the context. (I won't upset twin et al by saying which ones though.)

The weather changing set me off, I have cried all morning before work. Does anyone else respond to the low pressure/atmospheric change, or am I just mad/exhausted/overwhelmed with a chaotic life?Confused

VelvetSpoon · 08/05/2013 17:13

I find I'm ok with whole libido thing so long as I don't think about it (over 2 months currently, which is pretty poor given that I am seeing someone!...hopefully I will be making up for that when he's back in the UK) actually its the same with food - if I don't think about it I'm never hungry.

Weird Grin

VelvetSpoon · 08/05/2013 17:17

Wff, no the weather stuff affects me too - although I do find being tired etc makes it worse. As soon as I saw it was glum and rainy out I felt v pathetic, whereas the last few mornings waking up to blue skies I've been really happy.

How are you feeling now, any better?

WarmFuzzyFun · 08/05/2013 17:22

I beat you all regarding how long I've been without sex, but too embarrassed to say exactly how long.

Glad to my bones that is very much in the past...Grin

And I agree sexual compatibility is a BIG swift deal breaker. I believe that at the age I am dealing with peoples' sexual habits/fetishes (personalities etc) are pretty fixed, so you take them as they are or move on.

I am not a fixer anymore.

WarmFuzzyFun · 08/05/2013 17:25

x posts Velvet

I am feeling 'weighed down' if that makes any sense, a kind of heaviness.

I think the job uncertainty has contributed, plus kids and their craziness - bleurgh, sometimes I would love to just have an empty house.

Have decided to get very drunk tonight.

KinNora · 08/05/2013 17:36

Hello Twinny !
I like good robust Anglo Saxon terminology in the right context and from the right person but I'm not going to think about that because I'll get all distracted. Shock

I like a bit of overcast, drizzly weather - I usually maintain it's all those thousands of celtic ancestors.

ike1 · 08/05/2013 18:05

So pleased for you Jules....I am just generally frustrated I want a maaaan but one I fancy. I have time to fall in love now but I wont come Oct...ffs!

ike1 · 08/05/2013 18:07

Iam like Annie Lennox in the I need a Man video...

KinNora · 08/05/2013 18:16

I've not seen that video, does she ceremonially burn her iron knick knacks ?

ike1 · 08/05/2013 18:19

Maybe I should ask Mr Ruse if he is free on Sun instead of putting him off until the following weekend...and get a fanny wax this week....I am that hot to trot.... but that's not insouciance is it?

ike1 · 08/05/2013 18:20

No Kin she totters around looking pissed with her make up smeared...shouting 'I need a maaaaaaan!' That's me on a Sat night...

ike1 · 08/05/2013 18:22

.....maybe I just need valium instead.....

KinNora · 08/05/2013 18:23

No, that's not insouciance but the fanny wants what the fanny wants, you can't reason with them.

KinNora · 08/05/2013 18:24

(Valium's great stuff but hard to get these days)

ike1 · 08/05/2013 18:26

hahaha oh bugger....and then I will get annoyed if he doesnt get back to me....better to play the long, boring game then....

KinNora · 08/05/2013 18:36

Just ramp up the flirting, offer to caress his welding helmet

Snapespeare · 08/05/2013 18:47

I was at a team event the other day and we had to true or false some statements. One was 'a female ferret on heat will DIE if she does not have sex' . It's apparently true.

frisky ferrets

Just sayin' Hmm

OhWesternWind · 08/05/2013 19:19

Just off out - won't be doing my ferret impression tonight ...

KinNora · 08/05/2013 19:23

Out with Indie, OWW ?