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Dating thread no 49

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JulietteMontague · 01/04/2013 15:17

All daters welcome here.

OP posts:
TigsytheTiger · 07/04/2013 09:30

it's a shame there aren't those brilliant thread titles anymore - pash sesh would have to be in there ........

Morning Kin have images of you, jauntily trotting off to the station with said painting, wrapped in brown paper under your arm!

Pomegranatenoir · 07/04/2013 10:02

Micshi - no idea what goes through some men's minds. He sounds like an unreliable idiot. Life is too short to waste your time on them. I know what you mean about a lack of suitable men. I hate it at the mo. pof and match are full of mousey looking geeks or vest and tracksuit wearing chavs. It is depressing!

oww - good luck for your date with Cakey!!

Nora - your messages make me laugh every time!! You are funny!!!!

Think I'm heading for some kind of depressive state. Can't seem to find anyone at all to take my interest at all. Any ideas?? I can't deal with not taking positive action to finding someone but there doesn't seem to be anything remotely interesting on the sites at the mo!!

Pomegranatenoir · 07/04/2013 10:26

Looking at endless lists of men's faces is making me go a bit mental. Way too many "at all's" in that lass message! Sorry

ike1 · 07/04/2013 10:27

Pom ...is there somewhere you can do evening sessions ushering or something similar...I find it great fun and you do get to meet BLOKES even if they do look like a member from Wizard. Kin I need crash carping bad stylee...

ike1 · 07/04/2013 10:29

thats actually the Birmingham band Wizzard not the american band Wizard pop fans!

Pomegranatenoir · 07/04/2013 10:30

ike I've got 2 little children so nights out need to be planned in advance and have a specific purpose iykwim.

I'm starting my new job soon so hopefully should meet some new people then. Just feels sometimes that I am doomed to a life confined to these 4 walls!!!! Oh sorry not just these 4 walls sometimes I get to go to a childrens birthday party!!!

Think I need some "me" time!!

ike1 · 07/04/2013 10:33

AWW bugger...that's a blow and yes I totally understand. Flicking through POF sometimes at speed they all just beome the same person...

KinNora · 07/04/2013 10:38

Tigsy no, it's huge, I wouldn't be able to manage it with my case ( it also has 'To Nora, love Software x' painted on the back in giant black letters ) so I asked him to take it back to his and look after it for me. I did think about leaving his flowers for the girls who clean the rooms but I thought that was probably an ungrateful step too far.

Pom firstly, thank you, secondly, don't be letting OD get you into 'some kind of depressive state' - I know that's easier said than done but the whole thing is supposed to be fun, remember 'if it's not fun-stop' .

It always seems to me to be cyclical, some weeks or days there is a bit fat zero possibility, some weeks it's message after message, no point in letting it make you frustrated.

Movingforward123 · 07/04/2013 10:38

Pom - I know how you feel about being stuck at home, I feel very stuck at times too Hmm we can't just go out when we fancy it!

Western - what time is the date?? Grin

Snapespeare · 07/04/2013 10:38

'Pash-sesh' ? [vom]

kin flatmate has extra'ed on DW? oooOoOoOoOoOoOooooh!

pom change your filters? A bit older or younger or further away?

oww hope it goes well! :)

I miss nameless. Weird waking up on own after 4 wake-ups on the trot with him. Sad

KinNora · 07/04/2013 10:41

Stand clear everyone - I have the crash carp for Ike - slapping !

slap

derrrrrrrrrrrrrr

slap

derrrrrrrrrr

That any good, love ?

KinNora · 07/04/2013 10:43

Yes Snape may PM with details when I've checked out of the hotel ! ( I was quite pathetically excited )

ike1 · 07/04/2013 10:46

You might even have resusitated my libido there Kin ..Ta luv...safe journey home.x

mercury7 · 07/04/2013 10:46

pash sesh?
yes please!
I'd not pass up as session with the object of my passion:o

ike1 · 07/04/2013 10:48

Kin...did you say whether you liked said painting?

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JulietteMontague · 07/04/2013 10:49

Stella texts very rarely do not arrive, it is the modern equivalent of the check is in the post. The only explanation I can think of is that he thinks he sent it and didn't. If you say Yes, you'll either get drawn into game playing or confusion if he is genuine. I would simply reply 'No, I haven't had a text' and see how he responds.

OWW good luck with Cakey later

Well Blond sent a text first thing this morning to cancel, he says he has a cold and says he will 'try' to re-arrange in 'a week or so'. No trying needed, you just do it and it doesn't take a week or so Hmm

Classic gsm behaviour, the majority have cancelled on the date or disappeared after securing a second date. I suspect they are in the sweet shop and want to know they can pull.

So for me this week this is how it went. Musician Man (2 months) now written off. Police (1 month) disappeared. Turned nasty man blocked, Italian Mum man (2 weeks) disappeared, sexy Argentinan (1 week) disappeared, cute 39 yr old (1 week) in his sick bed, Dutch sailor (2 weeks) after prolific essay writing lost at sea, Blond (4 days) has a cold. I'm out

OP posts:
Pomegranatenoir · 07/04/2013 10:53

Juliette - they are all ridiculous! Just ridiculous. And od is rubbish

Arghh - why does t have to be so bloody difficult.

I'm going for a shower and attempt wash this bad mood down the plug hole. Then I will get back to tiding, cleaning, ironing, cooking, looking after my children and going to another children's party. My life is anything but rock and roll!!!

ike1 · 07/04/2013 10:53

Jules those are the most depressing stats and very true to life and general experience I prmise its not you...which makes me want to say..PLEEEEAASEE make me fancy the Herbalist...Kin..Kin crash carp again help!!!

ike1 · 07/04/2013 10:55

Pome stick Diamond Dogs on You Tube ...you will instantly become RAwk n Roll hon....woof woof ooooooooooooooooooooooooh!!!

mercury7 · 07/04/2013 11:01

majority of OD is rubbish I agree.
I mostly treat it as a bit of a laugh...and all grist for the mill, and I have had some good experiences that I'm very glad I didnt miss

ike1 · 07/04/2013 11:03

grist for the mill Merc... I know I can rely on you to make it all sound suitably unromantic...a dose of Merc logic and a slap with the carp and Im cured!!

ike1 · 07/04/2013 11:04

almost....whimper.......

ike1 · 07/04/2013 11:06

Shiit 5 hrs till I meet him...oh no ...

TigsytheTiger · 07/04/2013 11:09

Juliette that is pants, really pants as you say, you rearrange it and it doesn't take a week or two. how frustrating and annoying!

Pom fingers crossed the new job brings the chance to meet some new people and prospective dates, it is horrible when you scroll through all your matches and it looks like a line up from crimewatch or the IT department apologies to all those who work in IT who I'm sure are warm and lovely people, but there is a certain 'look' why not try snape's advice and change your search, age range or distance and see what it brings.

Ike is there a date set yet for the Herbalist Grin would a wedding be so wrong, for a first date, Tigsy idlly wonders?

Snape agree, it's amazing how you get use to, what you like, so quickly. When I first starting seeing MrEA we had a week, 10 days or a fortnight between dates due to work and DC commitments. Now he stays with me probably 11 or 12 nights out of 14 and I miss him more those 2 nights, just because I've got use to him being here and I like it. >

OhWesternWind · 07/04/2013 11:10

Oooh it's all on for tonight!! Getting all excited - there's the possibility that this could be good. I want it to be good, he is keen too, so you never know!

Ike I don't need to buy another blooming hat, do I?

Juliette that is rotten. Boo hiss to GSM. I think so many of them are just out there for a little bit of ego-stroking.

Tigsy enjoy your pash sesh you lucky thing!

Nora the crash carp thing does make me laugh. Anything from Software today? Hope he just faded away now and you don't have to have an awkward conversation.

Pom - crap feeling. Come off the sites for a while, maybe, or if you're like me and feel better if you're actually doing something, try again tonight fortified by a glass of wine ... Sometimes some surprising ones just pop up out of nowhere!

Stella it all sounds like a made-up excuse, very fishy especially if things otherwise are going well ...

Engineer has reappeared and messaged but haven't read it yet, so he might still be a back-up.