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Dating thread no 49

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JulietteMontague · 01/04/2013 15:17

All daters welcome here.

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Movingforward123 · 03/04/2013 21:44

Rainy - stupid exes Wink yes lucky you were home!

Well the problem is he was going to propose recently and after we has sex told me he loves me, so unfortunately he wants more! I don't want more as I know he's not the man for me! But sexually is defiantly is!!!

ohmyrainydays · 03/04/2013 21:45

I'd steer well clear then in that case. You don't want to give him false hope.

Movingforward123 · 03/04/2013 21:46

Kin - I have got a fwb guy and I do sometimes feel used after! But also sometimes feel fine after! I just don't Like the fact of someone only wanting me for sex! I want a relationship if I meet someone I feel that way about !

Movingforward123 · 03/04/2013 21:47

Western - GrinGrinGrin at the squeaky voice, that would never even enter my head! Grin

Scrazy · 03/04/2013 21:51

Oh no Pom, you're not obliged stay for more than one drink, so just say thanks for meeting me I need to go now.

On the subject of sex. I've never been of the idea that good girls don't, far from it Blush. But I dp think that meeting men from an IE profile is more likely to lead to a serious of ONS rather than a regular arrangement as even a fwb situation needs some kind of connection above and beyond the sex.

I would love to be proved wrong though, so watch with interest.

Mr cancel from today isn't giving up. He still wants to meet so I've been soft and said OK for this weekend. I won't bother getting ready until I know he has arrived locally. It will be for one coffee only.

SweetSeraphim · 03/04/2013 21:52

Pom if you need a quick call or text for an 'emergency', PM me your number, I will call you Shock

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JulietteMontague · 03/04/2013 21:55

Pom 'well I have to be getting back, it's been lovely to meet you'. Then either call a cab yourself or ask the bar staff to do it. Nod, smile, yes lets meet up again blah. Taxi!

Rainy are you ok? that's awful, what is the point of him if he could do that Angry

Moving, what Kin said. I was brought up the same way, although according to that book women who wanted sex were unnatural somehow Hmm. That never really sat right with me, the result of which is that I decided to do what I wanted and still will.

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OhWesternWind · 03/04/2013 22:02

I was brought up like that too, you had to sit properly and everything was about fending off the hordes of sex-crazed youths who were poised to descend on you as soon as you set foot out of the door.

I love sex now, but I've done my ONSs in my teens and twenties and I wouldn't want to go back there. Sex and love, that's what I want, or at least sex and affection.

Scrazy · 03/04/2013 22:05

Moving, I am the same re fwb. I can only handle it if I don't have feelings for the guy and if that's the case I soon lose interest in the benefits part. I hate the rollercoaster ride of feeling OK one time and the next suspecting that he is out there looking for someone he really likes Sad.

I know other people are braver than me, though.

lubeybooby · 03/04/2013 22:08

I don't do sex without affection really... that's why I like the date first to make sure there's something about them I really like, spark there and that we get on enough for me to want to express affection...

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JulietteMontague · 03/04/2013 22:11

Same as Lubey, it wouldn't matter if George Clooney turned up, if I didn't feel a little something, no George!

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Scrazy · 03/04/2013 22:16

OWW, same here. I do think it depends on where you are on 'the journey' through life and singledom.

lubeybooby · 03/04/2013 22:28

Jeez. Mr B sends the longest texts on earth. Filled my (crappy) phone memory within 40 texts when it normally can store about 200!

He seems a bit hard work now tbh, going all intellectual on me. Yes, thats lovely and I appreciate he has a brain but I think he's taking trying to impress me too far, really no need. I'm already sooo up for it. Wink

Pomegranatenoir · 03/04/2013 22:58

I'm home. He wasn't awful but he couldn't be further away from what I want in a man if he tried. Already had 2 texts asking for a second date! Why have I got involved in this!!!

Thanks for your help. Got my brother to pick me up - quickly!!! Sat at home with a take away curry so it's not all bad!!

KinNora · 03/04/2013 23:05

Is he attempting to impress you, Lubey ? It's either that or he's a bit of a show off.

Glad you're home safe and sound Pom although you have just made me crave curry.

Never done fwb or ons so my contribution at this point is limited to telling you that I really, really want a curry.

Pomegranatenoir · 03/04/2013 23:16

Curry was amazing! Wish I could say the same about the date. Think I got asked 6 times for a 2nd date, he said I am way prettier in real life and he likes me a lot - he said it in a weird Mexican style voice that made vomit come into my throat. He couldn't be further removed from what I want in a man if he tried.

Will listen to my instinct next time - too much texting, was waaaaay too full on and loads of other stuff. At least I have learnt another od lesson! Just feel bad about leaving early and not wanting to see him again.

Movingforward123 · 03/04/2013 23:23

Pom - glad you got out quickly! What do you want in a guy? And what was he lacking? Did he have a squeaky voice?? Grin

Well I've just been on the phone with exp who wants to continue sleeping together! Surprise surprise! He also wants to marry me! He has offered to take me and dd on holiday which I would love to do but I know it's not a good idea! Even though I can't afford to go away myself anytime soon and dd would love a holiday Hmm

And I would love to meet up for sex with him!!!

KinNora · 03/04/2013 23:24

I'll forgive you giving me the curry craving for this - he said it in a weird Mexican style voice that made vomit come into my throat - that made me laugh my arse off.

Movingforward123 · 03/04/2013 23:32

I second what Kim said! That was the funniest thing I've heard all night!! Lol

Movingforward123 · 03/04/2013 23:33

Sorry I meant Kin not Kim Confused

EternalRose · 03/04/2013 23:39

I think this is what worries me about friends with benefits, knowing that anytime they could say." Right, met the woman of my dreams, thanks and have a nice life sort of thing. Confused I think I would feel so demoralised if that happened to me, although I do admire women that can pull it off and enjoy themselves, it's just not me I dont think.

It's a relationship or nothing for me. Or my rabbit

EternalRose · 03/04/2013 23:40

ha, and Mexicana also made me laugh! Grin

Pomegranatenoir · 03/04/2013 23:51

Imagine being on the receiving end ladies!! Awful. Just awful. Haven't even mentioned his laugh yet. Oh god. Makes me cringe inside. Awful!!

Sorry for being mean. I'm not heartless but it was painful how he misread every signal I gave out.

Bant · 04/04/2013 00:00

Pom. No one thInks you're heartless. Most of us have been there, the huge build up, the excitement, the let down, the disappointment and guilt when the other is obviously into us.

You're unique with the Mexican accent though. What did it sound like?

(I'd kill for a curry, just had a bland tuna baguette & bad coffee at 30000 ft above Germany)

Pomegranatenoir · 04/04/2013 00:01

Moving - every date I go on makes me realise more what I am looking for in a man. I want a mans man. Not a wuss, a cheat or a liar. I want someone who has got taste in clothes, lifestyle, loves same holidays as me and good friends. Want them to have a direction career wise and drive to enhance their life. with morals that they live by and makes me laugh. Reasonably good looking with a normalish body that I feel comfortable with. Into their kids or understands what having a family means. Someone with principles, values and boundaries. And no criminal record, dodgy past or weirdo exes. Someone who doesn't tell lies.and that doesn't say I like in a weird Mexican accent

Should be easy -right...?!

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