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Dating thread no 49

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JulietteMontague · 01/04/2013 15:17

All daters welcome here.

OP posts:
MirandaWest · 04/04/2013 00:02

I'm marking fairly poor quality accountancy exam papers. Such a fun way to spend the evening....

Pomegranatenoir · 04/04/2013 00:09

bant I didn't even feel excited about meeting him. It was more a kind of dread. Like when you are goings to have a root canal or something. You know it has to be done but you can't wait for it to be over! I knew how it would end and I should have listened to my instinct. At least it is getting more finely tuned as I go further along the od road!

I don't feel sad about the build up and let down because I never really felt the build up. He just wasn't my type. Had I have met him at work or in a bar I would have wrote him off within milliseconds. With od I went along with it for a lot longer than I should have.

Think there is someone else on here having doubts about someone they are texting. Sorry I am mid message and can't scroll back far enough. I would be tempted to tell you to follow your instinct. If things are putting you on edge a bit then it is probably because they do not sit right with you, not on text and not in real life. Just my opinion though!!

ike1 · 04/04/2013 02:40

Lord just finished chatting to Mr H ...this is getting ridiculous...

KinNora · 04/04/2013 08:33

Oh-oh Ike you're starting to like him in that 'special' way, aren't you ? ... Grin

Miranda marking accountancy exam papers - I can't even begin to imagine what that must be like, blimey, I hope they pay well.

Pom I think Lubey said most recently that Mr B was sending her very long involved texts.

Today is the day I'm meeting Showbiz for lunch, he's very excited, apparently. I'm not that at all excited but hopeful of spending a couple of hours laughing my arse off in the company of a gifted raconteur and man-about-town. He's another one bringing me a present, in his case I think it might be a book about Schrödinger's Cat (welcome) rather than the 'homemade' present ( arranging my 'ooh lovely' face already) that Software has for me.

( All my friends are on tenterhooks to see what Software's painting will be, there are a lot of votes for a nude of some description - I can't think about it too much because it makes me a touch panicky )

KirstyWirsty · 04/04/2013 08:43

rainy thank goodness you got it under control .. Scary though!

pom next!!!

I've got a coffee date with theBoy (22) at lunchtime 😄 we ended up texting and talking on the phone till after 1 .. I have learned from the mistake on Sunday and have already had the condom chat xx

OhWesternWind · 04/04/2013 08:46

Nora get you with all these admirers bearing gifts! I am all agog to see what Software's painting is like. Will you put a photo up on your profile, pleeeeease?

Hope the lunch goes well and, like you say, it will fun if nothing else. But hopefully it will be a bit "something else" as well.

I am getting a bit excited and a bit nervous about meeting Cakey tonight.

ChooChooLaverne · 04/04/2013 08:52

Nora when are you seeing Software? I can't wait to hear what the painting is like.

Kirsty have fun with theBoy.

OWW good luck with meeting Cakey tonight. Fingers crossed it goes well.

I'm going away for a few days and won't have internet access so will have to catch up with you all next week.

Happy dating everyone.

KinNora · 04/04/2013 08:55

I'm vicariously excited for you both, OWW and Kirsty, it's all go round here at the moment, must be Spring.

OWW I've had presents from a few of my dates, from the traditional, flowers, from El Fetish, to a 1976 Shoot magazine special edition - I can't say I don't get variety.

KinNora · 04/04/2013 08:57

Oh no ChooChoo ! Meeting Software tomorrow for The Great Unveiling, might put a photo on my profile briefly (if it's not of me in the buff)

ChooChooLaverne · 04/04/2013 08:59

Nora I'll have to see if I can find a spot somewhere tomorrow where I have internet access on my phone so I can have a look! Good luck with both your meetings.

OhWesternWind · 04/04/2013 09:03

We are all at it today, aren't we! Good luck, Kirsty. Ooh, I've not had a 22 year old since I was 21! Always went for the older man . . . Have got a reply from one I winked at last night and he says "You do realise I'm 51" - yep, I can read . . . It's right on my upper age limit but so long as everything is working it's okay with me.

None of mine have brought me presents on a date. What am I doing wrong here?

MirandaWest · 04/04/2013 09:06

Accountancy exam papers very dull. These ones don't pay all that much tbh but helps put something in the holiday fund :)

Going to see Cats in Manchester today. XH is tagging along Hmm - was meant to come by train with us but after I had bought the tickets found he was seeing friends in Manchester last night so meeting him there which is a good thing tbh. Feel he is lying about something - behaviours recently remind me of when he was pissing about pretending he wasn't having an affair although he was, but not sure exactly what he has to lie about Hmm. Having a meal with him afterwards (am prepared with 20% off pizza express voucher) and then well all come back by train.

Feel I may need some sort of distraction during the day...

Movingforward123 · 04/04/2013 09:10

Kirsty and western good luck today Grin I want a date Hmm I'm wondering if I should message that guy that I was talking to last week that i let on my Facebook? I get annoyed with them easily but I guess it's like until you have met up your not really a person! Just an Internet person looking for a date Hmm

Movingforward123 · 04/04/2013 09:12

Western - you seem to be very good at getting dates! What site are you on? And are you messaging a lot of people first? I need tips Grin

ohmyrainydays · 04/04/2013 09:15

I've got about just under 3hrs until my date. My phone battery died so my alarm didn't in off and we've only just got up! I'm really nervous and excited at the same time.

EternalRose · 04/04/2013 09:19

Good luck oww, and Kirsty...

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EternalRose · 04/04/2013 09:20

Ohmyrainydays - Which date are you going on? Is this the one that was texting a lot or someone new?

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OhWesternWind · 04/04/2013 09:22

I am on Match (joined up a couple of weeks ago when they tempted me in with a special offer) and PoF. I don't know, I thought I wasn't doing very well compared to a lot of people as I don't get 63 messages in one night or whatever someone was talking about on another thread!

I don't reply to most of the messages I get (which is bad, I know, but I used to write a nice reply even if I didn't like them and it got me into some awkward situations so now I tend to just ignore) as they are too young, too far away, not my type at all or don't come across as educated/intelligent. I am quite picky with who I message too, but I had a bit of a mad moment last night and messaged five or so new ones - got one thanks but no thanks, one offer of a coffee and three potential new chatters . . . The coffee one didn't have a photo up and hasn't sent one, so will need to ask him about that first!

I think messaging them first can work well and all you lose is five minutes of your time if they don't reply or they don't sound any good when they do.

But I am a bit crap at all this and I'm sure there will be much better advice coming along soon.

ohmyrainydays · 04/04/2013 09:28

Rose it's the same one. I really like him now though.

Movingforward123 · 04/04/2013 09:28

Rainy - good luck Grin

Western - you seem to be doing well to me Wink do the men seem any better on match? I wonder if I should try match! But then I'm hoping to be working at speed dating events soon, so hopefully I won't need to online date Wink

ike1 · 04/04/2013 09:34

Hmmm what I think it is Kin is that he is strategically keeping me sleep deprived ..thereby lowering my defences...possibly seeing him sunday...appears to be a v busy chap...hmmm......good luck all todays daters!!!!

OhWesternWind · 04/04/2013 09:37

I think Match and PoF are about on a par if you are very selective with the PoF guys. There are quite a few who are on both sites. I do get more messages on PoF, and this time round have had one PoF date (groper) and one Match date (Cakey, hopefully not a groper). You can have a look at who's around in your area on Match before you sign up, so it's probably worth having a quick scout around.

I know lots of people don't like PoF but I've got on alright with it, not had any problems with lewd messages or photos or anything.

OhWesternWind · 04/04/2013 09:39

Oh Rainy have just seen your message! Date today for you as well! Something is in the air today . . . Please just be careful with this guy. I know that you are quite keen on him, but just take it with a pinch of salt at first as some of the things he's said are a bit Hmm Hope it all goes well!

EternalRose · 04/04/2013 09:40

Ohhhh rainy, I really hope you have a good date but be cautious. Is this the same man that said he was going to change his relationship status on facebook if the date was good? I hope you don't take this the wrong way I am certainly no expert but be guarded.

And thanks to lubey I have finished reading 'Women who love too much' by Robin Norwood, lets just say it has been an eye opener!

The ex admitted that he is emotionally unavailable, and I tend to go for those types, not anymore though! Thank God for Robin Norwood!

And I am shattered, working so much at the minute, sitting in bed on my laptop drinking tea with my (nearly 3 year old) catching up on all of your good news.

Movingforward123 · 04/04/2013 09:57

Rose - that book sounds interesting! I seem to go for men with serious emotional problems and tough childhoods, do you think this book might be useful for me?

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