A Sex Question......

[moonblushtomato]

DH has a bee in his bonnet (or underpants) that we are not having enough sex. Just wondered what the going rate is these days?
We are in on our early 40s, have been married for nearly 8 years and have 3DCs aged 15, 6 and 4.
btw we are averaging about once a week which I'm quite happy with.

I think you needed to be here while it happened to understand why some people are bothered by this.

It doesn't make sense (to the same degree) with all those deleted posts.

how did they lost their membership?
surely they can post here anyway or re register under a different user name

anyway it is still not the OP's fault is it

Not the ops fault that the thread took a nasty turn because of alleged troll.
May op is trying to back away slowly due to the turn it took but doing it chirpily to leave sharpish can be a little scary to a newby

penny, I actually can't be arsed to explain to you

it's one of those "you had to be there" moments

trust me on that, or don't...I don't give a shit

sometimes wilful ignorance is too much to deal with for a simple MN'er...this is one of those times

Hey come on, none of this was the OP's fault. Why are you directing your anger at her?

it's unheard of for an OP to minimise and back off when faced with healthy reactions to an OP....yeah

come on AF it's a message board get it into perspective... I am not ignorant just living in the real world

anger ? No anger here. I think the banned poster(s) might feel a bit of disquiet though.

If posters are banned it is their fault and not the OP's
and they can always come back

not so easy to "come back"

unless you make a habit of getting banned, getting a new email and user name, a whole different persona and start again ?

surely they are not banned forever? and if so they must've said something pretty bad I guess

many posters change names on here and most people have more than one email addy

penny...I don't think you understand what "banning" means

yes I do AF
on the scale of world problems I don't think it comes very high

If they were banned it must have been for a good reason I guess

indeed

Did someone other than sllloooomee get banned?

look, the bunfight isn't OP's fault at all

but to come back after all that and say "haha, we are fine after all...what is all this drama about, aren't you being silly" is fucking bad manners at the very least

Well maybe it was trivial. Often they're not but sometimes they are. We still don't really know in this case. But even if it was, there's no rule against airing trivial problems. OP shouldn't have to apologise.

Maybe the OP's issue was trivial to her.

What happened afterwards was far from trivial.

So for her to come in and

a) dismiss those who didn't offer 'helpful advice' and
b) and tell them they should get a hobby

was a bit off given the awful subject that has been discussed.

I thought the "get a hobby" bit was directed at the derailers?

Maybe Amanda. I thought that too at first. But on second reading, I wasn't so sure.

Either way I feel a bit sorry for her, I'm not entirely sure I'd have handled it better in her place, particularly if I wasn't a regular reader.

The OP is not to blame for the arrival of nutters on her thread. Nor is she personally responsible for the mental wellbeing of anyone else on here. She asked a question, got mixed advice, takes what she needs from it and moves on. This is fair enough.