How many men / women have you slept with?

[ElizabethX]

Assuming you can remember that is.

Today for the first time ever I counted and it is 14 / 0*.

I am 35. This is just under 1 a year since I became sexually active (started late...4th term at uni). I'm not counting youthful messing about, I mean full sex.

This doesn't seem so many to me and obv its going to depend when you became monogamous anyway. But, I have seen articles that suggest a much lower figure, eg 7 for men 4 for women.

Am I a bit of a slapper (which I would be fine with, I enjoyed it) or are all these people just lying? I think the latter, because judging by who I have spoken to 14 is much more typical than 4.

• 14 men I think ** no women I am sure

namechanged for this because it's fairly mortifying.

total of 2

was married to the first one for a long time, got divorced and had sex with someone else.

Am 48. Regret both to be honest. Bloody hell, think it has just been brought home to me what I've missed out on.

WTF?! Why would you NAMECHANGE because you've only had sex with two people?!

Are women now valued on some kind of sliding scale of sexual experience? How is that any better than women being denigrated for 'lack of virtue'?

Sorry you feel sad about it bit

It's how you FEEL about how many people you've slept with that matters. Not the number.

Anyway bit, you're only 48 woman. Get in that saddle and ride 'em cowgirl (if you want to etc. etc.)

Am not namechanging.

Two.

The first was a boyfriend whilst at uni. I loved him, he loved me. We did not last but I don't regret it.
The second is my dh.

Oh, are we supposed to add women as well?

Well, that would be none then.

And a teeny part of me regrets that (the zero women that is...) There was the chance ten years ago. But I turned it down. (happily married and all that) But boy was I curious...

13ish/0 (but a few drunken snogs!)

Am 34, married 7 years.

I namechanged because I'm personally mortified, not having really given this a lot of thought before, and I don't want anyone who knows me knowing that I regret having given the time of day to both the men I've had sex with because even I can see this is pretty peculiar and, yes, sad.

MsOnatopp are you saying that someone had sex with you without you noticing?? Or without your consent???

Im 34 and I have slept with 5 men. Two were as a 16/17 yr old, and were one off's. Then I was with xp for 10 years, and then 2 men since I have been single. One was a fwb, and not sure what the other one is yet.

approx35 / 2
including 2 marriages.
I'm almost 40.

Olives without my consent I guess. Well I didn't protest. I wasn't really sure what to do. He rolled over, touched me very briefly till I got wet enough, rolled on top of me, dtd and then rolled off. He did the same not too long later. I just lay and let him get on with it.

Not sure I want to add it to my number cos now I think about it I am getting pissed off.

I am not sure how to respond to that.

I hope you are ok.

I'm fine Olives thanks :) I was 17, pretended I didn't care, and haven't thought about it since really. Until a couple of weeks ago, and again just now. Now I wish I had told him to get off and am feeling a little upset/pissed off about it. No point though, it was five years ago now.

Um...well I have lost count. More than a couple of hundred men and a good 50 or so women. I am 47 and have been happily married for nearly 14 years and we've been together 18 years and we have a very adventurous sex life.

The only STD I have had is chlamydia given to me by my 1st husband who shagged around with out a care.

7/0

Number 7 was the best, but we only shagged twice.

Number 4 was totally crap premature ejaculation anyone? and I ended up married to him for 18 years. What the fuck was I thinking ?

Wish I'd stayed with number 2, he was wonderful.

OhgodIreallydon'tknowtheanswer/1

No women.

1 bar manager at a bar I worked in
2 much older man at the bar as above
3 dd's dad
4 my ex husband
5 6 month fling with younger chef at place I worked in
6 horrible horrible one night thing - mortifyingly embaRrassing
7 best friend of number 5 (oops) another one nighter
(Then went back to 5!)
8 my now dh :) been together 3 years :)

Lost count by my early twenties/0

I am 41

Bitredfaced- I think it's the fact that some people have actually talked about 'good' and 'bad' numbers on this thread- i mean, wtf is that about?

There is no right or wrong. It's not a bloody competition fgs. I'd far rather sleep with people who make me feel good than just notch up the numbers. It's a shame you feel regret about the way things have gone so far.. But you're still young, get out there and do what makes you happy (whether that's sleeping with men, women or neither!)

About 25, but I got with DH when I was 21 and got married at 23 so that was in a short space of time!

last count was 27 including both sexes..I may have missed out a few though, I was a terrible drunken slut back in the day ! married dh at 22 as well.

2/0

I'm 41

9/0
was 2 until age 45 (married a loooooong time), then 1 long term, the rest since November last year - I'm making up for my missing 'shagging around' years

Just realised that's 1 per decade until christmas then 1 per month since!

6/0. That's 12 years worth of sex. I've been in 2 long relationships though, one lasting 7 years, and one lasting 2 years. I didn't have sex for 3 years after losing my virginity, I was so disappointed by it, then crammed the rest in a space of 3 months.