men who got to prostitutes

[jake42]

Hello .
ive been reading all the threads on here about guys who visit escorts/ prostitutes/ whores etc , and i know im probably going to be called all sorts of names as its mainly a womans site, but i thought id write and tell my tale.

42 year old male , married for some 15 years, adore my wife and child and my family life . i want to get old with her .
just after our marriage one evening after sex ,whilst cuddling in bed , she says ive been thinking, we dont have to do sex, we love each other , lets live together like a brother and sister ! WTF im thinking, whats bought this on, nothing i could say or do would change her mind, we had sex very infrequently after , mainly to try for a baby. once said baby was born , she obviously was tired most of the time and eventually moved into the spare room blaming tiredness and my snoring (i do snore, but not that bad) . that was around 10 years ago and is still there now. We may of had sex 6 or 7 times since, im never allowed the pleasure of oral sex either way ,sex is always at my request, but always with the feeling that she just wants me to come and finish.
i adore her and cant imagine life without her, but the thought of no sex or hardly any doesnt appeal to me at all.
so after being knocked back one time too many i visited a site where Escort girls advertised and agreed to meet one .
i have been discreetly seeing different ones for around 5 years, always take every precaution and making sure my wife does not catch anything.
im basically between a rock and a hard place, i need to have sex , my wife doesnt, we love each other , i dont want to leave her , she , i assume doesnt want us to split up . but i cant imagine life for another 30 yrs with out sexual contact. i kind of figure that paying for it off a prostitute is better than having an affair, which as i love my wife would be out of the question.
i would be glad if anyone out there could perhaps in someway give me some advice . oh and im not a woman hater , i adore female company more than male .

That's very telling HypercriticalOaf and really doesn't surprise me either. So typical.

Laughlaugh! So typical of what, exactly, Retromum?

You have no idea of who I am, or what my views are regarding anything other than the fact that I have, through the course of this thread, come to view 'Jake' as an abominable arse for cheating on his wife for over five years.

So shoot me!

Bricks, it's above the post that you made that reads

alone

Who am I goading?

You keep talking about drunk women, swinging couples, open relationships and it's a) not relevant and b) diverting. I genuinely thought you were unsure as to what constitutes rape - what with your earlier, now deleted post, which contained some VERY dodgy language.

Unfortunately the police are not too bothered about the systematic rape of prostitutes.

Retro I'd rather not look on swinging sites - do you mean they swing without fancying each other - but why? there is enough choice I assume. are the photos scary ?

Typical forum form HypercriticalOaf, I'm not so arrogant as to presume I know you at all.

can't remember what it was now, deleted. But i don't think it was anything that wasn't mentioned in other posts.

Bricks, the pics and the request can be a little

Shirley, I keep making connections to reveal the hypocricy of society you refuse to see.

Oh I see how hypocritical society is, Retromum, I see it very, very well.

Just not in the same way you do.

Oh dear RetroMum, let me spell this out to you simply:

Men who visit prostitutes don't love and respect women. If they did they wouldn't be treating their vaginas as a commodity to be bought and sold

Jake visits prostitutes. He even goes so far as to call them whores, a less than respectful term.

Therefore Jake cannot be someone who loves and respects women.

Good Retromum but it's probably better not to generalise regarding 'forum form'. We are each an individual

Using the term whore does you no favours op. in fact I had some sympathy until then. Come back when your wife has found out and tell us if we reacted harsher than she did.

Btw all tge chatter, the talks, tge sharing, it is mostly a pile of bollocks, she is there to do a job and get repeat business.

OhNo it seems to be a revelation to many men that strippers/escorts don't actually like them.

So OP thinks his wife not having sex with him is carte blanche for him to sneak off and use prostitutes eh? Oh and a load of MNetters roll up and agree with him.

But it's all ok because "Gabby" drives an open top BMW. And "Pippa" holidays in Mexico.

OP if all so justified, why not tell your wife all about your sordid little trysts with prostitutes? See what she says about it - I bet it'll make some of the responses on this thread look positively complimentary.

Reminds me of the guy who came on here a while back to try and convince everyone he was actually friends with the dancers at the strip club he frequented. And that they were all funding their degrees...

I'm getting the idea that the majority of posters see sex in one way and one way only. Sacred between a loving couple. It seems some do not understand the difference between loving, bonding sex and recreational sex. It's either loving sex or it's BAD!

It's not nice that Jake has been reduced to lying to a self centered woman who entraps a man to sponsor her lifestyle, is what I think. I don't blame him for visiting willing women who will have recreational sex with him for cash.

Cor! That's some serious women hating right there Retro. How ironic!

Where exactly am I woman hating? And would you like a wooden spoon?

OH I see, I can see this situation from a man's perspective so it's obvious I must hate women, isn't it?

I don't believe in the sisterhood, that's true!

Retro - objecting to men using prostitutes is not 'seeing sex in one way and one way only.' What a strange post! Nobody's said that at all. And the attitudes coming across from your (very objectionable) posts ooze women-hating. Talking about women 'entrapping' men? How very last century.

Retro - prostitutes most certainly are/can be raped. Just because money changes hands doesn't change that.

I think you need to educate yourself as to what constitutes rape - try the MN I believe you Campaign - lots of very useful information there.

We've been around this mulberry bush before

Retromum, have you read the link I posted, about what formerly prostituted women say that prostitution is actually like? It is a rare person who enjoys being penetrated sexually for money. Most people who have had that experience find it degrading and soul destroying.

It's you who appears to know nothing about the realities of prostitution - repeating happy hooker myths as if they were reality.

Happy hooker myths and rape myths. Repeated ad nauseum.