Time wasters need not apply, Soul Soothers come hither Dating Chat Part 11

[hatesponge]

Ta-da! Think this is the first one I've started.

I am still feeling somewhat feisty. Told my team off at work for being too noisy and was generally stroppy. Might have to go and start a row in AIBU or something!

So, dating, as you were etc

Not forgetting of course that I have a second date at the weekend!

I would like a new handbag. Mine are all black and boring plain. My main one is a Radley, which is nice I suppose but I wouldn't mind something a bit more trendy

In my opinion there are crap men everywhere. It's just more concentrated on dating sites. I waded through loads of messages yesterday and didn't hit upon one that I would bother with. There seems to be a limit on intellect on POF. I suggest we are finding it challenging because we are at the higher end of attractiveness and intellect and there is very little, if anything, that is in our league on that site

Yeah, that's nice, very respectful. Finger's crossed he is a good one, if he isn't you have the handbag to look forward to

time - its really not just that site though, is it.
OKC is rubbish in my area, less than 20 men.
Match has the same faces on it that are on POF
guardian is also rubbish in my area.
i looked at oasis after mlm had said she had been on it, and noone at all from my area!

i also wouldnt say im at the higher end of attractiveness, more just normal really. Some days i can look good, some days not :)

have a look at the debenhams sale, i brought this, for me or my sister....
www.debenhams.com/webapp/wcs/stores/servlet/prod_10001_10001_089010566586_-1?breadcrumb=Home~Sale~Women~Handbags+%26amp%3B+purses

and this for my mother
www.debenhams.com/webapp/wcs/stores/servlet/prod_10001_10001_089010612997_-1?breadcrumb=Home~Sale~Women~Handbags+%26amp%3B+purses

fab prices :)

Last night went well. He was fantastic and I had fun so all good. Just no one compares to my 'just friends' although I have another chap ringing me tonight after they finish work. He is the one that lives super local.

There seems to be heaps of horny nice young lads in my area. On pof and oasis.

Why did my strike through not work?!

mlm - there are lots of horny men everywhere, im not looking for horney men at the momment though. just a nice one would do. im looking to enjoy someones company not their cock.

If i wanted to go out and get laid, then i could and do when i get desperate ive had 3 men contact me for something casual since monday, one i considered and gave my number to, then when he was banging on and on about pics and phone sex i thought fuck it. And told him that even if i was interested in something casual i no longer was, because i am a person not a prosititue or a free porn service. hes text me every day trying to get me to change my mind - he can sod off :)

Yes, I totally agree watch. I've tried/looked at all those sites too and came to exactly the same conclusion. POF is the site where I get more response, the men seem more proactive but, unfortunately, I haven't hit upon one that meets my requirements yet . Agree also about the horny men, and that's not what I'm looking for either.

The one I mentioned yesterday, the one I liked who keeps coming back. I was even considering meeting him for a coffee but he turned me right off yesterday with his smutty/sex talk. It was totally inappropriate to the conversation and completely changed my opinion of him. That sort of stuff, to me personally, comes when you know a person better/more intimately. I don't want to be afternoon wank fodder for a guy who's not been laid in 12 months. If I wanted that I would apply for a job on the phone sex lines!

oh no, how did that happen then?
what did he say?

the builder has text ' sorry, i didnt realise the time'
knobber, i wont be replying.

oh fgs - now hes texting me things like ' nicnac paddy wack, dont be moody, it doesnt suit you'

no, just no. bloody stupid men.

Let's just say that he insisted on telling me in no uncertain terms what he will do to me when we meet, 'because you know you want it' Very graphic detail. A complete change in him.

Good on you in not replying! What amazes me is how most some men think that just because you are on a dating site you willl take anyone and anything who comes your way. Some of them think that just because you are on there it's a given that they have pulled, no matter how ugly uncouth they are

Dickhead!

There are some good ones out there. Ny first one there is nothing sexual but we enjoy each others company, maybe we will blossom together. I am out in a dress today and have had enough of the looks, and ny boobs aren't even really out. Anyone would think they'd never seen a girl in a dress before, although I do look pretty hot very nice in it.

god - and had you said anything at all to lead him to think that, or was it just totally out of the blue?

' because you know you want it' - bloody hell.

the australian got a bit like that - yes, we were in contact from when i had my profile set to IE, so you have to expect a bit of that. He kept asking for me to meet him for a drink, when i finally agreed and said when i was free, post buddist, he changed the goal posts and said only if i just turned up and his, and then dropped to my knees when he opened the door... and the rest was rather explict - i told him if that was what he wanted to happen that it might be best if he hired a professional - but even then i doubt that would happen.

and i think you are right, i think lots of them assume that, and also that they are the only male you are talking to, because, well. if you are talking to them, why would you be talking to anyone else.....

dickhead indeed. im just going to ignore him now.

i guess men looking for casual sex will happily shag any person with a pulse and a vagina..those retards dont have the wit to realise that women looking for casual sex have rather stricter requirements!

Morning :)

MLM strike out failed because you left spaces between the -- and the words.

I left POF and Smooch because of the lack of suitable men

Time - what a donkey!! At least he showed his true colours before you met.

Watch - I haven't got back to Mr NI (originally from Northern Ireland) about his band recommendations yet. Have to find time to listen to them!

'because you know you want it'

Weirdo misogynist alert...

watch right decision.

I'm so tempted to get a new sim card and use that to give to men who I give my number out to. I've a few spare phones hanging around, I'm sure I can find the charger to one of them.

time - yeah, post is right, least he showed what hes like before you had spent ages getting ready and taking bus trips and things.
silver lining and all that. sort of.

Watch I honestly didn't think that guy could get any more irritating after the choice of pub saga, but repeatedly texting you in the early hours . What IS is with men that they feel entitled to behave like this?!

I suppose it's as Time says that there are a few women out there who are prepared to put up with this crap, so men just get away with it!

I'm not upset about the Barbour, it's been so long since I went on a date with him I can barely remember what he looks like, plus I half expected him to flake. I don't think he's really got time to date but likes the attention and ego boost of a few texts. His loss & all that!

I still have drinks with my Boss at some point, though not sure when that will be.

No more messages on POF and no-one worth sending one to, I've looked on other sites, OKCupid men seemed even less attractive than the POF ones albeit more literate. GSM men not at all my type either.

watch I said absolutely nothing to encourage him talking like that. He started off by saying that if we met we would be f like rabbits. I was very and replied with a "that's very presumptuous of you. As my profile states, I'm not looking for casual sex and certainly not looking to sleep with someone on a first meeting" he said he was certain we would be, told me what he would be doing to me and told me 'because you know you want to'. I told him if he thought that he was very wrong. He then suddenly had 'a few jobs to do' so would chat later He's very wrong on that score too!

Post yes you are right, he was actually the most decent one I have ever chatted to so I was very a bit pissed off with him.

Sponge I think, quite possibly there are more than 'a few' women out there who are prepared to put up with such crap. I know that when my own self esteem was very low I might have done just the same. The fact I am now in the best place of my life I have ever been and my self esteem is at it's highest level ever, means I don't suffer fools. I will not compromise when it comes to something that could have an adverse effect on my emotional wellbeing!

Chaotic good idea re getting a different sim for knobheads dating. I've got a spare one so shall use that. If ever I meet someone worth giving my number to. Might just be easier to become a lesbian. At least the women who hit on me are attractive and can string two words together!

And even if you did want it, it doesn't mean it would be with him. I think men find me too full on and too much to handle. Truth is they just can't keep up most of them bet my just friend could though, sigh

Oh well, I have plenty of offers of I just "want it" but I want shock horror a boyfriend to wake up next to.

There are so many women that put up with it. I dont really know why? I know so few people in a happy relationship, maybe we are chasing the unbotainable?

sponge - glad you arent upset about the barbour, i supose you knew it was likely he wasnt going to actually do it. but still. urgh

time - god!!!!!! idiot. my good come back is ' and then back in the non porn real world...' they usually vanish after that. Thing is, if they were nice, and took me out for a few drinks and made me laugh and feel comftable, they would very easily get laid, im not asking alot!!!!!

hahahaha, when i was looking at those profiles you posted yesterday time, i saw this one its grim www.pof.com/viewprofile.aspx?profile_id=38262887

well, hes only just messaged me. hahahahahaha. im going to tell him that although he looks like my prince charming maybe the distance is a little too far.
hahahahahahahaha. bloody hell.

sponge - this came up in my matches - any good for you:
www.pof.com/viewprofile.aspx?profile_id=38262887

Totally agree watch. I didn't find him repulsive, his photo didn't turn my stomach, he may well have been in with a chance if ever we had met. But talking to me like that, no, I didn't like how it made me feel and I didn't like to think that he thought of me like that. Disrespectful. I'm not a prude by any means but I do want a bit of wooing, I want to feel I trust a man before getting into bed with him, and I would like something that is more than just about sex. The sex isn't the highest thing on my list of priorities. I'm peri menopausal you know

at that profile! Now you have a glimpse of what is on offer in my area! If it's not on Crimewatch, it's on POF!

I do hope we aren't looking for the unobtainable but I will happily stay single rather than settle.