Time wasters need not apply, Soul Soothers come hither Dating Chat Part 11

[hatesponge]

Ta-da! Think this is the first one I've started.

I am still feeling somewhat feisty. Told my team off at work for being too noisy and was generally stroppy. Might have to go and start a row in AIBU or something!

So, dating, as you were etc

Not forgetting of course that I have a second date at the weekend!

I get to meet people. Maybe its cos I just ask. Or they do and I am Luke sure why not.

I will be the same height as him in those shoes!

Am not pinning all my hopes on the Barbour. I have put my profile back on POF. A mere 2 messages, both from men who have been thoroughly thumped by the ugly stick. Lucky me!

Take a pic of you in a dress with a bit of cleavage, then you get messages. It worked for me.

Get thee over to IE. More messages to read, more men to block! But at least you get to see the odd cock normal one.

I wish for a 6 footer too. I'm 5ft 9 and a half so in heels am pretty tall. There's a lot of short men on POF!

Are you going to meet The Boss? Please do, I have a good feeling about him and you, I really do, yes I do.

Damn it! They are getting shorter! Just had a message from a 5ft Fiver! I would be able to fit him in my handbag! Imagine how he and me would look walking hand in hand down the promenade!

Time there's a lot of short men everywhere! For some reason they always gravitate to me. In my clubbing days my 5 foot nothing friends used to get all the 6 footers, while I got all the ones under 5'9. I used to wear stupidly high shoes then too, so was always same height/taller than them

I will meet the Boss at some point, although I have no expectations of anything (other than hopefully a job offer, which given that I was at work til 8pm tonight - and hate my current job - may be no bad thing!)

MLM, I have dress/cleavage pic already but seems to make no difference!

Possibly the fact I'm actually for once using my real age is the problem

Libby, yes it is. I love them too! Finding someone you actually want to be more than friends with....that's the real problem isn't it

The comments about height had me laughing out loud - thank goodness is not just me! And yep, the pint-size ones tend to come my direction too.

Time - like your idea about the singles club at local Sainsbury's. I might approach my local Waitrose with that suggestion (once a penniless snob, always a penniless snob

Latest plan: host a get-together and purposely accidently invite male acquaintance with lots of local male friends. Then accidently let said male know that desperate keen to have as many as possible a few dates with as many hot males as possible with sensitive male soul... Not that I am over engineering or anything

We have no Waitrose local to us Stella, we have an Aldi, a Morrisons, a Sainsburys and a penioners Marks and Spencers food hall. I figured Sainsburys might be the best bet for a singles night out of that lot!

I like the idea of an -engineered organised get together. Trouble is I have no male acquaintance's to manipulate-- invite. School mums are my limit, so that means more Avon than Ann Summers.

Sponge You have my sympathies. I would love a tall man, just for a change. I hope the offer of a job is forthcoming from The Boss. You will have to use some of this assertiveness on him, demand he employ you

Well despite cancelling our date, Mr FridayNight has been texting me all day but I've been a little "delayed" in replies. His texts are odd, asking me what my favourite flavour of crisps are and do I like Sci Fi films - I'm starting to think he's more interested in texting than meeting.

Chicken I'd bin him off! If he's too ill for a date he's too ill to be texting! Crisps and crap film talk...you can do better :)

What is it with POF? Have trawled through what feels like every late 30s man in SE London. Mostly quite horrfyingly unattractive. About 1 in 10 has a half decent profile pic, but it then becomes clear from the other 4 photos that was either him circa 2001, or after extensive photoshopping .

Yep, I'm having the same problem sponge, I'm already fed up with it. Don't you find it amazing how the main profile pic can show someone quite attractive but when you go to look at the rest, well, nose curling is an understatement. How can one face have so many looks?

Time it is shocking. Almost as shocking as the fact I have only had 4 messages in the last 2 days [shocking] and all of those from fuglies. Where are all the attractive men who should be messaging me?!

that obvs should have been a .

Time, would you mind having a look at my POF profile please? It seems fine to me, but no harm in a second opinion :)

Course I will look sponge, no trouble at all Will you inbox me your username?

And I totally agree re your first post. I'm most put out at all the fuglies I'm attracting. Maybe there are no good looking one's left? Or maybe we are just too damned fussy but I'm still not lowering my standards

I've PM'd you :)

I agree, NO lowering of standards

Nothing wrong with your profile at all!

It's not us, it's them!! It's the men!!

mlm - how did it go?

post - has he asked you out again yet?

and its ALWAYS then men :) thats the law

sponge - sorry about barbour - seems he was all talk, absolutley dont chase him, you are way better than that. His loss. I probably wouldnt repond to any other texts now either, because hes kind of messed you about a bit now :( git. Exciting about the boss. meet him, something good may come oof it

chicken - like the others have said, i wouldnt bother replying either, especially when you have other resevations about him.

i dont tend to have height issues, everyone is over 5'10 min, which is fine... ive found a lot of tall men have a thing for short women, which tend to work well for me being 5'2.5 :)

anyway - im pissed off. The builder guy kept texting and basically i relented and agreed to coffee sat, which he was then ' then ill come round in the evening with wine' and he kept going on and on, then hetext me to tell me he was going out and then the drunken texts started a few hours after, i got a series of 10 texts between 2am and 3am - ive sent you a picture, did you get it, why arent you replying, hello, are you there, oh, you dont like me..etc.. et..

He has now totally blown it, who the hell texts someone they havent met at that time?

I have not repsonded.. but can any of youi come up with some witty and cutting reply to let him know that if it wasnt all over, it is now?

and thats how youi go from 5 dates to 2, or possibly even 1.. because the second isnt until next weekend.

honestly, is it meant to be so hard?

watch if we didn't have such good standards it wouldn't be hard, it would be a doddle because we would accept any old shit. We would be hanging on to each and every text, waking in the middle of the night to reply to drunken texts and meeting up with men who didn't contact us often enough and gave us knots in our stomach. Dating would be a piece of cake if we settled for any trash that came our way.

It's difficult because we won't tolerate anything less than we deserve, because if we do accept the dross at this early stage, we are setting ourselves up for relationships that are less than we deserve. If a man is unable to communicate effectively so early on in the proceedings, if he makes you frown rather than smile, then he honestly is not worth your time or effort.

I wouldn't even bother replying to the builder. He isn't worth the price of a text!

i know you are absolutley right. its just exhaspberating, it really is.

Ive brought myself a juilan star handbag in the debenhams sale by means of compensation - 70% :)

Ooh lovely! Now, that is money much better spent!

And yes, it is exasperating, but that's because we are dealing with inadequate material. It's like trying to fit a round peg in a square hole, we know deep down it will never fit but because we want it to we continue trying in the hope that it might just happen. All that really happens is that the round peg gets worn down. Just like us

tell me about it, got one for my mother as well, for her birthday ) not the same one, obviously) but shes going to think thats a fab present, and i might give my one to my sister if its a bit too blingy for me, julian star stuff can sometimes be...

why are there so many crap men on dating websites then? are there that many crap women too?

date number 5 is phoning me again tonight, he text to see if that was ok and if i was avaliable for a phone call - which was nice i thought. So, thats maybe something positive at least, as well as the handbag :)