How to kick start my relationship with my wife?

[CptCaveman]

Help mumsneters I'm a married man of over 10 years with two young boys and my relationship with my wife has evapourated! I think I switched off after the 2nd child as we both put so much into our children.

I need to put more energy into our relationship and less so into the children.

My wife says that she needs to be cherished, loved and nurchured.

What are you top 5 ways of feeling cherished, loved and nurchured?

OMG AF reads Marian Keyes ("feathery strokery")

hehe
beware the "feathery stroker"

Now ladies please.. what would the Daily Mail say about you if they read that last comment!???LOL!

meh to The Daily Mail

they already think we are a nest of vipers

If Mrs Caveman reads Marian, don't do the feathery stroking. Also, I think The Fail already has an, erm, opinion about us......

Oh goodee. Was worried about Marian. Hope she's feeling better.

has Marian been poorly ?

I have only read page one.

I am horribly discomfitted by the stroking. YEUCCH

Yes poor Marian has been quite down of late.

She's much better now.

Her books are the only ones of that type I enjoy.

Maybe postponed though due to baking lots

Marian has struggled with baad depression for about 2 years now. She's been quite open about it. I think she's great. I bet she's a MNetter

I hope so, she belongs here.

YY to the baking.

Marian Keyes should be a mumsnetter

In fact, I might be her

MK would not kick asses in quite the same way as yow AF.

Her answer would be "Dump the bollix"

it's a gentle push

'Just an update AF,Fairenuff etc so went home bouyed by all the advice and gave her a big hug and kiss and said i missed her and the boys and sked her how her day was! There no problems I can do it.. and that kick started a good evening. She kind of looked at me a bit bemused but pleased. Did the washing up and put the boys to bed after doing homework etc( which I normally if I'm home early) .So generally a better atmosphere all round. No chance to try any feathery stroking Fairenuff as the footy was on and she was busy as she put it "Phaffing" upstairs!
and so a short Cuddle in bed ( I did offer a massage but was declined) before sleep.'

There will be a thread soon 'My husband has started acting all weird'

She'll describe your behaviour.

She'll be advised you're having an affair and to leave you.

gosh, truck , who rattled your cage

did you forget the and the ?

or did you leave them at the door with your manners and sense of humour ?

It was a joke. I thought you'd all get it.

I don't do emoticons. It's soooo Netmums.

oh, well thank goodness for that

[ grin ] without the spaces...it can make a world of difference

Sorry, truck, there has been a fair bit of sniping around in the last couple of days so perhaps I need to re-tune my sense of humour ...

I assumed there was a full-moon coming or
MN's have somehow started to sync their monthly cycles.

But I'd never post anything like that as it would be offensive.

Sounds like what you're really asking how you can get your wife to have more sex with you...

don't start with the "are you on your period or summat?" bollix

I have just checked though and it is a full-moon tonight.

Spooky.