How to kick start my relationship with my wife?

[CptCaveman]

Help mumsneters I'm a married man of over 10 years with two young boys and my relationship with my wife has evapourated! I think I switched off after the 2nd child as we both put so much into our children.

I need to put more energy into our relationship and less so into the children.

My wife says that she needs to be cherished, loved and nurchured.

What are you top 5 ways of feeling cherished, loved and nurchured?

this is about sex then, yes?

So YuleingFanjo, you keep asking "is it about sex then, yes" . Are you a closet therapist? Well I suppose it is. My wife feels that we are no longer close and that she dosn't feel loved, or cherished by me so we have become less close and less intimate. I think we have become less appriciative of each other and just take each other for granted. We or I just seem to be stuck in a rut and so i want to do something about it. Its been really good to hear of all the simple things that can be done, that can mean so much but have actually been forgotten.

how are things today, Cpt ?