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Original poster

Is a snog considered being unfaithful in a long term relationship?

153 replies

waitingfornaru · 05/12/2011 17:08

Or not?

OP posts:
loserface · 05/12/2011 17:09

Very much so IMO

brandysoakedbitch · 05/12/2011 17:09

yes you know it is

Scoundrel · 05/12/2011 17:10

You're getting your jollies from another person, so yes! A snog is sexual.

MrsCampbellBlack · 05/12/2011 17:10

Umm of course

Original poster
waitingfornaru · 05/12/2011 17:10

Brandy, I don't, otherwise I wouldn't ask Hmm

OP posts:
Original poster
waitingfornaru · 05/12/2011 17:10

I wish I was Scoundrel :D It's not me unfortunately!

OP posts:
grumplestilskin · 05/12/2011 17:12

yes of course it is, whether one snog is a deal breaker is a different question

Kayano · 05/12/2011 17:13

I would say yes, a snog
Is different from a quick peck on the lips

AbbyAbsinthe · 05/12/2011 17:17

I would certainly consider it cheating. But I wouldn't end the relationship over it, unless there was other stuff going on.

Taghain · 05/12/2011 17:20

It depends upon the rules in the relationship. I'd say it's a lapse and a step on the road to infidelity, but not being unfaithful in itself.
Did the chap get a stiffie?

YuleingFanjo · 05/12/2011 17:22

yes.

Original poster
waitingfornaru · 05/12/2011 17:29

Taghain, I wouldn't know and I ain't asking!

This isn't relating to me but someone very close to me!

OP posts:
seeker · 05/12/2011 17:30

Yes of course!

ClarryKitten · 05/12/2011 17:34

what a bunch of prudes...i feel sorry for their husbands!

I don't think a friendly snog is a mark of infidelity. a meaningful, secret snog with a woman who he really likes/loves is obviously cheating but a drunken friendly/pity festive snog is perfectly fine.

Watch the Darling Buds of May - Pa Larkin was forever snogging his neighbours but it didn't matter because it was blatantly obvious how much he loved Ma and how little the snog meant.

MrsCampbellBlack · 05/12/2011 17:35

Oh yes we're all prudes Hmm

ICanTuckMyBoobsInMyPockets · 05/12/2011 17:37

Definitely.

SuziQuattro · 05/12/2011 17:39

OP, just who are you trying to kid ? Yourself ?

You know it's out of order and is the first step to the end of a relationship. Just put yourself in your partners shoes for a second and grow up a little.

As for the Darling Buds of May Clarry, that's where people here let themselves down here on this forum.
TV and the internet are not real, relationships, loyalty, honesty and feelings are !

cat64 · 05/12/2011 17:40

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AWimbaAllTheWay · 05/12/2011 17:42

Yes.

Xmasbaby11 · 05/12/2011 17:42

Hell yes.

natashakaplinkyplop · 05/12/2011 17:44

Yes.

Sariah · 05/12/2011 17:44

Yes, if it was him, not necessarily if it was me Xmas Wink

FetchezLaVache · 05/12/2011 17:45

Anything your partner would not be happy about between you and another person is overstepping the line, I reckon.

fluffytowels · 05/12/2011 17:46

Definitely.

WTF is a friendly snog? Confused.

My bar would be set at 'would I allow my partner to see this'.

If not, then you shouldn't do it.

Therefore, flirting- fine. Maybe bit of friendly affection. Fine.

Snog? Not on your Nellie.

AWimbaAllTheWay · 05/12/2011 17:46

Clarry, if I remember rightly Pa Larkin was also into tax evasion, doesn't make it right.